AIBU to wear a white print dress to my brother’s wedding & dressing my DD in white too?

[brillfrill]

I plan to wear a white dress with a nature print on it for my brother’s wedding in August. Picked it out with DM, she thinks it’s definitely fine. The thing is my toddler DD will also be wearing a white. Do you think anyone would take offence? I’ve added a picture of a similar dress on this thread because I don’t want the actual one on here if I wear it.

Wondering what you think?

Run it past the bride?

Gorgeous

It's not remotely bridal.
And I'm sure a toddler in white will be fine.

I think your dress is fine. It's got plenty colour about it. It's lovely.

I wouldn't dress your dd in white. People will think you're trying to insert her into the wedding party as a bridesmaid or flower girl.

The accent colour on the dress is more obvious than the base colour.

Dont wear white neans dont wear a long white gown. For children... dont look like a flower girl. (Esp for aclose family member who doesnt want a flower girl)

Toddler in white might look like a flower girl. Which may or may not be a problem ?
ask your brother and the wife to be!

It isn't bridal at all wear it . What is your Dds dress like it might be too "bridesmaidy:

Like @Chlorpool , I always thought the rule was that you should never wear anything which might lead you to be mistaken for the bride. But this has somehow morphed into “no white or cream”, I think because people make a bigger deal about photos. But I would say that was a floral dress rather than a “white” one. It’s very nice.

The dress is fine for a wedding but if you are doubting yourself, check with bride/groom.

Are they having flower girls? Not sure about your 4 year old in a white dress if she isn’t a flower girl/bridesmaid.

Not bridal at all, so it’s fine.

But the dress itself isn’t that nice. I know it’s not the same dress but as sister of the groom, I would think you should wear something nicer.

This!

Plus not black shoes.

So relieved with your comments. To be clear the dress does not have a floral pattern but I would say the colour split white/pattern is similar to the pic I posted.

Why when you have all the colours in the world to choose from, do people (especially MILs and SILs to be...) suddenly HAVE to wear white? It does feel intentional and I think you should pick something else.

It’s a work dress really. Ok but not very special. DD in white isn’t ok if she’s no role in the wedding. You are making her look like she should! So she needs a floral dress or pink? White isn’t suitable.

They’re not having flower girls

Don’t get the comments saying it’s not nice enough, what sort of dress should I be wearing then?

It’s not white and it doesn’t look like a wedding dress. It’s a summer orange pattered patterned dress ideal for a wedding or garden party. My mother called them tea dresses.

I think people mean its too informal. The sort of thing you might wear to the pub on a summers evening.

Maybe the actual dress is smarter. Or maybe the wedding is less formal ?

I wore a white dress as a 5 year old bridesmaid. So i can understand with other comments that your DD might be mistaken for a flower girl.

the invite says formal wedding clothes

Check with the bride and groom.

Personally, I just don't think it's necessary to wear something that has such a lot of white in it when you have every other colour on the spectrum available to you. Wearing something with a white background and sparse pattern and dressing your daughter in white as well could come across as passive aggressive in other guests' eyes or - depending on your relationship with your future SIL and brother - to the bride and groom.

I think it's all fine - the colour ratio, the style, the little girl in white. You know your family, the kind of style the wedding will be, the type of person your future SIL is etc. If you think any close family including SIL would have an issue then you should adapt as family relationships are worth more (even if you think their opinion is nonsense!). Only you know them not a bunch of randoms on Mumsnet.

Something glamorous. Like these two.

https://clubllondon.com/products/marlo-powder-blue-poppy-print-maxi-dress-with-ruched-detail-cl136566427?variant=55354266845557&currency=GBP&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=google%2Bshopping&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23148500531&gbraid=0AAAAADCHewI_54oUXGYEk4LtYALwzKaU7&gclid=Cj0KCQjw2_TQBhCnARIsAF3-XhwnBGxRwWA4beHFa1vPDiZj6HH7fsDOYZnR6Q8euXmrzPK-mkhbdakaAiPAEALw_wcB

or

clubllondon.com/products/nila-pink-porcelain-print-cowl-neck-midi-dress-with-plisse-skirt-cl135543130?variant=53619887800693&currency=GBP&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=google%2Bshopping&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23148500531&gclid=Cj0KCQjw_vnQBhCxARIsADcZyxIcCpgSrIkEAJB1-8cu-bo_SkiiDnQDwHLaDPnTuL390Gs8daCif90aAhDfEALw_wcB

I think.it is a bit informal for a wedding. Fine if just for the evening 'do"