AIBU to wear a white print dress to my brother’s wedding & dressing my DD in white too?

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I plan to wear a white dress with a nature print on it for my brother’s wedding in August. Picked it out with DM, she thinks it’s definitely fine. The thing is my toddler DD will also be wearing a white. Do you think anyone would take offence? I’ve added a picture of a similar dress on this thread because I don’t want the actual one on here if I wear it.

Wondering what you think?

There’s nothing wrong with the dress at all. It’s lovely. Ignore those who say it’s not formal enough.

Something a little more glamourous? I'd wear that dress to work.

It's not bridal or white. Wear it.

For your daughter white is fine but don't try to make her look like a stealth bridesmaid or flower girl.

Of all the colours in all the world why would you choose white when you don’t have to? It’s not about being mistaken for the bride. It’s about letting the bride shine on her wedding day. Wearing white just looks like you’re trying to compete with her, or trying to take attention from her. Nobody is going to mistake you for the bride, obviously, but it does look like you’re trying to get on on the act, especially when you’re dressing your DD in white when she’s not a bridesmaid.

It could well be formal enough. It very much depends upon how you feel in it, whether you've got great shoes/a nice jacket or accessories picking out the key colour. If you feel smart, you will look smart . . .

Your dress is not at all bridal. Go for it. All I cared about was that my guests were comfortable and looked good. I know that the bridezillas of MN may disagree.

The dress you’ve posted imo is very everyday, it doesn’t look anything special/different and is casual. Not wearing white means that - a completely white bridal style dress not just a dress with white in it.

Theres some gorgeous dresses out there, many sites having ‘weddding guest’ options.

Also don’t dress your DD so she looks like a flower girl, very bad form.

It’s so hard to say without seeing the actual dress you’re planning on, but I wouldn’t wear the one you’ve posted no. I just avoid white entirely for weddings. Aren’t there other colours / prints in the same style? As a general rule I always say if you’re doubting yourself, don’t do it.

Everyone has different tastes. And it is easy to dress down a smart dress, and dress up a more informal dress with accessories, makeup etc. If you post an outfit online, you will get every kind of opinion. But if you feel good then that’s what matters (within limits, no bikinis at a funeral etc!).

Can't wait to see your new SILs thread after the wedding..."SIL wore white to my wedding AND dressed DN like a flower girl"

As people said...you have all other colours to choose from, you wearing a white background is entirely innocent from your view however depending on what SIL etc are like it could look very passive aggressive etc especially dressing your daughter in white when they have said no to flower girls.

I would honestly save the potential grief and wear something else without white on it.

A young girl in a white dress at a wedding will always look like a bridesmaid/flower girl so unless that's your intention, I'd pick a different colour.

I think the dress for you is a bit meh. I'd think a predominantly white dress when accompanying a small child to a wedding is a brave move because of the risk of stains!

The dress you posted for colour comparison with your actual dress is fine to wear to a wedding.
It isn't very formal, but it's perfectly acceptable wedding wear.
Maybe you're not comfortable wearing very formal dresses, or something more 'glamorous' as a PP suggested, and that's fine.

I don't think your daughter should wear a white dress, as it could appear that you're trying to make her look like a bridesmaid.
I'd pick a pretty summer dress for her that she's going to be comfortable wearing all day.
If you know what colour any actual bridesmaids will be wearing, I would avoid that.

Ask the bride. Someone close to me was struggling to get the right outfit and literally chose something the same colour as my dress, but personally I didn't mind.

Do you think anyone would take offence?

Yes.

Your daughter will make it look like they have a flower girl who refused to do the job on the day. It's not rocket science - just don't wear white to a wedding. There's a whole rainbow out there. Wear anything else.

Dress is very informal. I personally wouldn’t wear it to a wedding let alone a wedding of a close family member. I think the ratio of colour to white is okay. As others have said, I would check with the bride though. You literally have 100’s of other colours to choose from so you might be best to scrap the white altogether.
Your daughter in white? I think this is way too far, but again check with the bride. It seems like you’re inserting her into a role they’re not having.

You sound a bit, well, defiant. I don't know why you're asking here: your OP states you "will" be dressing your DD in white (whyyyyyyy???) and you "will" be wearing a white dress with a pattern print.

Surely, it's not too hard to find a different colour for both you & your daughter.

Dress is fine.
White is a bold choice for a toddler - mine would have had stains down it before the ceremony was even half done!

Agree that the dress is too informal giving you are the sister of the groom. Need to see DDs dress before passing judgement..

OP I’d ask the bride about your DDs dress but I’m sure it will be fine and you will both look lovely. Take no notice of some of the nasty comments on here. That looks nothing like a work dress and when you have your hair and make up done it will all come together and you will look great and the style of dress looks comfortable if you are chasing a toddler about during the day.

That dress is completely appropriate wedding wear. The people saying it's an office dress and too informal are really odd. It's clearly a summer party type dress. Somewhere this idea that wedding guests should dress like they are heading to an evening awards dinner crept in and it's bizarre.

Toddler in white is fine. Even if they were having flower girls they'd be unlikely to be in white.

Dress you might get away with. dressing your daughter in a white dress when there aren't any flower girls etc? Seriously pass agg!

The ‘no white’ thing is getting silly. The vast majority of dresses in the shops that are wedding suitable this (and every) summer in the U.K. have some white on them as background or accent.

Sure - you want to avoid long pure white/ cream dress and tiara ( like Orla’s mum in Derry Girls 😁) but no one is going to mistake you for a bride or take offence (unless looking to do so) if you’re in a floral with white / polka dot dress!

Your dress is fine.

Do not dress your DD in white. You’ll look crazed and like you want her to be flower girl

I always find it bizarre when people wear white to a wedding. There’s so many colours, it gives the impression you want the attention on you imo. Even if the bride says nothing I bet other guests will find it odd.

So maybe ask them because your DD wearing white will definitely look like a flower girl.