AIBU not to answer the door about the neighbour's fence?

[Liesmorelies]

I don't think I am BU but I feel a bit uneasy about this for some reason.

I came in from a lunch out about an hour ago and went upstairs to open the curtains in my bedroom - the room is south facing so I have been keeping the curtains drawn and wanted to let some cool evening air in before bed tonight. When I opened the curtain my neighbour, who lives at a right angle to me, was in her back garden with someone and was pointing at my house at the moment I opened the curtain. It was a little awkward and we made brief eye contact so I immediately looked away.

I then came downstairs and shortly after there was a knock at the door. I ignored it and it was repeated a couple of times. I could see through the slatted blinds that it was two men. They walked up the drive and paused, then came back down and knocked again a couple of times before finally giving up and going.

I'm sure it was the same neighbour (her partner) who was pointing at my house. There is a fence that blew down a couple of months ago and the man came round to nail it up shortly after it fell as they have a dog. He said it would need replacing and I thought to myself I would probably offer to pay halves though I didn't say anything as I didn't want to commit myself and it was a week night and I was cooking dinner. I don't care about the fence as I have no dog and there is a bush there that gives privacy. I know from my deeds that I'm not responsible but I'm happy to pay halves if it's a reasonable price and they do all the work. But I don't want to discuss it tonight as I've had a bit to drink and it's not urgent to me. I also don't like that they were pointing at my house and were persistent in knocking. AIBU not to have answered?

Because most people would have the manners to.

No man is an island - except for Liesmorelies 😂.

I’ve read some batshit things on here over the last 15 years but “I didn’t like them pointing at my house” is on another level 😂. OP doesn’t even sound drunk!

I wouldn’t have opened my door either. They could put a note through. It’s not always convenient to speak to others when they want. Especially if you’d had a drink.
dint beat yourself up. They’ll come back if it’s important or put a note through.

Why would yoy pay half if the fence is not your responsibility?

To be neighbourly!

From someone who won’t open the door 😆

I won't open the door tonight.

OP, yanbu.
You didn't want to answer your door, your choice.
I wouldn't offer anything at all.
Its their fence, their responsibility.
If they show you figures, think about it.
But do not offer straight off.

Are you sure you didn't offer them money for the fence before?

I don't get why you would just assume it would be neighborly to offer half towards a fence that isn't yours but not answer the door to tell them this?

It's ok to not answer the door but you seem to have narrated a whole conversation about exactly what it was about, without knowing.

The whole situation is odd, you opened your curtains and looked at them just as they was looking at you but then didn't answer the door but know it must be about the fence, but you've not spoken to them about it other than to let them in to fix it before?

YABcompletelyU

I think it is just weird to not open your door generally, but in this particular case, they knew you were in (and awake); you knew that they knew you were in and awake. Obviously they assumed you hadn't heard the first couple of times. Then maybe they thought - perhaps she went to the toilet or something, we'll give her a minute, then knock again. It wouldn't occur to any normal, sane person to hide in their own house, from a neighbour who you've never had any disagreement with or felt threatened by, who knows you are in.

People congratulating themselves on answering the door - has there never ever been a time when you didn't for some reason?

I mean, I don't think anyone is "congratulating" themselves, but the only time I've not opened the door when I've heard it is if I am in the bath. Which you weren't.

they knew you were in (and awake); you knew that they knew you were in and awake.

Not really - they saw me in my bedroom so it was quite likely I had gone to sleep/had a bath or shower in the 5 or so minutes between seeing me and knocking the door.

Not really.
Unless you are the local exhibitionist.
Why would you go into your bedroom, and then open the curtains if you were getting undressed to have a bath or shower ?

It also seems a pretty unlikely scenario that you were getting into bed at 7.30 in the evening, particularly starting that by - once again - opening curtains that were originally shut.

Not unreasonable at all. You're under no obligation to open the door.

Ignore all the nasty comments.

This surely isn’t meant to be in AIBU as the OP doesn’t see anything wrong with her behaviour 😆😆😆

You sound very paranoid OP.....

I'd have answered it and told them yes, they could mend the fence tomorrow, they wouldn't be disturbing me, but no I wouldn't pay half as the fence is theirs.

I find the sooner you answer doors, the sooner they go away.

Isn't it just!😂

My thoughts exactly. God forbid you should answer your own door.
Are people really this fucking wet??

I would have answered the fucking door.
Why didn't you??

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Agree.

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This thread is hilarious, for all the wrong reasons!

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how’s the head this morning op?