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Should 50/50 custody be the default?

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RatsRatsRatss · 28/05/2026 20:20

What would you say were the reasons a parent doesn’t see much of their child after separation and divorce? Why do you think this happens?

Would you judge a parent who doesn’t see much of their kid?

Do you believe (abuse/neglect/deadbeat parents) aside that the default after divorce should be 50/50 custody? Should a child have a right to a relationship with both parents after separation?

interested to hear what everyone’s opinions are

OP posts:
Iwannaeatapasty · 30/05/2026 08:00

I always see 50:50 as more for the parents than the child.

As an adult, how many of us would like to swap between homes each week? I wouldn’t, it would be awful.

Theunamedcat · 30/05/2026 18:51

YourPoliteTurtle · 29/05/2026 13:44

and your point is?

YOUR children not having any contact with their dad has nothing to do with my point.

It doesn't mean that many kids don't move with their dads, sometimes only because their mum refusing to move on and still holding on anger and bitterness against an ex she split up with years ago is getting tiring.

Bitter baby mother trope is getting boring I moved on just not with another man my kids have disabilities its not been easy for me to have relationships because of this had my ex had the children ever I might have been able too he remarried easily he didn't have the kids to deal with and accommodate

I bumped into my ex today said hello he said hello to me ignored his child standing right next to me its been so long since said child had seen his dad he didn't realise thats who it was but still "bitter baby mothers" are the issue 🙄

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