How would you feel if your husband/partner said this to you?

[Bananatoastie1]

"I think people probably do look at us and wonder what is he doing with her"

In a he could do better way, how would that make you feel?

I think i would say i can do better and dump him... disgusting comment

"Fuck you"

Well it could mean you are too good for him?

It 100% wasn't that way round.

Yes it could but the OP has explained that that isn’t the way he meant it.

I just wouldn’t be able to get over that, @Bananatoastie1. The cruelty, the ego on him. What was the context? Not that anything could make it okay as far as I’m concerned.

I’d feel like I had a sore shoulder after having to dig out a new patio to bury him under.

I’m sorry he said that to you. It must have really hurt. Did you respond?

I’d ask him “why?” “Why do you think people think that about us?” I’d want him to explain his reasonings.

That's rough, it must have been upsetting to hear that. I'm not sure how I would react to be honest, I would be hurt for sure.

I’d end a relationship over a comment like that. How dare he!

Was he joking? Are you equally matched?

Would be game over.

I think I’d probably feel ‘newly single’….

I think k it would be the end for me, too. It implies he’s strutting around thinking he’s done you one huge favour.
Were you arguing?

Do you think he is right?

I don’t think it matters whether they are “equally matched” really. It’s his perception of his superiority.

That he’s better looking than you 🤷🏼‍♀️

It’s awful that people are actually asking @Bananatoastie1 to rate her attractiveness. I’m sure we all wondered a little but wouldn’t want to kick someone when they’re down. She must be feeling thoroughly cut up.

I would feel it was time for a new partner/husband.

The question should be, after he’s said that: what’s she doing with him?

It was a while ago now, over a year, but I have never seemed to shake it off. It wasn't even an argument it was more like he was trying to tell me I was lucky to have him.

I’d think he was a dick, and realise that I could deserve much, much better than him.

I think if someone is in love with you, they think ‘ wow, I get to be with her!!!!!!’.

I’m not sure anything else is worth the bother.

@Bananatoastie1 Is he your dh or a dp? Do you want to leave?

I would feel it’s time to be single.