How would you feel if your husband/partner said this to you?

[Bananatoastie1]

"I think people probably do look at us and wonder what is he doing with her"

In a he could do better way, how would that make you feel?

Absolutely wasn't over reacting. My DP has disabilities, if/when someone has suggested that he was lucky to have me, I've put them straight. I'm polite when they just mean he should appreciate me. I think that he had checked out of the relationship at that point and was finding reasons to end things. What does the supermodel, he is now with, have to say?

😂😂 sorry this made me giggle

I was stuck in an abusive relationship with my ex for years. He’s no great catch but would negatively compare me to all his exes physically and ignore me to fall over women he found sexually attractive. He just wanted to make me feel bad.

He hated it when people would question why I was with him and say I was out of his league (not just based on physical attractiveness but intellectual compatibility as I was a PhD candidate) and would cry.

He was a shit. He constantly implied I wasn't good enough and he could do better. No he couldn’t - he’s a liar and a cheat. He’s just a con man. So glad to have escaped that dynamic.

OP you need to believe in your own worth as a person and a mother.

I’d feel I’d want to read your previous threads about DH

I would probably tell him to go fuck himself and jog on and find one of those people then.

Horrible thing to say. Glad you’ve got rid.

So glad he’s an ex now. I would try and not dwell on this too much. He sounds like a very nasty Man and you are much better off without him

It's deeper than a throwaway comment, isn't it?! It's his whole view of you. So I would have to re-think the relationship.

Honestly I’d piss myself laughing and tell him people probably wonder what I’m doing with that miserable prick!

Gah! He fancies himself doesn’t he?!

I have no self esteem issues with my looks at all, but for me the character of someone to suggest such a thing would be total Ick and I would be so done.

He wouldn't be good enough for me.
Delighted to read you are divorcing the arsehole.
He's no loss to you.

Yeah I agree. So when I’ve been negged the insult didn’t actually get to me, I was just disgusted at the fact their intention was to bring me down.

It tells me a lot about how they feel about me and how they feel about themselves and just generally what kind of person they are.

I'd say yes that's right because I'm way above your league!

I think this is so rude & I really hate this culture of 'he/she is punching above her weight' (meaning he/she is better looking than you. So bloody what? I've met plenty of supposedly attractive who are not actually very nice. Surely we want our partner to be loving, loyal, kind, funny, supportive etc- this is what keeps relationships going through tough times rather than ' she's got a nice figure'. Sorry you've experienced this x

I've wondered that about a person of interest many times and I'm sure so have his family what the hell he's doing with her especially given he's not happy just seeing a photo of them together makes me cringe they are laughing stock

Definitely not over reacting. Glad to read you’re divorcing his ungrateful ass.

Kind wishes OP

Yea, that, and the fxxking cheek of them thinking that it would fly with me.😁

Never EVER go back to this arsehole! Congratulations for getting rid 😍

I’d always say dh was the better looking when we got together. Not sure how I’d feel if he agreed!

Sounds like he's conscious of the fact your too good for him and putting you in your place so to speak to knock your confidence.BIG RED FLAG,RUN.

What an absolutely awful thing to say, designed to knock your confidence and keep you down.
Well rid of him.
Just keep an eye that he doesn’t do this to your daughter if you have one.

You said it’s been a year since he said that?The correct question is why on earth you are still with him? Have some self respect and dump him. I don’t care if he says he was joking. He’s a jerk and probably emotionally abusive in other ways too. Hit the road, Jack, and don’t you come back no more…

He sounds like an arrogant narcissist and I suspect this comment is the least of your worries. I'd be willing to bet he puts you down in other ways and is not a loving suppportive partner. I doubt most people would put up with this sort of treatment.

I would feel insulted and think he was a conceited prick. He thinks he’s better than you and deserves better. Does he have a habit of putting you down ? I think once contempt enters a relationship it’s the beginning of the end.

RTFT.