How would you feel if your husband/partner said this to you?

[Bananatoastie1]

"I think people probably do look at us and wonder what is he doing with her"

In a he could do better way, how would that make you feel?

Well, to me, that comment was a deliberate attempt to provoke you, not something that was an actual truth...I.e., he's not too good for you. Was he having an affair by any chance. It sounds like a man who has been told by some other woman (or man) that he's gorgeous and they wouldn't have pictured you as his wife jusy to flatter him and start an affair.

In my mind there's no other reason he would say something like that unless he was trying to get you so upset that you would leave him to make it easier for him.........unless of course someone told him that he was punching above his weight having a lovely lady like you!

You are letting him live rent free in your head. Have you done anything since you separated that you enjoy that makes you feel good? Join a Can't Sing Choir ( unless you can sing and then just join a choir), do a course, train for something that will earn you good money. Don't let a man ( although I hesitate to call him that) who was just using comments to try to make you lose confidence do this to you. Know your worth and be the queen he was trying to dethrone.

You’re separating / divorcing soclearly it was said to be nasty and hurt you a year ago. It’s meaningless And has no Connection to Reality. Don’t take it to heart.

People say all sorts of things when they’re wanting to hurt somebody. It’s ridiculous and frankly, a very juvenile attack on somebody he wanted to hurt. Please give it no more headspace. It’s nothing more than ‘Your mother is ugly and you smell’ Type of insult.

Thank goodness you’re moving on from this man. I couldn’t imagine living with somebody this immature and nasty. The sort of person that spitefully says mean things isn’t somebody I would give any Creedence to. Think about it, In reality, why would anybody look at the two of you with his nasty juvenile and vindictive character and think he was better than anyone? And purely physically, I very much doubt he some Greek God and you are Quasimodo.

No, no, he’s just a dick

Right! I was annoyed wondering how they had misread me so badly that they thought that I’d tolerate that shit 😆

OP, I’m curious - who initiated the divorce? And has he mentioned any love interests since you agreed to separate?

IME sometimes men are cowards about breaking up. So what they will do is treat a woman so poorly that she calls time on the relationship. I don’t know why they think that’s any better than just saying they want to break up , but it’s what many do.

It’s normally the other way around with so many guys punching above their weight for reasons unknown.

But either way, it’s a horribly unpleasant comment and major red flag.