How would you feel if your husband/partner said this to you?

[Bananatoastie1]

"I think people probably do look at us and wonder what is he doing with her"

In a he could do better way, how would that make you feel?

Reading this thread, it is clear some people are horrid to their partners. Thankfully it seems like these are now mainly exes. Well done for getting rid OP. Not an over reaction at all.

So you are his Fall Back Girl? Charming.

He wouldn't be my husband/partner for a nanosecond longer.

Did you see the thread on here yesterday, about the husband who wanted to open the marriage, finding himself to be ever so attractive to women… but then it was his wife who was the one who got lots of attention, dates and sex, and he didn’t like that at all - and asked them to close the marriage again!

It made me chuckle about some men rather overestimating their appeal….

Your ex sounds horrible, OP, I’m so glad you’re moving on!

It would really depend.
Ive said something similar trying to get my husband to dress less like a tramp for an outing.

In general though, I'd think it was disrespectful and I've only said it at the end of my tether.

Instantly dump him. He sounds like an arrogant, conceited git who is not worthy of you.

That was a terrible and purposefully hurtful thing to say. He also wanted to let you know that he thinks he's better than you.

Good luck with the divorce.

Congrats on getting away from him. What a twat!

I'm delighted that your update is that you're getting divorced. Someone who has an attitude like that towards their partner, a superiority complex, is not going to treat them as well as if they believed they were lucky to have them and do everything they can to keep them. It's an arsehole thing to say and I'm glad you're getting rid.

As someone who had to spend over an hour the night before last trying to remove an embedded tick from my bum cheek, you have my sympathies!

On a practical note in regards to your delicate clothing, I believe you can bag it up and leave in the freezer for a few days as a precaution rather than a high temperature wash.

@TheresAsilverLiningInTheSkyee wrong thread? 😊

Maybe meant for here?

My husband would never say this to me EVER.

People have said this to him though, for reference I'm not bad looking but I am fat, he on the otherhand is a solid 9/10. His response has always been "what are you talking about, she's an absolute goddess."
He has never once in our 16 year relationship ever made me feel anything but beautiful.

Maybe not the wrong thread. I like the idea that op removed a tic for her bum cheek leaving that man.

Oh lovey, I am SO glad that you are going to now be free of this pathetic creature. Take time to care for yourself and I hope you have a lovely summer, my goodness you deserve it!

There's a very pleasing synchronicity 😁

That was a really cruel thing he said OP. Wishing you lots of happiness in your future without him.

Hugs. You sound lovely and clearly an amazing person given the job you do. So what if those two narcissists are still together? They sound like they deserve each other.

Trying to look at it from all angles. Has he always said things like that? If so it sounds like negging, which is a tactic used to undermine a woman's self esteem.

If this was a one off, is there a possibility he's tried to address an issue but worded it atrociously? For example have you put on 10 stone or something drastic.

Either way it's rude as fuck, but one is worse than the other.

Meh. Disagree 👆🏻.

Two words to DH one ending in ‘off’ be just as effective imho.

In your opinion, not in OP's hence posting her question, which is valid.

I gasped

I think if he was much better looking than me I might not mind, it’s probably true. But it’s immature.. lots of gorgeous men have very ordinary looking wives and it’s because they love them, so I don’t truly think the thought holds much weight.

My exh once said something like this. The weird part is, while I agree I'm
nothing special, he was 12 years older than me, not particularly attractive, earned less, had no friends, and had ED. So I'm not sure what he could have possibly been thinking was so great. Ah, to have the confidence of a mediocre white man!

I would like he was trying to humble me. Awful thing to say.

So sorry 😳

Note to self to actually use reading glasses.