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DD with friend’s family for 8 hours only ate crisps

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Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:24

My DD was invited to an activity with friends today. She ate a toasted English muffin before she left at 8.15. By the time she came back at 4pm she’d only been offered some crisps to eat. I’m grateful the family took her out (I paid for her ticket which was less than a tenner) and hosted her at their home, but I just can’t fathom not offering her some lunch.

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PoppinjayPolly · 25/05/2026 19:25

Did they have lunch and not offer her anything?

Anarchy99 · 25/05/2026 19:26

How old is she? And are you sure that’s all she had or wanted?

PonyPatter44 · 25/05/2026 19:26

Yeah, its a bit odd, but a lot of people are quite weird. Give her a big dinner, she'll be fine.

Arlanymor · 25/05/2026 19:26

Did anyone eat lunch?

Hotsaucenoketchup · 25/05/2026 19:27

Next time send her with some snacks to share?

fatandfrumpy20 · 25/05/2026 19:28

Send her with lunch? Did you expect them to pay to feed her?

Octavia64 · 25/05/2026 19:28

Are you sure she wasn’t offered lunch?

most people do eat lunch.

ThejoyofNC · 25/05/2026 19:28

Did the others not eat anything?

Did they take a picnic and she didn't like any of it?

Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:28

No one ate lunch although the parents went out for a bit, so maybe ate then? She’s 17 and we gave her a decent early dinner, so it’s not a biggy. I just can’t imagine having guests for a whole day and not offering like at least a sandwich or something.

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RS1987 · 25/05/2026 19:29

fatandfrumpy20 · 25/05/2026 19:28

Send her with lunch? Did you expect them to pay to feed her?

Of course she’d expect her child to be fed!! Would you take a child out for 8 hours and not give them lunch? Come on!

Arlanymor · 25/05/2026 19:29

Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:28

No one ate lunch although the parents went out for a bit, so maybe ate then? She’s 17 and we gave her a decent early dinner, so it’s not a biggy. I just can’t imagine having guests for a whole day and not offering like at least a sandwich or something.

Well at 17, if she was hungry, she was perfectly capable of asking if they would be eating lunch together wasn't she? Also in the heat, lots of people save their big meal for later on the day. I'm assuming she had enough liquid?

ididabigfatsmelly · 25/05/2026 19:29

I thought u meant she was a lot younger. Maybe at 17 they assumed she would say when hungry or she would ask to have something

fatandfrumpy20 · 25/05/2026 19:30

Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:28

No one ate lunch although the parents went out for a bit, so maybe ate then? She’s 17 and we gave her a decent early dinner, so it’s not a biggy. I just can’t imagine having guests for a whole day and not offering like at least a sandwich or something.

Burying the lead! She’s old enough to get herself something.

Girlmama · 25/05/2026 19:30

She's 17!!!!!!! I would fully expect my 17 year old to either take or source her own lunch while out. I thought you were going to say she was primary age!

Viviennemary · 25/05/2026 19:31

She's 17. Old enough to sort out her own lunch. If she'd been 10 or 11 yes I'd expect her to be fed.

5foot5 · 25/05/2026 19:31

Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:28

No one ate lunch although the parents went out for a bit, so maybe ate then? She’s 17 and we gave her a decent early dinner, so it’s not a biggy. I just can’t imagine having guests for a whole day and not offering like at least a sandwich or something.

Oh I thought we were talking about a small child here. Maybe they assumed a 17 year old would have means of payment with her to get her own lunch if she wanted any.

Thistooshallpass. · 25/05/2026 19:32

17 !! I tkought we were talking about a 5 year old or something . I expect the friend couldn’t be bothered to make anything so offered crisps . Teenagers are not worried about the social niceties of offering lunch and the parents went out so probably thought they are old enough to look after themselves !!

Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:33

They were out for a couple of hours first thing and then back to theirs. She had money to buy stuff so I wasn’t expecting them to pay, but to be at their home and not offer something seems odd to me. They don’t live near shops / food places so no opportunity to pop out and get something. She was fine about it, like I said I just can’t imagine having people here for a whole day and not giving them a meal.

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Favouritefruits · 25/05/2026 19:33

That’s awful! I’ve had my eldest son’s friend with us today I’ve fed him lunch and dinner, two snacks and kept him hydrated with plenty of drinks. I took them to the water park and paid! I think your DDs friends parents are mean! They have made sure she’s drank enough haven’t they?

just seen your update! She’s 17 she’s old enough to nip out and buy food!

Nofrogslegs · 25/05/2026 19:33

She’s 17. It’s a bit weird that the parents would be expected to make lunch for her. Couldn’t she have asked her friend if they were in the house or got herself something if they were out?
Suspect friend is expected just to cater for herself during the day at 17 so probably didn’t even occur to parents

watchingthishtread · 25/05/2026 19:34

The 17 year olds should have sorted their own lunch.

TheBlueKoala · 25/05/2026 19:34

Z0rr0 · 25/05/2026 19:33

They were out for a couple of hours first thing and then back to theirs. She had money to buy stuff so I wasn’t expecting them to pay, but to be at their home and not offer something seems odd to me. They don’t live near shops / food places so no opportunity to pop out and get something. She was fine about it, like I said I just can’t imagine having people here for a whole day and not giving them a meal.

She's 17 though. Why didn't she tell her friend that she was hungry?

Notmyreality · 25/05/2026 19:34

She’s 17?🤣
I thought she was 7.
At 17 she can advocate for herself don’t you think?

allthegoldicouldeat · 25/05/2026 19:34

Some people genuinely don’t seem to think about regular meals.
I’m not one of them!

somanychristmaslights · 25/05/2026 19:34

So did DD friend not eat anything all day either?