DD with friend’s family for 8 hours only ate crisps

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My DD was invited to an activity with friends today. She ate a toasted English muffin before she left at 8.15. By the time she came back at 4pm she’d only been offered some crisps to eat. I’m grateful the family took her out (I paid for her ticket which was less than a tenner) and hosted her at their home, but I just can’t fathom not offering her some lunch.

A polite kid isn't going to ask though: I imagine she was waiting to be offered.

Asking doesn't make her impolite, what an odd take on the situation.

17😂 I honestly thought we were talking about a 7 year old. Jesus OP.

What awful people. She's only 204 months old, it would have taken them seconds to cut up some grapes or puree some carrots for her. Shocking 😓

What's impolite about asking for food when you're hungry?

I agree with you its weird.
I also understand if she found it awkward to ask about food. I would have likely felt awkard in such situation way into my 20s.

Is that all she was offered or all she would eat?

I was working , cooking my Dad's tea and engaged at 17. I wouldn't call a 17yr old a child who needed to be fed .

Was she complaining about only eating crisps? My 17 year olds would make them and their friends food unless they were coming for tea and I’d do some for them too

I thought she was like 9 or 10. At 17 id have assumed she would get her own at the event or ask for something

Op, if your dd is planning on uni next year, it might be worth finding out where her cohort are at in terms in all areas in terms of living independently. It might be that she’s quite far behind in all areas and so will struggle at uni. I have been prepping my dds for independence for about a decade, there’s piles of steps!

My children at that age were left to their own devices regarding food. Would never have occurred to me to offer ,they know where the food is!

I don’t think I’d actively seek to provide food for teens that old. I’d assume they’re old enough to sort themselves out if hungry, because they are 99% of the time.

She's 17.

Tbf it IS impolite. Maybe it’s generational but the only thing I (GenX) would ask for in anyone’s house is a glass of water.

And I would find it rude if someone asked me for stuff in my house

My thoughts entirely…

I think it's bad manners not to offer guests food. Anyone who comes into your home as a friend or family member is a guest.
I would have had food ready or ensured my dc knew to feed their friend. It's poor form how they treated your dd.

Omg 17 🤣🙈 Seriously OP.

It’s odd. BUT. She’s 17. I was living by myself by then.

And she isn’t a ‘bit autistic’. She either is autistic, or not.

Genuinely - why is it impolite?

I wouldn’t have thought to make/buy food for 17 year olds unless they were staying over, I’d expect mine to make food for them all if they’re hungry.

I would have been mortified if my parents had offered my friends food at that age.

At 17 I was more than capable of cooking and making us food.

In someone else's house? - it is rude.

I wouldn’t make lunch for 17 year olds particularly, unless we were all eating.

I voted YANBU but then I read she's 17 and would like to change it to YABU!