DD with friend’s family for 8 hours only ate crisps

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My DD was invited to an activity with friends today. She ate a toasted English muffin before she left at 8.15. By the time she came back at 4pm she’d only been offered some crisps to eat. I’m grateful the family took her out (I paid for her ticket which was less than a tenner) and hosted her at their home, but I just can’t fathom not offering her some lunch.

But no one knows if the girl was even hungry in the first place.

And if she was what's wrong with saying" I'm hungry, where can I order/ collect food from round here

@Anarchy99 cheeky to ask for a glass of water? just let your visitors go hungry and thirsty🙄

You have clearly misread my post. I said of course asking to use the toilet if you don’t know where it is and asking for a glass of water is fine.

Perhaps read the post before eye rolling 🤣

Yep you're one of those passive aggressive types 😂

Do you not care about your guests comfort levels?

Yes I do which is why I will offer something if I have it. If someone has been invited over then I push the boat out.

If someone decides to turn up with no warning then I often don’t have staple stuff to offer.

That’s okay - you are clearly one of the cf types. Everyone is different 😄

But your posts imply that if you invite someone for coffee you wouldn’t offer anything to go with it, for example.

What happens if someone comes for coffee, you get chatting and they get peckish? Would you rather them leave instead of ask if you have any biscuits?

If I have biscuits I offer them. I try to get stuff in if I invite someone.

If I don’t offer something it means I don’t have it to offer.

It always amazes me that grown ass adults can’t sit and talk for an hour without needing biscuits/cakes etc to stop them wasting away 😬

Well, there you go. You’re babying her, and assuming that the adults of the friend she was visiting would baby her and their own 17 year old too.

At 17 they sort themselves out, especially for lunch! If I’m cooking dinner I’ll ask if ‘friend’ wants dinner (my DCs are in their 20s), but otherwise it’s every DC for themselves!
No such thing as ‘a bit autistic’ - you can say traits or waiting to be diagnosed.

Sorry but words fail me!! She's 17, my daughter moved away to uni at that age, like most of her peers! Maybe time to help her look after herself in every situation!!

You can change your vote yourself. Just tick the other option

I wonder what PPs would in reality do, if they were in your 17 yo daughter's shoes. Lots of people seem to be very judging.