AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

[CanyonRider]

I live in a small town. I started having therapy maybe a year ago. I feel it’s been working for me and I like my therapist. However I realised today that she is (very very recently) married to a man who recently stood and won as a reform councillor in our local election. I detest reform. I’m married to an immigrant (EU citizen) and am delighted that my kids are dual nationals and have the option of travelling, working and living in the EU should they desire. I’m also very pro the transition to green energy. I have solar and drive an EV. Finally I cannot stand Farage and the political grift embodied by people like him and Jenrick and am dismayed by the harms caused by Brexit.

My therapist is also an EU national and is here under indefinite leave to remain - as is my wife.
Read a few interviews with her husband today and he spouts the usual anti EU, anti immigration, anti green transition rhetoric you’d expect from Reform. I don’t feel comfortable continuing therapy with someone who’s married to a reform politician, and am very surprised that she is comfortable with his views and by extension those of Farage.

Am I overreacting?

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Sugar coat it all you want.

We know what they stand for.

YANBU - the relationship with a therapist is all about trust and respect. I could not trust or respect anyone married to any Reform advocate. And I would not want my money going into their bank account. Find another counselor and be honest about your reason for the change.

Exactly this.

As we can see, the far left, if they ever got into power, would be every bit as bad, if not worse, than any allegedly ‘far right’ government.

YANBU, I think it makes perfect sense to have a therapist that is somewhat aligned with you.

Same reason you wouldn’t want a very religious therapist if you’re an atheist. Your perspectives and approaches will probably be very different.

(Obviously it doesn’t mean your therapist shares the views of her husband, but…)

I voted YANBU. I too find Reform very distasteful and I think if I had a therapist and found out they were married to a Reform politician would put me right off.

I think if you do terminate the relationship with your therapist, OP, you should let them know your reason.

All the way.

This is a disgusting woke trend (not the OP's views - she is fine to hate Reform and promote Green agenda, no problem at all) to conflate somebody's professionalism with their worthiness based on their political affiliation. Bonkers. My grandparents were working class and slightly to the left of Mao - but oh, boy, when they went for operations (performed by the filthy rich surgeons, whose mouths were stuffed with gold by Bevan) not only did they keep their mouths firmly shut, but they suddenly became apolitical, and the surgeons accents did not irk them so much, etc. etc.

Thats the most intellectually vapid response I have ever received which is saying something.

You're projecting.

Exactly, with the far right surging in France and Germany we should definitely avoid rejoining the EU. Shudder.

Absolutely. How far does the purity spiral need to go exactly?

You're going to be very lonely.

Do you mean - go all the way or you agree all the way?

Good

You can tolerate people who don’t share your political views, core beliefs etc without wanting to keep putting money in their pockets.

Agreed. If you no longer feel you can trust your therapist you have the right to look elsewhere. I think I'd want to tell her why though.

OP, I think you’ve had too much sun

Yes and if the OP was getting therapy from the Reform councillor that might apply but she is not, this is guilt by association I thought people were better than that.

Reform are odds on favourite to win the next general election.
MN will go into meltdown.
Therapists will be milking it in.

It’s very hard to ignore this info now you have it. I’d feel absolutely the same. This is why most therapists don’t go in for self-disclosure, but you came across the info incidentally. It’s a shame but I’d totally see her in a different light too and hard to un-see it now you know!

I am judging them by what they say, and it is indefensible.

Further, https://www.cps.gov.uk/cps/news/highest-level-hate-crime-recorded I'm sure we are not far off having clearly documented links between the constant racist language as well as the weaponising and stirring of hatred by Nigel Farage and his party against immigrants that is driving hate crimes.
There are also countless accounts by people from a range of ethnic minorities saying how much hate and casual racism they are now experiencing. Stop trying to white wash what is clearly a far-right group.

It’s not about being better or worse though, therapy is a vulnerable situation in which you need to feel comfortable. If OP doesn’t in light of this new information, that’s it really.

I’ve been in counselling before through a Christian org not being religious myself so I was paired with the relevant counsellor. If I had been paired with a Christian counsellor it would quite frankly have been disastrous for a number of reasons. OP’s situation isn’t that much different, her therapists views can’t be that far from the man she’s married to and who had a very public profile.

I hope Reform voters get to see their 💩 show in action by winning.
Feel the consequences.

How far do you need to go? Partner? Partners parents? Parters parents vet? Partners parents vets hypnotherapist?

Quite. This reminds me of people who ended up being heavily criticised in the press because they were once in same room as Jeffrey Epstein. Where do you draw the line? Should Jeffrey Epstein’s dog groomer be investigated? Noting, before there’s a pile- on, that JE had committed offences, but the point I’m making is about people who associate with those you don’t like or agree with

Oh, the irony of the Poles voting this way. But, as they say 'it is always the newcomers/last ones in who pull up the ladder'. Btw, border control is vital, not racist. And multiculturalism is only a strength when you have an Empire - like Britain used to be or like the USSR was.