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Scarlettjune · 2026-05-24T19:30:46+00:00

I'm 5 foot 3 and 14 stone 6 pounds. I hate being fat. Why can I achieve so much else in my life but I can't achieve losing weight. I have tried so many times. I went on mounjaro last year and it just made me really sick. I didnt lose any weight on it. I am off it now. Both me and my brother had very bad childhoods and we are both overweight. Obviously we are eating to comfort ourselves. I'm not sure how to break the pattern. Was anyone on here able to break out of the pattern of emotional eating?

Aspoonofsolver · Yesterday 09:25

Jellox · Yesterday 09:17

Also someone told me that if you have a binge - so what.

Just carry on with your diet the next day and don’t feel bad.

Even slim people overeat, it’s normal but they don’t feel guilty for it.

The guilt is what ties food into something much more emotional for us.

Food is there to be enjoyed.
Enjoy eating real, fresh, healthy food.

If you have a binge, do not feel guilty - just carry on eating normally because you’ll still lose weight if 80% of the time you’re following your diet.

I constantly used to binge, feel guilty and think fuck it I’ve ruined it so might as well go silly, then feel guilty then restrict myself so much then it led to a binge and it never ended.

Don’t restrict yourself too much, carry on eating treats etc and don’t feel guilty for having a slip up.

Yep. I’ve lost 3 stone and I still binge/overeat now and again. I did so earlier this week, my Sainsbury’s delivery arrived and after putting my food away I promptly ate these 3 jumbo cookies that were about 400 calories each, and then a box of crackers (I stopped counting the calories at that point 😆) - but I just got back on track the next day.

Malasana · Yesterday 09:34

Passingthrough123 · Yesterday 09:23

Yes, food attachment is very real. My dad was really volatile when we were growing up except for Friday nights, when he'd go to the offie to get some beers and me and my sibling were allowed a packet of KP crisps as a treat. I would savour each and every one – not just because of the taste (KP cheese and onion was the best flavour ever) but because for one evening our house was happy. Dad was merry, Mum relaxed and we got crisps. So you can guess what my go-to comfort food is.

There isn't a crisp in the world I wouldn't eat!

Ergo, crisps are the thing I have to fight really hard to limit.

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Oh bless you - I can relate hard to that.
Childhood leaves such a mark on stuff like this. A big one for me is “wasting” food. We always had to clear our plates whether we were full or not and I have such an issue with scraping food in the bin now. Logic defeats me often - I’m full, I don’t want it, I don’t need it, yet I feel I have to eat it rather than putting it in the bin! I tell myself I’m not the bin but that food waste thing is still in my head.
When you want to eat crisps, which is no bad thing in itself, you’re connecting it to that safe feeling where your home was calm. What else can you use to take comfort from though so it’s not crisps every time? If you can introduce just one thing, just some of the time….
Dammit though relationships with food are complex.

Malasana · Yesterday 09:35

LittleMyLabyrinth · Yesterday 02:22

Hi yes, I have tried it. It's not a miracle cure by any means but it does make life a little bit more happy & balanced. You basically make a menu (starter, main, sides, dessert etc.) of things that give you a hit of dopamine. For example, the starters are all tiny things like stretch, get a breath of fresh air, etc. Then there are bigger things for other courses like go for a walk, work on a project, whatever it might be for you. Dessert is things that are maybe not so healthy like eating treats or scrolling. The idea is that when you want that quick fix dopamine hit, by making yourself have another course or two first, it might make you feel better before you even get to dessert. At least that's how I use it.

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I love this! Thankyou for sharing.

Aluna · Yesterday 09:38

Wickedlittledancer · Yesterday 08:37

The thing is, no one has died anywhere globally due to correct usage or legitimate meds. Not one person, out of about 50 million.

no mediation exists thay every single person can tolerate and has no side effects for everyone. However like any other medication, if it doesn’t work for you, you stop,

people do get gall bladder issues, but this happens with weight loss or gain. By definition everyone on them is obese and trying to lose weight, so as a side effect you will see it. There are other rare side effects/

80 percent of people have no side effects at all. The benefit to their health of becoming a healthy weight is astronomical, the benefit to society the same, as it reduces the pressure on the health care systems. Obesity is the biggest killer in society, the number one cause of cancer in non smokers, the second in smokers, avoidable cancers. And that’s before we look at life limiting or impacting illnesses like fatty liver, high cholesterol, cardio vascular disease, diabetes etc,

so yes, some people can’t tolerate or will have side effects, like any other medication, there is no medication anywhere ever that is different.

and like any other medication, if it doesn’t work for you, you simply stop.

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That’s not actually true, there’s a U.K. nurse who died of pancreatitis + organ failure + septic shock and the use of “prescribed tirzepatide" was recorded as a contributing factor. Pancreatitis is a known side effect of the jabs.

There was a GP who commented on MN that 3 patients at her practice had serious side effects: one was hospitalised with pancreatitis; one had NAION and went blind in one eye; I don’t recall what happened to the third.

Any medication has side effects and some are worse than others.

Wickedlittledancer · Yesterday 09:43

Emptybath · Yesterday 09:12

I don’t deny any of this, so not sure why you chose to post under me.

Some pp seemed to be trying to undermine OPs experience or counter her claim that her side effects aren’t unusual. OP is right. If one in thirty three to one in a hundred get severe nausea, it’s not a rare side effect.

You seem to have interpreted that fact as an attack on WLI. It isn’t.

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Unfortunately for you, the regulatory authorities disagree with your assessment and do class that as rare.

FasterSmootherBrighterRicher · Yesterday 09:43

Emptybath · Yesterday 08:04

I don’t think 1 to 3% can be described as a rare reaction. 3% is about one in thirty-three people. 1% is one in an hundred. And that’s a lot of people given how popular WLI are.

Winning the lottery is rare. Thats one in many tens of millions. If the odds off winning millions of pounds was 1 in a 33 to a 100, we’d all be spending a shitload on lottery tickets.

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Passingthrough123 · Yesterday 09:43

Malasana · Yesterday 09:34

Oh bless you - I can relate hard to that.
Childhood leaves such a mark on stuff like this. A big one for me is “wasting” food. We always had to clear our plates whether we were full or not and I have such an issue with scraping food in the bin now. Logic defeats me often - I’m full, I don’t want it, I don’t need it, yet I feel I have to eat it rather than putting it in the bin! I tell myself I’m not the bin but that food waste thing is still in my head.
When you want to eat crisps, which is no bad thing in itself, you’re connecting it to that safe feeling where your home was calm. What else can you use to take comfort from though so it’s not crisps every time? If you can introduce just one thing, just some of the time….
Dammit though relationships with food are complex.

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I'm from the "clear your plate, don't you know there are starving kids in Africa" generation too! So was my DP, who also struggles with his weight. We both swore that we'd never do that with our DD and never have, and watching the way she eats has really helped me get a handle on my portions. She simply stops when she's full. No drama, just stops. Sometimes she'll eat a pizza the size of a dustbin lid, the next day tiny portions.

As for crisps, I allow myself to have them, because if I don't I just crave them anyway and then I'll cave and binge on loads of packets. Better to have one packet in moderation than try to stop completely.

Passingthrough123 · Yesterday 09:46

FasterSmootherBrighterRicher · Yesterday 09:43

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It doesn't matter what the stats are as far as OP is concerned – she has said she doesn't want to try them again. I understand why posters want to correct the facts as far as WLI go, but she's made her decision.

bafta16 · Yesterday 09:47

Aluna · Yesterday 09:22

Where did you find these people - sounds like you need better, more professional therapists.

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I have had a shed load of therapy. My last person was very very professional , caring, fantastic clear boundaries.
BACP registered and in supervision.

Wickedlittledancer · Yesterday 09:47

Passingthrough123 · Yesterday 09:46

It doesn't matter what the stats are as far as OP is concerned – she has said she doesn't want to try them again. I understand why posters want to correct the facts as far as WLI go, but she's made her decision.

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Absolutely, it’s a pointless discussion, she tried, they didn’t work, as they do for a percentage of people. She was sadly in the two percent who got severe nausea so had to stop, So she needs to find another solution.

FasterSmootherBrighterRicher · Yesterday 09:51

Passingthrough123 · Yesterday 09:46

It doesn't matter what the stats are as far as OP is concerned – she has said she doesn't want to try them again. I understand why posters want to correct the facts as far as WLI go, but she's made her decision.

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That’s exactly why I deleted my comment. I started typing then thought actually, it doesn’t matter how many in 100, in 33 or whatever, if shes not going down that route, it’s unnecessary to point out those numbers.

OP, you’ve had great advice on this thread. I hope you are able to work on those links you’ve already made, and to get behind the emotional reasons of why the weight gain has happened. Best of luck. x

raisinglittlepeople12 · Yesterday 09:52

Devils advocate, what do you like about being fat? Is there something about the lifestyle you enjoy? Often when we struggle to change a habit it is because it is benefiting us, even if we also hate it. For example, I was addicted to sugar and really struggled to cut it out enough to lose weight and get healthier, but then realised I liked that it gave me a little dopamine hit when I had it, so now I actively try to get that little boost elsewhere. I’m now losing weight. Really challenge yourself to understand why you aren’t changing your habits. Eg is it a defence mechanism? Does it reinforce the negative things you think about yourself so you keep it to keep that sense of self? It’s an exercise to do non judgementally , just be really honest with yourself. You can lose weight if you really want to.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · Yesterday 10:05

PistachioDates · Yesterday 07:40

When WW or slimming world give you the pep talk they are also psychologically training you to rely on them and need them so they keep taking your money and you become evangelical about them to others, they are also skewing your relationship with food because despite the many relabeling they still separate food into good or bad, you don't need anyone or anything to change it was all within you. Some people though like the group atmosphere and find that community where they let their defensiveness around food and weight down gives them a boost to be free for the rest of the week but others can feel further shame and stigma at needing a fat club and humiliation to justify any gains though I understand the leaders have been trained to minimise or avoid this they don't control others attendees reactions, eyerolls etc. I just think they are also a weightloss scam and compound ED.

All it is you've linked feeling better to eating, you need to learn many other ways to feel better and do them instead of eating. It will be hard because that's years or practise but it can be done, you can rewire your brain.

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I now get WW membership for free now I've reached goal - not sure why you say why they keep taking your money when I'm not paying anything. Now I've lost six stone, the difficult bit starts - ie not putting it back on. Which, let's face it, most people do - I think the stats are something along the lines of 90% - 95% put it back on within 3 - 5 years.

There are no 'good' or 'bad' foods on WE - I think back in the day Slimming World had 'syns' or something, reinforcing that type of good food vs bad food, unhelpful in my view.

I'm not particularly evangelical about WW. It worked for me and my cardiologist is delighted with my weight loss - perhaps more so than me 🤣 .

I

Wickedlittledancer · Yesterday 10:07

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · Yesterday 10:05

I now get WW membership for free now I've reached goal - not sure why you say why they keep taking your money when I'm not paying anything. Now I've lost six stone, the difficult bit starts - ie not putting it back on. Which, let's face it, most people do - I think the stats are something along the lines of 90% - 95% put it back on within 3 - 5 years.

There are no 'good' or 'bad' foods on WE - I think back in the day Slimming World had 'syns' or something, reinforcing that type of good food vs bad food, unhelpful in my view.

I'm not particularly evangelical about WW. It worked for me and my cardiologist is delighted with my weight loss - perhaps more so than me 🤣 .

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If you’re not evangelical why didn’t you tell the whole story, which is if you gain 2lbs or 2kg, depending on your area, they start charging you again.

TwiggyShrimp · Yesterday 10:09

Keto helped me break my addiction to sugar and snacking.

New You plan helped me lose tons of weight but reintroduced sugar craves which I have to plan around or I'll binge.

I think it's always a struggle, if it started out that way, but you can overcome it with a lot of determination and practice.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · Yesterday 10:22

Wickedlittledancer · 24/05/2026 21:01

There isn’t actually, it is very unusual. Look at any of the monthly starter threads,

I would also recommend therapy

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I can't speak to online forum threads. However, data indicates around 40% of users of tirzepatide (Mounjaro) experience nausea. That, along with gastrointestinal upset, are the most common side effects.

Wickedlittledancer · Yesterday 10:26

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · Yesterday 10:22

I can't speak to online forum threads. However, data indicates around 40% of users of tirzepatide (Mounjaro) experience nausea. That, along with gastrointestinal upset, are the most common side effects.

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She is talking about nausea so severe she had to stop. That’s 2 percent, mild nausea that you experience once or twice for a few hours is in your stats.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · Yesterday 10:26

Wickedlittledancer · Yesterday 10:07

If you’re not evangelical why didn’t you tell the whole story, which is if you gain 2lbs or 2kg, depending on your area, they start charging you again.

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I told the 'whole story' because OP was asking for advice about losing weight and overeating/gaining weight due to emotional trauma (same as me). Also that we were literally the same weight. And so she might find my experience helpful. Put please feel free to piss over an (assisted) six stone weight loss.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · Yesterday 10:32

Wickedlittledancer · 24/05/2026 21:07

If you had gall bladder issues it will be due to weight or diet, not the drug, and losing no weight means you were eating to maintenance.

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Eli Lilly report gallstones as a 'common' side effect when using Mounjaro - though the (medical) jury seems to be out as to whether this is a side effect of the medication or just weight loss

bridgetreilly · Yesterday 10:34

OP, what you need for the comfort eating is CBT. That is how you can learn to change behaviour, especially trauma-related behaviour.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · Yesterday 10:47

Wickedlittledancer · Yesterday 10:26

She is talking about nausea so severe she had to stop. That’s 2 percent, mild nausea that you experience once or twice for a few hours is in your stats.

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Agree - just not sure how people self define 'severe' nausea ...

CarbootJunction · Yesterday 10:48

Mounjaro gave me atrial fibrilation, which has been lifechanging for me. I'm now on three kinds of medication, and awaiting my second heart procedure.
I'm losing weight, using calorie counting and light exercise, using the NOOM app (which is free to use for the basic plan).
WLI really aren't the magic pill people think they are.

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Scarlettjune · Yesterday 10:50

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · Yesterday 10:47

Agree - just not sure how people self define 'severe' nausea ...

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Not just nausea.i also lost control of my bowels on mounjaro. No way could I continue

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Wickedlittledancer · Yesterday 10:54

CarbootJunction · Yesterday 10:48

Mounjaro gave me atrial fibrilation, which has been lifechanging for me. I'm now on three kinds of medication, and awaiting my second heart procedure.
I'm losing weight, using calorie counting and light exercise, using the NOOM app (which is free to use for the basic plan).
WLI really aren't the magic pill people think they are.

Your doctors confirmed it was directly caused by the med and not your weight, electroytle Imbalance etc?

That’s incredibly rare, I think something like 2 people ever found in over 50 million.

Passingthrough123 · Yesterday 11:01

CarbootJunction · Yesterday 10:48

Mounjaro gave me atrial fibrilation, which has been lifechanging for me. I'm now on three kinds of medication, and awaiting my second heart procedure.
I'm losing weight, using calorie counting and light exercise, using the NOOM app (which is free to use for the basic plan).
WLI really aren't the magic pill people think they are.

Yikes. My friend developed AF post-Covid and I've seen how debilitating it is. She's been paddled twice to try to get her heart into a regular rhythm but neither worked and now she needs an ablation.