I hate being fat :(

[Scarlettjune]

I'm 5 foot 3 and 14 stone 6 pounds. I hate being fat. Why can I achieve so much else in my life but I can't achieve losing weight.
I have tried so many times.

I went on mounjaro last year and it just made me really sick. I didnt lose any weight on it. I am off it now.

Both me and my brother had very bad childhoods and we are both overweight. Obviously we are eating to comfort ourselves. I'm not sure how to break the pattern. Was anyone on here able to break out of the pattern of emotional eating?

Exactly. The information that I gave WAS accurate about what happened to me. I ate healthily while taking it. Mounjaro made me severely Ill to the point that I didn’t want to take it anymore

Totally agree

This thread clearly wasn’t intended to be a(nother) discussion about WLIs. She’s tried and it’s not the solution for her.

The book recommendations above are good. I have had disordered eating in part due to emotional eating and I have never found counselling or therapy helps with it very much. I had one specialist CBT therapist that made me a lot worse. Sometimes you need to go on your own journey, and self help books are a good place to start - read them with low expectations and take from them any useful bits, ignore the rest.

One thing I find helpful is to focus on all the things I can do for my health that doesn’t involve restricting calories: drinking enough water, exercising in a way I enjoy, eating plenty of fibre, fruit and vegetables, and good protein, taking my supplements (including iron and vit D), having good sleep hygiene, investing in my relationships. These are non-punishing things that are really good for me, and incidentally are either good or neutral for the waistline. They also all make me feel good. When I feel good emotionally and physically, I am less in need of comfort from food. Could you try this, does it appeal?

At that height and weight your BMI is over 35, has your GP not referred you to any sort of NHS weightloss service? How is your blood sugar? You may be eligible for a Metformin prescription if you are pre diabetic. Metformin isn’t a walk in the park, nor does it guarantee weightloss but people do often lose once their blood sugar is stable.
Please also get tested for gallstones, as per PP for you to have reacted that badly to MJ it’s likely you have an underlying problem

And the prize for least understanding, most assumptions and passive aggressive post goes to...

i was like this and I got really sick on WLI. I changed to volume eating as I couldn’t stop overeating and I was having big quantities of things like chocolate crisps cake etc. I stared to just eat big quantities of things like cherry tomatoes, strawberries, plain popcorn , sugar free jellies, salad and chicken etc etc so I was still able to eat all the time to satisfy the emotional need to comfort eat but I lost loads of weight.

I would also recommend reading up on and trying out mindfulness. It feels absurd at first (you’ll eat a raisin) but is for me a very effective way of distancing myself from my thoughts and allowing myself to feel things that are very uncomfortable emotionally - making it less likely I will try to stuff those feelings away by binge eating digestives!

It’s not for everyone and can be difficult if you are experiencing acute or overwhelming negative feelings, such as in depression, so obviously don’t pursue it if you find it makes you feel awful. But if you try it and think “this is stupid, it’s not doing anything for me” then stick with it - takes a while, but it will very likely help xx

Op, ok therapy doesn’t work and neither do meds, and I assume you’ve tried all types of diets, nearly everyone who takes the drugs has tried everything else first.

i think going back to your gp see if you can get support from a dietician might help?

Look into hypnotherapy/remedial hypnosis. Your mind is encouraging you to eat because that gave you comfort when you needed it. Once the subconscious knows this strategy is no longer necessary, it will stop and allow your logical thinking to take over.

It's possible to get rid of gallstones without having your gallbladder removed, if you want more info, please DM me. I got rid of my gallstones, and kept my gallbladder, and it massively improved my health.

Did you aye?

It’s so hard OP. Not least because even when you’re on the right track it takes a long time to see the positive effects (there’s no quick fix). There’s some great tips on this thread. Best of luck, I hope you achieve your goals.

Along with some of the other advice on here I'd highly recommend looking at Joshua Hills Nutrition. He runs an online academy and 1:1 coaching, and recently published a book. He has a compassionate, evidence-based and realistic approach to weight, health and nutrition, and is particularly good with the emotional side of it. Can't even explain how much he's helped me.

Have you tried different modes of therapy? My DH went through a lot of therapists before he found the person for him. This was a trauma specialist too, so maybe look for one of those. He was massively overweight from emotional eating but is now relatively stable.

Yes I have. I went to a trauma specialist. I told him about my sad life and he sighed and said "that's a lot of work for me'.

I went to another therapist and when I told her about my life, she cried. The therapist cried.

They are just humans like you and me.

I would rather do the work on myself from online resources

Consider some serious counselling. After most of my adult lifetime clinically obese, for similar reasons to yours, I had several months of psychotherapy. It was worth every penny. It cleared my head enough that I was able to commit to, and stick to, a low calorie, low carb, 16:8 regime for 18 months and lost six stone. That was several years ago. It allowed me to completely reset my relationship with food so that I am now permanently slim (size 6-8).

I have been for counselling may times already. But thank you.

Yes, I did and they haven't returned but doesn't sound like you want to do the same clearly! Good luck with your surgery.

It just sounds like you're trying to sell me a multilevel marketing scan or supplements. Are you?

I just wanted to add my experience here- mounjaro also made me very very ill, I still tried to persevere but my body couldn’t cope with it. After a 6 month break from anything I have now switched to wegovy, I don’t know what the difference is but my body can handle it so much better, I’ve had not one side effect, and have lost 18lbs in 5 weeks. I was very hesitant to try another GLP1 but I am SO happy I gave this one a shot.

Mounjaro can definitely increase the risk of gallstones.

No! I'm not selling anything, I was just going to tell you about a natural method of flushing out gallstones.

Then tell me here, why would you want me to message you privately for that information? Share it with all of us who struggled with mounjaro

I only didn't write it all out originally to you because I did that another time and the person didn't even thank me, which is why I said to DM me if you wanted to know! @Velumental

I'm happy to be told here but not to dm about it thank you.