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To feel weird about being second woman on sex chair

314 replies

TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 09:31

I don’t think I am BU but interested in whether other people would just get over it.

Been with my boyfriend for two years, we don’t live together yet and he has just got some furniture out of storage after moving house. One item that he has recently mentioned is a curvy foam chair/sofa thing made for sex. I will add a photo of similar. Although he originally bought it new I think it’s fairly likely he has had sex with his ex on it.

I am not usually jealous at all but I feel really weird about this - I guess because it’s specially made for sex? And because it’s foam I feel like if it wasn’t covered it has probably absorbed some juices 🙈. Although surely any bacteria will be dead after two years. I just don’t want to be lying on this thing knowing his ex was in the same positions, thinking maybe she was face down in the same spot and we would be basically cheek to cheek!

These feelings are all new to me as I don’t usually think about exes and I’ve never been confronted with sex furniture/toys/accessories that weren’t my own or bought new. AIBU to feel weird about this? Would you just put a waterproof sheet down and try to get over it, or refuse to use it because you don’t want to feel uncomfortable during sex?

To feel weird about being second woman on sex chair
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JLou08 · 24/05/2026 09:35

Did he buy a new bed when you met? Or as he had his ex in the same position he has you on it? Ever done it on the couch or dining table? I think you're being silly, after at least 2 years I'm sure none of her 'juices' are on it.

HedgehogsOnTheWall · 24/05/2026 09:38

Wow, Big Sex Chair are getting really creative with their marketing tactics!

SnowFrogJelly · 24/05/2026 09:40

You are kidding right? You are actually worried about bacteria from people having sex on a chair?

NoisyBuilder · 24/05/2026 09:41

I am SOOOOO vanilla 😂

I shall be looking out for sex chairs on Right Move going forward.

Branleuse · 24/05/2026 09:42

I would tell him that you won't be bending over on his and his exes special sex chair thankyou very much, and maybe he could put it up on marketplace?

TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 09:44

SnowFrogJelly · 24/05/2026 09:40

You are kidding right? You are actually worried about bacteria from people having sex on a chair?

No the bacteria was an afterthought really, it’s more the thought of sex juices on/in the chair. I’m sure there are loads of juices in mattresses so I’m trying to make sense of why I feel strange about the chair, but wouldn’t care about a bed

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HelpMeGetThrough · 24/05/2026 09:47

The world hasn’t half changed in my time.

Greenwitchart · 24/05/2026 09:47

Frankly a man talking about/buying a ''sex chair'' would be an instant turn off for me in the first place.

Ineedanewsofa · 24/05/2026 09:49

I think my issue would be more the expectation to be in that position a lot tbh which if he’s got special furniture for it, suggests a strong preference!

Scoose · 24/05/2026 09:49

What's with the posts about sex chairs lately I saw another one yesterday

busyd4y · 24/05/2026 09:56

If she was face down how would you be cheeky to cheeky? Or do you mean you're face up and bum cheek to bum cheek?

Did you forget to add a link in case anyone is interested in buying one?

SeeYouThroughACameraFlash · 24/05/2026 09:56

Scoose · 24/05/2026 09:49

What's with the posts about sex chairs lately I saw another one yesterday

I remember about a year ago some Herbert posting almost the same thing, also mentioning ‘sex juices’. That one was deleted. That bloke and his kink have are obviously back. 🤢

redboxer321 · 24/05/2026 09:57

How do you know you'd be the second?

TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 09:58

HedgehogsOnTheWall · 24/05/2026 09:38

Wow, Big Sex Chair are getting really creative with their marketing tactics!

Buy our fabulous spongy chair, re-use for each girlfriend and absorb up to one litre of sweat, cum and general sex liquids each time ✨💦🥳

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weeat · 24/05/2026 09:58

I’m looking at this chair, thinking, ‘wow, how practical…that would really save my knees..,’

maudelovesharold · 24/05/2026 10:00

TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 09:58

Buy our fabulous spongy chair, re-use for each girlfriend and absorb up to one litre of sweat, cum and general sex liquids each time ✨💦🥳

Yeah, I think the op’s 3rd post is getting to the nitty gritty of why they posted!

PollyBell · 24/05/2026 10:01

What only the second? Tell him to put some more effort in

Or up or on

Shudder gross

Twattergy · 24/05/2026 10:01

Hmmm putting down a waterproof sheet.
Really gets me in the mood...

Error404FucksNotFound · 24/05/2026 10:02

That seems poorly designed. Would it not be better to have a non absorbent surface that would just wipe clean?

Squirrelchops1 · 24/05/2026 10:02

weeat · 24/05/2026 09:58

I’m looking at this chair, thinking, ‘wow, how practical…that would really save my knees..,’

Lol, I'm thinking how my back would generally like it as a normal chair

Sweetharmony252 · 24/05/2026 10:03

They're sex people Lynn

HermioneWeasley · 24/05/2026 10:03

You’re making some assumptions @TheBloomingDahlia , perhaps he likes bending over on it and getting pegged?

Bubblebathbefore8 · 24/05/2026 10:04

I quite like it. Get a new one?

I had a guy try to get me to use sex toys that he had collected over the years, (his box of tricks) I couldn’t use 2nd hand/previously used sex toy, for me this is similar. Get him to buy you your own sex chair

FoulBlister · 24/05/2026 10:05

Greenwitchart · 24/05/2026 09:47

Frankly a man talking about/buying a ''sex chair'' would be an instant turn off for me in the first place.

Surely the OP is a man talking about a sex chair.

TFImBackIn · 24/05/2026 10:06

Twattergy · 24/05/2026 10:01

Hmmm putting down a waterproof sheet.
Really gets me in the mood...

Yes, you know you're in for a really good time when he brings out the sex chair and the waterproof sheet. It's everything a woman could dream of.