To feel weird about being second woman on sex chair

[TheBloomingDahlia]

I don’t think I am BU but interested in whether other people would just get over it.

Been with my boyfriend for two years, we don’t live together yet and he has just got some furniture out of storage after moving house. One item that he has recently mentioned is a curvy foam chair/sofa thing made for sex. I will add a photo of similar. Although he originally bought it new I think it’s fairly likely he has had sex with his ex on it.

I am not usually jealous at all but I feel really weird about this - I guess because it’s specially made for sex? And because it’s foam I feel like if it wasn’t covered it has probably absorbed some juices 🙈. Although surely any bacteria will be dead after two years. I just don’t want to be lying on this thing knowing his ex was in the same positions, thinking maybe she was face down in the same spot and we would be basically cheek to cheek!

These feelings are all new to me as I don’t usually think about exes and I’ve never been confronted with sex furniture/toys/accessories that weren’t my own or bought new. AIBU to feel weird about this? Would you just put a waterproof sheet down and try to get over it, or refuse to use it because you don’t want to feel uncomfortable during sex?

To address the actual question tho - i'm with you OP. If it had a nice removable washable cover i'd be happier with it.

I saw it at Windsor Castle.

Well I've never seen a sex chair! What's wrong with being bent over a normal sofa then having a bad back after 😂
Personally I wouldn't want to use a sex chair my partner had used with his ex. Maybe not logical but no way.

Yes I think this is how it feels, even though it’s been 2 years. It seems like the chair thing is for specific positions so knowing someone else has been in the exact position in the same place is weird. Whereas on a bed there is no indication of what anyone has done and where. I think if I tell him how I feel he would be very reassuring, but it would probably be me thinking about his ex rather than him.

It’s not the same one as in the photo but I’m now assuming it hopefully has removable covers. So I think I will ask him to wash the cover if he hasn’t already and then see if I feel any different.

It was clearly designed by a man. I don’t think a nice removable washable cover was on the must have list. Bet it has Bluetooth and speakers though😀

Absolutely. Surely a sex chair is the least sexy thing ever ? Even without the shagging the ex on it.
And they say romance is dead..

True, if he’s not washed it in years I definitely have bigger problems!

Well you change sheets on a bed. Mattress protecter and all that. Not quite the same.

The idea of a sex chair seems tacky to me anyway. I’m getting Medallion Man vibes 🤣

Wrap up some crunchy undies as a gift and say since he got you a gift with dry juices of his ex you decided to repay the favour and offer something similar....

He might understand then...

Crying with laughter.

Originally for dogs !!!
O my Lordy what am I reading.
<goes back to Jane Austen and sighs with relief>

is the chair for him perchance?

Best laugh on Mumsnet in weeks. Obviously I'm old but it could save my knees. I'll ask the DH.

Just putting it out there.

Have to say I was thinking that at my age that could be rather comfy.

Almost crying with laughter reading these comments- thanks everyone.
I’d send it straight to the council tip!

That might just be enough internet for today . . .

If he suggested buying a chair new I would tell him not to bother because it seems pointless and a bit weird to have it just hanging around. Might have got the ick with previous partners (I can think of one definitely) but don’t think I would have with him

But seeing as he already has it I thought I would give it a go to try something new. But then I considered it a bit more… and the poll seems to think I’m not BU. Although not sure if that’s based on it being previously used or just the a no to the chair itself

Frankly a man talking about/buying a ''sex chair'' would be an instant turn off for me in the first place

It would send me into waves of helpless laughter. And put me off him too.

That might just be enough of the world for me today… I think I’ll lock myself away for the rest of the day. Goodness me, people and their ‘problems’ today aren’t half self-made!

How very unlike the home life of our own dear queen.

And then you have the original royal sex chair, a bespoke creation made for Edward VII which provides hours and hours of fun .... just from trying to work out who and/or what goes where!

Now you've got me... browsing the screwfix catalogue is the next best thing to a sex sofa seeing to surely!?

🤣👍