To feel weird about being second woman on sex chair

[TheBloomingDahlia]

I don’t think I am BU but interested in whether other people would just get over it.

Been with my boyfriend for two years, we don’t live together yet and he has just got some furniture out of storage after moving house. One item that he has recently mentioned is a curvy foam chair/sofa thing made for sex. I will add a photo of similar. Although he originally bought it new I think it’s fairly likely he has had sex with his ex on it.

I am not usually jealous at all but I feel really weird about this - I guess because it’s specially made for sex? And because it’s foam I feel like if it wasn’t covered it has probably absorbed some juices 🙈. Although surely any bacteria will be dead after two years. I just don’t want to be lying on this thing knowing his ex was in the same positions, thinking maybe she was face down in the same spot and we would be basically cheek to cheek!

These feelings are all new to me as I don’t usually think about exes and I’ve never been confronted with sex furniture/toys/accessories that weren’t my own or bought new. AIBU to feel weird about this? Would you just put a waterproof sheet down and try to get over it, or refuse to use it because you don’t want to feel uncomfortable during sex?

Brilliant 🤣

So unlike the home life of our own dear Queen.

I’d ask him to get rid of it. It’s been in storage for years so not like he needs it

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What am I even reading, what sort of guy buys a sex chair for gods sake.

And they said romance was dead. Eew.

Oh I don’t know, I reckon Camilla has one with her cypher embroidered in to it.

…and you could read a book or watch telly at the same time.

You wouldn't even need to put your knitting down.

Is it for the elderly? It’s even got a little knee pad like a foot stool for him. 😂

It was obviously a joke based on what the PP said - the liquids are one of the main reasons I don’t think I want to use the chair. I know there are weirdos who post on here but I dont want to discuss how it would be used or anything like that.
I just want to know if others would feel the same or if they wouldn’t care because my boyfriend wants to bring it to my house

True.

You could have a glass of wine and some nibbles within easy reach too.

Most partners bring a toothbrush and change of clothes.

You could rate him on the following scale - wordle 1 , + connections 2, AND the mini 3, if you manage strands AND the big crossword he’s a keeper - living the dream !

And, if he takes so long doing it doggy style that it needs an orthopaedic support chair then you’d need something to while away the time.

Have you asked on the Mrs Hinch groups on Facebook for tips on how to give it a thoroughly good deep clean?
Am sure several bottles of white vinegar, some bicarbonate of soda and a dousing of Zoflora will have it as good as new.

Me too. Immediate dump

Seriously, who wakes up on a Sunday morning and thinks 'What shall I do today? I know, I'll seek out a parenting website and discuss sex juices 🙄

Wrongun lol.

I’m sure there are loads of juices in mattresses

I hope that there is a mattress protector, ideally waterproof, and regularly washed.

Same

Yes and stop drinking orange/apple/grapefruit juice in bed all together if you’re that clumsy

Think it’s reasonable not to want to use it, I wouldn’t want to have sex on the same furniture as an ex any more than I’d want to holiday in the same destinations or have him buy me identical jewellery etc. I’d feel like that furniture will hold memories of sex with her for him and wouldn’t want to have sex when he’s potentially going to be thinking of her.

I think it’s different to a bed because a bed isn’t used solely for sex, most people will have other memories associated to their bed linked to dreams, chats they’ve had in bed, times they’ve watched TV or read something interesting in bed etc. This furniture has literally just been used for sex. Also if it’s been in storage for the last 2 years you've been together your sex life has clearly been fine without it, I don’t see the need to use it if it’s potentially going to make you uncomfortable. Totally fine to say no to having it in the house or having sex on it and if it’s a dealbreaker for him and can’t see your point of view then that’s a red flag and lucky you’ve found out so you can leave him before he’s moved in!

I was expecting a swinging sex chair

*disappointed 😞

Thank you @HelpMeGetThroughthat made me laugh out loud as I imagined OP’s DP toting it up the path. I do think throwing a sheet over it then would be sensible.

I think any man pulling out a waterproof sheet, Peaky Blinders torture style, would freak me out far more than the chair (which itself would be instant ick).

This is an advert, right?