To feel weird about being second woman on sex chair

[TheBloomingDahlia]

I don’t think I am BU but interested in whether other people would just get over it.

Been with my boyfriend for two years, we don’t live together yet and he has just got some furniture out of storage after moving house. One item that he has recently mentioned is a curvy foam chair/sofa thing made for sex. I will add a photo of similar. Although he originally bought it new I think it’s fairly likely he has had sex with his ex on it.

I am not usually jealous at all but I feel really weird about this - I guess because it’s specially made for sex? And because it’s foam I feel like if it wasn’t covered it has probably absorbed some juices 🙈. Although surely any bacteria will be dead after two years. I just don’t want to be lying on this thing knowing his ex was in the same positions, thinking maybe she was face down in the same spot and we would be basically cheek to cheek!

These feelings are all new to me as I don’t usually think about exes and I’ve never been confronted with sex furniture/toys/accessories that weren’t my own or bought new. AIBU to feel weird about this? Would you just put a waterproof sheet down and try to get over it, or refuse to use it because you don’t want to feel uncomfortable during sex?

Edward VII famously had a sex chair.

If its good enough for royalty then I’d be down for it 🤣

My gran had one of these, I only realised after she died that it was a sex chair.
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I mean, both, to be honest. But I wouldn’t be the second user of a sex chair if, for some reason, I was going to use one.

In situations like this I always ask myself - 'What would Jesus do?'

It's not the sort of thing you recycle, surely... If you want to use one, fine, but it'd have to be new.... 🤢

New chair - maybe
Second hand - absolutely not!

I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone who owned a sex chair. Fucking hell.

This is why I hate the internet

I suppose Love Seats are just sex chairs and they are mainstream and acceptable.
They sell them in Argos.

Yes, PP knows. They mean they will be looking out to see if they can spot other people who have them in their houses, in the photos.

I just want to know if others would feel the same or if they wouldn’t care because my boyfriend wants to bring it to my house.

Why does he want it at your house? Tell him to either get rid or keep his tacky sex toy at his own house.

I agree with others, it's probably because it's only for sex. A bed is different because its primary use is for sleeping. I think I'd also be put off by his expectation that you'll use it with him. Did he even discuss it with you before bringing it out of storage?

I would feel weird about this too. That's why we don't label the sofa as a sex chair

Me too. Yuck.

That’s not the sort of chair I was expecting.

Who was the fat king who had a sex chair? I was expecting to see something like that.

Disappointing.

(I would get the ick over a sex chair of any sort.)

People who need a special chair for sex either lack imagination, fitness or are easily conned by marketing. I would let him keep the chair and get a new bf.

This. Absolutely this.

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Edward VII’s sex chair.

Not as padded though.

I'm a very open-minded person, but you'd have to be a real saddo to buy a sex chair in the first place, keep it in storage when the relationship (ahem) 'goes tits up', and then proudly show it to your next gf, hoping she doesn't mind being the second person to be expected to use it.

Looks like it could be comfortable for watching the telly though - does anyone else sell them with a specified 'TV chair" purpose?

It costs £600?! Bloody hell!

YABU Op, the cover is machine washable, pop it on a wash with some anti bacterial detergent and then either use it for its intended purpose or just as furniture.

Same

that's weird, I know this as a loveseat and you'd need need to be flexible and blooming creative.....https://www.sellingantiques.co.uk/629916/a-mahogany-inlaid-edwardian-period-antique-love-seat

PS that thing is ick making and doubly so if its been used already.

What a hideous object. I would not have it in my house, irrespective of its purpose.

Is it not grubby from being in storage regardless of previous hygiene issues? Honestly the ick that he owns it and has kept it in storage would be insurmountable for me.

He'd be whipping this out whoever he was with OP, because it's something he obviously finds exciting and imagines improves the potential of his prowess, to the extent he has taken pains to store it for future potential partners.

Unless there is a medical or physical reason why this is necessary - eg a person genuinely could benefit from physical support to their body so they can enjoy sex the way they want to, then what is to be gained? It smacks of the old Cosmo sex tip type of advice that have led men to imagine a pillow under the hips is going to blow minds all of a sudden, when actually it's all about improving the view and variety of positions for the bloke. I couldn't be aroused perched on top of that, watching any man wheel this out would just make me think he was clueless.

I would tell him upfront that I wouldn't be interested in using it and if we lived together wouldn't want it in the house taking up (mortifying) space. See what he does then. I wonder if he'll keep it anyway to try and persuade you or save it for the next partner..