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To feel weird about being second woman on sex chair

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TheBloomingDahlia · 24/05/2026 09:31

I don’t think I am BU but interested in whether other people would just get over it.

Been with my boyfriend for two years, we don’t live together yet and he has just got some furniture out of storage after moving house. One item that he has recently mentioned is a curvy foam chair/sofa thing made for sex. I will add a photo of similar. Although he originally bought it new I think it’s fairly likely he has had sex with his ex on it.

I am not usually jealous at all but I feel really weird about this - I guess because it’s specially made for sex? And because it’s foam I feel like if it wasn’t covered it has probably absorbed some juices 🙈. Although surely any bacteria will be dead after two years. I just don’t want to be lying on this thing knowing his ex was in the same positions, thinking maybe she was face down in the same spot and we would be basically cheek to cheek!

These feelings are all new to me as I don’t usually think about exes and I’ve never been confronted with sex furniture/toys/accessories that weren’t my own or bought new. AIBU to feel weird about this? Would you just put a waterproof sheet down and try to get over it, or refuse to use it because you don’t want to feel uncomfortable during sex?

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ElectricSnail · 25/05/2026 10:17

Handy for those tricky gatherings when more guests turn up than you expect. “Don’t worry Lynda, I’ll get Ken to bring the sex chair down for you.”

outdooryone · 25/05/2026 11:10

ElectricSnail · 25/05/2026 10:17

Handy for those tricky gatherings when more guests turn up than you expect. “Don’t worry Lynda, I’ll get Ken to bring the sex chair down for you.”

That is an awkward way to sit at the Christmas table...

Additup · 25/05/2026 11:20

outdooryone · 25/05/2026 11:10

That is an awkward way to sit at the Christmas table...

😂😂😂
I have never heard of a sex chair, but now I shall use the term with abandon and keep an eye out when visiting friends.

Personally I prefer a good, solid settee because apart from having sex on it you can also sit, read chat, watch TV and it looks good in the living room.

Millytante · 25/05/2026 11:23

SpanThatWorld · 24/05/2026 10:36

My friend always said that the main purpose of Sunday school was getting all the children out of the house so that parents could have a quickie. Or have a cup of tea in peace.

Anyway, I think that chair, with the addition of some appropriate straps, might be handy for reformer pilates.

Aaarrrr, me hearties

MaeWestNeverForgets · 25/05/2026 11:54

CaramacBar · 24/05/2026 12:24

A lot of people agree with her. She's allowed to express an opinion on the topic

Irrelevant, she went off-topic old fruit, that's my point

Besidemyselfwithworry · 25/05/2026 11:56

redboxer321 · 24/05/2026 09:57

How do you know you'd be the second?

This
there could have been loads!!!

im sorry but that would make me feel icky!

rainbowunicorn22 · 25/05/2026 12:02

Yes,but if you had a new one would you not be thinking that this was what he did it with her on their chair!

Pedallleur · 25/05/2026 14:28

Additup · 25/05/2026 11:20

😂😂😂
I have never heard of a sex chair, but now I shall use the term with abandon and keep an eye out when visiting friends.

Personally I prefer a good, solid settee because apart from having sex on it you can also sit, read chat, watch TV and it looks good in the living room.

I think IKEA have missed a trick not having a sex chair in the catalogue. Those clever Swedes could come up with a multi purpose one so all those could be achieved.

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 25/05/2026 21:09

Badbadbunny · 24/05/2026 14:55

That's why it's better to get one of those huge bean bags! Just as good for different positions but "innocent" looking for friends and family.

God I remember having sex in my bean bag when I was young and bendy. Even then it wasn't as easy as I thought it would be,a lot of movement of the beads. And it was velour...so, juices.

Calliopespa · 25/05/2026 23:14

I still think there is a lot to be said for a bed,

Especially when you think how easily laundered the sheets are.

Autumngirl5 · 26/05/2026 00:17

TFImBackIn · 24/05/2026 10:06

Yes, you know you're in for a really good time when he brings out the sex chair and the waterproof sheet. It's everything a woman could dream of.

It is gross either new or second or even third hand!

Goatsarebest · 26/05/2026 01:49

You're worth your own sex chair.

Goatsarebest · 26/05/2026 01:52

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 25/05/2026 21:09

God I remember having sex in my bean bag when I was young and bendy. Even then it wasn't as easy as I thought it would be,a lot of movement of the beads. And it was velour...so, juices.

In your bean bag or On your bean bag. I would imagine they provide completely different challenges 😂

Goatsarebest · 26/05/2026 01:53

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 25/05/2026 21:09

God I remember having sex in my bean bag when I was young and bendy. Even then it wasn't as easy as I thought it would be,a lot of movement of the beads. And it was velour...so, juices.

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