Was I wrong to report this?

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Name changed for this, as absolutely don't want it linked to my regular posts.
Last weekend, a male friend of mine sent me a sexually graphic video (him masturbating to climax) totally out of the blue.
For context, this is a friend of 6 years, 5 of which he has had a girlfriend.
Because of past trauma (including being raped as a child and, separately, as an adult), I totally freaked out over this and reported him to the police (after contacting his girlfriend, then blocking him on everything).
Have I overreacted?

No. Good on you. He had no right.

No you are not wrong at all! Good for you. You did the right thing.i hope.youre okay.

Not wrong to report but maybe wrong to watch to the end.

Depends. If one of my friends sent me something like that, my first thought would be it was sent to the wrong person rather than it being aimed at me. So to speak. So I'd probably find out first before reacting.

I’d have zero tolerance for this from any friend, OP, so I’d absolutely report it.

This is just the same as flashing, really, since it’s unsolicited and he has no idea how you would react to it. The only way in which it wouldn’t be totally creepy and violating would be if you’d discussed it between you and you’d given your enthusiastic consent, like any other sex act.

Let him understand the seriousness of what he’s done and suffer the consequences.

I’d assume wrong person, so I’d check first.

Assuming sending it to you was deliberate (as opposed to an accidental send, intended for the GF) he will now hopefully learn that
a) actions have consequences and
b) women don't want unsolicited sexual videos.

You did the right thing.

Are you sure it wasn’t an error op and he sent it to you by mistake?

I voted YANBU, but if it genuinely was out of the blue (not text either?), this would be my first thought.

I’d never buy this as an excuse. If you were sending this sort of thing, you’d be checking and double checking you were sending it to the right person before you pressed send. I’ll bet none of these men accidentally send a dick pic to their boss.

Giving him a get-out clause by offering him the chance to claim it wasn’t meant for you is just allowing him to get away with it without consequences.

Seems to be a fair chance it was a mistake 🙈 I don’t think YABU for reporting, no one should receive that 🤢

what have the police done?

Absolutely this.

Ew. Of course you were right.

Not least if it was a mistake, actually, since if he’s carelessly sending by accident to randoms then it could be a child next.

🤣🤣

Didn't watch to the end as such: watched the first few seconds, then later watched the last few seconds when I had a female friend with me for support.
The video was 7 mins long, so I probably watched 10 seconds or thereabouts in total.

Sorry to hear about what happened in your past, OP. You are absolutely, undoubtedly, 100% correct to have reported this slime bag. Well done x

Sorry to drip feed, I messaged asking wtf he thought he was doing. He replied that he couldn't help but do it.
It was late at night, so possibly been drinking.

If you were disturbed by it then it’s perfectly reasonable to report it.

Sorry, I absolutely should have clarified that it wasn't a mistake, as before I blocked him I messaged him asking wtf he had done that and he said he couldn't help it because he had been thinking about me.
Sorry for the drip feed: this is the first time I have written any of this down.

Why is this funny to you?

No , it's bloody disgusting. I bet you are traumatised as I would be .

No, YANBU. I wouldn’t want to receive that from anyone, certainly not someone that I wasn’t romantically involved with. 7 minutes, too. 🤢
I'm not sure I would have reported it to the police, but I can understand why you did.

I know you think you're probably being clever/amusing, but you are coming across as a bit of a twunt.