Was I wrong to report this?

[Farageneedstoeffoff]

Name changed for this, as absolutely don't want it linked to my regular posts.
Last weekend, a male friend of mine sent me a sexually graphic video (him masturbating to climax) totally out of the blue.
For context, this is a friend of 6 years, 5 of which he has had a girlfriend.
Because of past trauma (including being raped as a child and, separately, as an adult), I totally freaked out over this and reported him to the police (after contacting his girlfriend, then blocking him on everything).
Have I overreacted?

Thank you for everyone who has replied so far.
The PC who took my statement (a male, which was a bit tough when talking about how it made me feel) was very kind and gently spoken (over the phone), but he was covering the desk for his Sargeant (spelling?).
I will follow it up in a few weeks, as I don't think it'll be high priority for follow up.
I've lost a friend, as well as being very shaken up by all of this.
I may sound pathetic and hyperbolic, but I think anyone who has taken the piss out of this post is either pissed or a prick.

Well done OP, it’s invasive and offensive

I am so sorry this happened to you and even more sorry for some of the responses you have had, I struggle to believe you have had so many 'so what?' type of responses, especially given you were explicit about previous abuse.
You sound strong, and have very good boundaries for yourself, plus by reporting this you are helping to protect others, it all adds to evidence.
Look after yourself, do something good to celebrate reporting this slimy low-life 💐

Men are arseholes. Dont feel bad for reporting personally I think you are brave!

i 100% think you did the right thing and I would do the same.

sending unsolicited naked videos or photos should be classified under the law as flashing. You did not consent to see that.

i believe every woman should report it to the police every time it happens. Why is it yet another thing that we are expected to just grin and bear it off men?

Id be really upset don't know if Id be brave enough to go to police. If it wasn't a mistake then yes Id be highly distressed.

How very gross. Given he seems to have done this on purpose I think you are right to have reported. Receiving such a video late at night would have left me feeling threatened. I would have been double checking the doors and windows.

Well done for reporting and please look after yourself and ignore people being awful on here,

Sick fuck. Truly.

It doesn’t matter if he did send it to you by mistake. He shouldn’t be sending it to anyone.

Although he lives in a different town, I was checking the doors and windows!
I've got cPTSD, so hypervigilant, but barely slept since!

If he’s your friend then what an idiot he was to spoil your friendship like that. You’ll not think of him in the same light again. If it was a mistake then he was really careless and stupid.

What a dirty bastard and so bizarre that he sent it on purpose out of the blue.

Not unreasonable now I've seen he meant to send it to you, and it wasn't meant for someone else.

I heartily wish I'd reported certain men in my past. Maybe they'd have learned some respect.

Good for you.

Actually this. He will likely be flagged up on a ? Claire's law ? request for this I imagine, if nothing else is done.

I hope he never needs a DBS check.

Quite honestly, if he isn't prosecuted for this, when it's so clear cut it was intentional, what's the point of having the law about this at all though? A very obvious pervert.

Cyberflashing is a crime, you have clear evidence and a clear offender, and this should be a quick win for the police. Do mention cyberflashing and the online communications act 2023 when you contact the police again. Ask them why they haven't acted.

Not if you did not ask for the vid or expect it. Think with SM, men seem to think we want d*k pics and expect us to send back same kind of thing. I would never send anyone anything I wouldn't be embarrassed if my grandad saw. Unfortunately the days are gone of Polaroid pics lol...wouldn't trust anyone including a partner coz if it doesn't end well, revenge p*n also seems to be rhe norm. I have not had your life experience, and I would find that disturbing so I can not how you felt receiving that content, on your phone and in your face...I would imagine you were genuinely shocked.
And who wants a bf that does that. If he sent it to you, who else has he done that too. Nope, what you did was right for you. You can't be judged for that. You did the gf a fav at same time...you have clearly been re-triggered in the process or would not be posting deeply sensitive info about yourself. I hope you find peace and have/find a decent partner who restores your faith and trust again:)

Made me laugh too! But I would have watched the whole thing actually!!🤣

I think you've been really brave and done the right thing OP. Please don't feel bad.
He is a prize cunt and deserves whatever is coming to him.

Not helpful to the OP though...

I'm sorry there's been so many insensitive twunts on your thread @Farageneedstoeffoff .

A couple of years ago a male friend of mine started acting really out of character ( sexually) He'd been quite prudish before. He'd had a fever before this and I'm thinking it had affected his brain. He was strange with others too. I had to distance myself which was very sad.
I can relate somewhat to the sadness of losing the friend you knew. But the trauma you experienced before this is horrific. I hope you can move forward 🙏 ❤️

You do not sound pathetic or hyperbolic, far from it. You are so brave; I’m sorry you lost a friend, but he wasn’t really, was he? Best wishes @Farageneedstoeffoff

The reason this is so gross to me is that my ex husbands affair woman ( who he also cheated on) sent me videos of him doing this. I was telling her that he will cheat on her too. She sent me those photos 6 yrs ago. He cheated on her too. She then went on to send photos of him and his now partner to his work place. She is now being done for revenge porn.

Oh, please! 🙄

It may be your opinion, but it is fact that incidents like this escalate, often to violence. By reporting, @Farageneedstoeffoff did the right thing. If he does this again it will not be because no one knew he'd done it before. Now there's a trail.

And FYI, you must have missed the part where she said she is a sexual abuse survivor and has cPTSD. Surely if you had her history, you'd report.