Was I wrong to report this?

[Farageneedstoeffoff]

Name changed for this, as absolutely don't want it linked to my regular posts.
Last weekend, a male friend of mine sent me a sexually graphic video (him masturbating to climax) totally out of the blue.
For context, this is a friend of 6 years, 5 of which he has had a girlfriend.
Because of past trauma (including being raped as a child and, separately, as an adult), I totally freaked out over this and reported him to the police (after contacting his girlfriend, then blocking him on everything).
Have I overreacted?

Maybe he sent it by mistake. I don't think I would have contacted the police if it was somebody I knew and hadn't behaved badly in the past. But if it happened again I would report it.

ODFOD.

Big drip feed there. You’ve already reported. Why are you asking now?

Yep, I've already apologised for the drip feed, but whatever.
I guess because it's so recent, it has been on my mind a lot this week.
I think a lot of AIBU posts are more "Was I unreasonable"?!

Have I overreacted?

No. Absolutely not.

Men are fucking pigs, and they need to face the consequences of their disgusting actions.

Wouldnt have reported it would have just blocked

Oh, God, that is disgusting, OP. I am really, really sorry. You did the perfect thing in reporting him, absolutely. That is predatory behaviour and it might have escalated. He needs to know, in no uncertain terms, that there are consequences for doing things like that. It's not 1985 anymore.

You're a HERO for doing the right thing!!!

If people don’t report these things then these disgusting perverts will keep on doing it.

Good God, that's fucking horrible. I'm so sorry that happened to you.

I absolutely agree. How bloody dare he. 🤬

You know, once, I was followed by a boy in his mid teens who had his hand down his trousers and then thought it would be really funny to wave his penis at me. Well, I called the police on that bastard and had a great result. He had to do community service and make a donation to a charity of my choice, and the female police officer who came to my house next day after the incident said that he was completely and utterly mortified that his parents had found out what he was up to. ("Like, really, really upset," she said.) HAHAHAAA!

I truly believe it was to his benefit that he experienced consequences. That behaviour - following a women with his hands down his trousers and then waving his penis at her threateningly - is the early stages of sexual predator behaviour, and my report gave him the opportunity for intervention.

As well as teaching him that he can't go around trying to intimidate women.

Yes, and they often ESCALATE.

Sorry this happened to you.

i was very shocked after being married for 15 years and joining OLD that I’d be having a “normal” conversation with someone to then recover a dick pic or video like this out of the blue.

I didn’t realise it was a criminal offence!

I’m so sorry this happened and of course you did the right thing. What did the girlfriend say? I hope you get a positive response from the police.

If it was meant for you, and not asked for, it is a violation and definitely should have been reported, for sure. These men need to learn.

Thats my opinion, I would not report

My FIL sent my BiL a dick pic meant for his gf they were txting earlier that day and the names are one letter apart. It does happen.

I personally wouldn't have reported it to the police if it was the first time he'd done something like that. The friendship would be over and I think I'd tell his GF. If it happened again after I ended the friendship I'd be inclined to report it.

No not at all. I'm sorry he did this to you.
You don't need to detail your past experiences to justify reporting honestly, what happened warranted reporting.

I'm also sorry if it's shaken your faith in people and in your judgement, because you counted this person as a friend and he has betrayed you.
And you have lost a friend as a result of his actions, which is always hard even when for the best. Even worse if it has an impact on your wider friendship group.

I hope the police treat you with decency and efficiency. I don't see how it couldn't be considered a crime.

No, good for you OP. You 100% done the right thing and it’s exactly what I’d advise my DD to do if it ever happened to her when she’s older. I wish more people took a stance like this rather than laughing it off with whatever shitty excuse the waste of space comes up with when he realises he’s not getting where he thought he would. Perhaps men would think twice about their actions.

No. He comitted a crime and you are the victim. It’s absolutely your right to report him for doing so. He was your friend and he’s broken a huge boundary and forced his sexual acts upon you via the video. I’m so sorry he did that to you.

@Farageneedstoeffoff Both reasonable and appropriate to report him to the police. I'd have done the same. Zero tolerance. Well done for reporting and I hope the police pursue it.

I voted YABU because it might have been sent to you in error but I feel like you acted on instinct and you know better. So I would say no actually, YANBU. It is against the law to send these types of images and videos unsolicited.

Hell if my dh sent that I'd be livid never mind a virtual stranger.