AIBU to feel upset there are no photos of my proposal?

[KatieHW]

DP proposed to me a couple of weeks ago. I feel really sad he didn’t arrange for anyone to capture this, there’s no photos let alone videos. I have said to him in the past that if I was to ever get engaged then it would be important for me to be able to look back on it in the future. When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

Op, you are focusing on the wrong things which make a relationship & marriage work.

If you can't genuinely let go of these negative feelings and believe you will hold resentment...do NOT get married. You are not right for each other.

How old are you?

Dont worry, he might realise his worth and leave you, maybe the next one will then arrange a videographer, everyone wins.

Having a photographer when you get engaged at an intimate moment, when your husband has booked you a holiday to Rome isn't knowing your worth. It's a want.

I don't believe it is about you looking back fondly, because you could do that with your own photographs (I've got a very excited selfie somewhere, not to mention a pretty photograph of the sky)

You've fallen for the social media influencer hype. Your husband to be clearly hasn't. Are you compatible? If it's such a huge deal, maybe not.

Your friends also sound shallow.

😂😂

What an odd thing to do anyway. My husband proposed at the pub, that was fine. It's so fake with a photo or video, very staged and tacky

Can’t wait to see OP post about how the wedding plans are going!!!

Poor chap. He’s focused on the wrong thing. Wanting to marry you and not getting evidence that it happened. Are you sure it did? There’s no photographic or video evidence so maybe it didn’t?

Hahahaha are you actually trying to imply he didn’t value your worth because he took you to Rome to propose but didn’t hire a fricking photographer?

This world is unreal nowadays. Such a pathetic complaint. Poor gentleman. Lovely romantic proposal and it’s still not good enough.

Course, he’s only down the road 🤣

He needs to know his worth too and spending his life with someone who values pictures more than real life is not worthwhile.

So far so good thanks! I am with the girls later to plan my Majorca hen x

Poor you. Yours is clearly much lower than your own estimation.

Oh wow ffs he took you away to a romantic place and what you wanted an entourage for photos. Seriously you need to be more grateful knowing your worth is nothing to do with how someone proposes. Op maybe you should just say you got the wrong guy proposing because he never did what you expected of him. I actually feel sorry for the guy now you’re very high maintenance.

My DH proposed first thing in the morning with half a face of shaving foam. Romantic, no; memorable, yes. Can't believe your post.

There's having standards and there's being absolutely bloody ridiculous.

Does everything in life need to be recorded to actually be a life changing event!!! You have been engulfed in fantasy land of AI & Insta reels, flash mob & fireworks aka external validation and approval the proposal was worthy.

That’s awfully ungrateful 🤣 take a selfie and be on your way

How old are you @KatieHW ?

Mind your photographer!

Will the hens have to pay for your flights and hotel and hen paraphernalia to show you’re worth it?

Mine was in bed. I’d have been bloody furious if a photographer had popped up.

Bridezilla on speed!

Before planning the wedding... says a lot.

Classy. Magaluf or Santa Ponsa I assume. With pneumatic lips, Russian lashes and fake tan. Lots of rose wine and pink 'Hen' sashes, all photographed with everyone doing duck face.

It’s rare you see 99% saying you’re unreasonable. I’d sit with that for a bit op.