AIBU to feel upset there are no photos of my proposal?

[KatieHW]

DP proposed to me a couple of weeks ago. I feel really sad he didn’t arrange for anyone to capture this, there’s no photos let alone videos. I have said to him in the past that if I was to ever get engaged then it would be important for me to be able to look back on it in the future. When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

Nearly hun, you forgot the penis straws xx

This is bat shit!
What a wonderful partner but kinda feel sorry for him. He should of arranged recordings/photos? Madness! Total total madness on your part.

I’m going to guess that they’ll have at least one night where all the hens have to wear black and the bride to be wears white.

Op ha Of course you are. Telling them how this is going to work don’t forget there self worth before you start dictating the next few years. Having them spend a fortune because your self worth is more important than your hens. God help them!
i Hope your dp gets some sense and finds someone else for his self worth.

Lordy lord and you couldnt take your own photos because?? How did people manage before social media one wonders! Oh i know they actually showed people the ring when they saw them they didnt just get engaged for the likes

Maybe this isn't the forum for you as 99% of respondents aren't 'the type to understand'.

Very good OP, you had everyone going for quite a while there.

Well at least your fiancé has fair warning to run for the hills

Literally nobody else really wants to see your proposal / engagement photos unless they are the type of people bitching behind your back about it. Life is for living, not instagram. If this is your reaction to his proposal I’d wager it’s not going to be a long lasting relationship anyway, you can make sure your next fiance gets it right.

I think people are being mean. It is quite common to make it a special memory and record it. However, as long as it was meaningful and you’re in the right relationship, that’s all that matters. You’ll definitely remember 😊

err... videographer, please!
Standards!

I do understand it’s frustrating if you said you would like photos and he didn’t do it, but he obviously thought it was more “that would be nice” rather than it being so important to you that it would mar the excitement of getting engaged. I got engaged (and married) in 2022 and don’t know a single person who has proposal photos. It didn’t even occur to me or my now husband.
A couple did “engagement shoots” - maybe you could do that?

It’s funny that the happiest couple I know didn’t do the formal proposal and huge wedding - yet somehow they have coped without every second being recorded for posterity

Maybe I'm just getting old, but sometimes I think it's nice to live in the moment and have personal moments without any media commentary.

What happens if the woman turns down the proposal? Does the photographer capture shots of both people looking utterly gutted/horrified?

If you are going to be that performative then it seems a shame to waste the money

Make sure you film the planning meeting.

Weird.

Why?

The man you love (I assume) has asked to marry you. Why do you need a performance? 🙄

So often the way. People who are focussed on the relationship rather than the status and party.

Particularly when she was taken to Rome… he should have arranged for someone in a legionary outfit to jump out from behind the colosseum to take some
photos.

I love how OP has suggested we’re too old to understand her need to be utterly self-absorbed. Poor bastard arranged a proposal in Rome and she’s pissed off he didn’t arrange for professional photography. What a wanker, huh? LTB immediately.

Fuck, I’m tired.

I got asked in the back of a carpark. Surely it’s about being asked by the person you want to spend the rest of you life with? Not a grand show to make your friends jealous?

If she isn’t, she will be much clearer with her instructions for husband no 2.

You are being thoroughly ridiculous, and your friends are just as bad. You have got it captured somewhere to look back on in the future - it’s called your memory and it’s how normal people look back on moments that happened in their lives.

Come on guys, it’s obviously a wind up!