AIBU to plan a 90s-style birthday party with traditional party food?

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Is a 90s style birthday party really that bad of a idea?
ds will be turning 7 soon and we have plans for his birthday but he still wants to play with some of his friends etc.
So I thought we would host a mini party at the house for 20
Party would include
party games pass the parcel, duck duck goose etc.
Party food ( which has caused the biggest fuss)
sandwiches (ham, chesse, egg mayo)
cocktail sausages
mini sausage rolls
mini pizzas
party rings
faiy cakes
animal biscuits
onion rings
chesse puffs
salt and vinegar sticks
juice in a cup with straw
Basically junk food but very 90s kids party.
Would you let your kid come?

Just to add mn ai suggested the title

Agree that the party food is standard food for a child's party regardless of decade.
You clearly mix in a very different circle if this is not the norm. I recall when my son was around 5 going to a party and eating 4 little cakes and being so excited by this. Obviously he wouldn't do this on a normal day, but this is part of the fun of a party having special food to normal!

I think as someone else has said there is a risk if doing party games that the kids won't cooperate or some won't join in. What is the plan then? You mention neighbour having a bouncy castle, but is it a big one or more of a toddler version?
Also at that age not all kids are good losers. We had an entertainer at my daughter's party and they did musical statues and one boy cried and basically threw a tantrum when he was out, so much so that she said she was wrong, kept him in and he won a prize. I was furious at enabling him and had expected his mum who had stayed to intervene.
If you are supervising 20 kids are 5-6 have their own agenda are you happy with them wandering off round your house doing what they want or will you be zoning bits off?

I would say food is the least concerning part.

OP I am doing this for my son’s birthday at the end of June. To be fair I don’t live in an area where the parents asked for the menu, I just put on the invite what time to drop round and where 😂😂

I would say could you have a healthy section as well to please the parents but why should you? One party full of sugar is not the end of the world for a child. I hate the way birthday parties have become a bit ridiculous with parents dictating to the host!

Its more that everything is incredibly strongly (artificially) flavoured. A lot of kids like blander options. Of all on offer my son wouldn’t eat probably eat a cheese sandwich if he was really hungry, and come out with opinion that the party was horrible because he would be hungry.
And egg mayo sandwich sitting out for a while - yuck.
Breadsticks, cheese cubes (mild cheddar), cucumber, carrot sticks, cherry tomatoes cater to the milder tastes, are cheap and healthy as an added bonus.

Why are you calling it a 90s style birthday party? It’s just a traditional child’s birthday party, my family has been doing it long before and long after the 90s! It sounds like you’ve found something niche on TikTok or something.

What is 90s about this?

The 90s is like yesterday anyway, its not some alternative universe in the past.

Unless you mean 1890s.

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This game used to be very popular indeed, there are endless references to it in fiction (A Christmas Carol mentions it several times), it's a classic party game. It's been discouraged in this age of health and safety; but I think anyone who has never played it has missed out. I remember a group of us playing it (as teenagers) during a dull moment on a school trip abroad.

DS went to a party like this when he was 10. All the kids said it was the most fun party they'd been to.
Prizes for party games were put in a bag for the kids to choose themselves. Mostly what MN would call plastic tat. A surprising number of boys came out wearing silver, sparkly tiaras that they'd chosen.

Yes I'd be more worried about playing duck duck goose in your house (unless it's truly massive!).

Honestly it would never occur to me to ask for a party menu unless my kid had an allergy. Or to share a party menu aside from asking about allergies or dietary requirements!

I remember playing blind man's buff at a children's party back in the 70s. Unfortunately, I was wearing a homemade crocheted dress so whenever I was caught, the blind man knew immediately that it was me. Very frustrating!

Sounds like the parents would have a fit if fairy sandwiches were added to the menu.

OP I would just say “the menu is the menu hope you can come but I understand if not, let me know by X date.” They can’t control what you offer but they can control if they accept the invite or not

Your 90s party food is pretty much exactly the same as the food at my birthday parties in the late 70s and early 80s. The only difference I can see is that my party also had vol-au-vents.

ETA. I think it sounds absolutely fine for party food. Just not very 90s. You could throw in some tuna pasta bake, so they can eat like a 90s university student if you like.

What is 90s about that? I thought it was going to be adults dressed as Oasis and the Spice Girls

It might be a 90s theme but tbh in many ways kids parties haven't moved on from that (except nowadays people might put some token humous out with carrot sticks to make an effort to be healthy)! So I don't know if it would even be apparent to everyone that it's meant to be retro!

It’s so weirdly disproportionate though. You couldn’t have had a crunchier upbringing than I did - seventies’/eighties’ lentil and wholemeal everything, we all dressed in brown corduroy and were nearly vegetarian, but fairy sandwiches were the signal that it was a party. I remember going to up the baker to get the white bread - they sliced it themselves so you’d get them to put the thin setting on the slicer. Then you’d get to eat the hundreds and thousandsy crusts as they were cut off while they were getting made - still my favourite bit of getting ready for a party. And we’d all go back to normal afterwards with no harm done and none of us ended up with terrible melt-downs or holes in our teeth. What has led people to be so terrified of relaxing a rule for a special occasion? Come to that, how did food come to be this terribly anxious stressy arena for rules at all? It’s not good for anyone, kids or parents.

How weird, and rude, of people to openly dislike this idea. I mean, I'd have just said we're having a little party at home and left it at that. There's nothing particularly 90s about it, it's a perfectly standard kids party.

We live in a pretty diverse and mixed income area (London). At the vast majority of the kids parties we've been to - including the more affluent/MC families - the food has been junky stuff out packets. Sausage rolls and party rings for one meal isn't going to do their little darlings any harm. Sorry you're having to deal with this stress, as if organising a party isn't enough work already.

You forgot the jam sandwiches
But most importantly, it won't be a proper 90s kids birthday party unless there's cheese and pineapple on cocktail sticks jammed into a raw potato covered in tinfoil.

The kids with the health crazed mothers can divide the potato up between I guess

It’s become commonplace again here. It was soft play for a while but increasingly has become community centres and 90s style parties exactly like this with junk food, entertainers, indoor bouncy castles etc.

I have such fond memories of 90s parties. I remember my friends having them at home with a clown or magician.

Definitely I agree with you. It’s a party, parties are fun and have nice food. A ‘90s buffet’ will not have disastrous effects on the children or their health for 1 meal.

What do kids have at parties these day i don't understand the objections.

I had 90s children and I would throw on a fruit plate for some vitamins but generally it was just what you are planning.

This sounds like an absolutely normal standard kids party to me. I'm sure it will be great! This is what I did for my dc and what most parties they went to were like, so I really don't think you need to worry that there's anything unusual about it.

What exactly are you worried people will be unhappy about?

This. The food sounds exactly like all of kids parties I go to nowadays. I've got my own sons birthday party this week. Food is a sea of beige with just a few veg and fruit thrown in.

I'm not even sure why you think it's controversial. What sort of parents are you socialising with?

I think we've reached such a sad point if parents are so fanatical about food that they refuse to let their kids come to a party over some processed foods.

I presume if these parents are so uptight then their children will be eating fresh, healthy food for the rest of the week. What sort of devastating health consequences do they think ONE meal of processed food at a kids party is going to do.

Good health is not about food alone. Its about enjoyment of life, spending time with friends, having fun and making memories are all equally important. So many parents seem to have completely forgotten this and happy for their children to be the ones to miss out on fun with friends, memories of going to parties and all that's associated with it for the fear of them eating a few sausage rolls and ham sandwiches.

Completely nuts. This is a wholly normal birthday party set up for that age. Not particularly 90s or even 80s. Just “birthday party”.

Add some placatory veg sticks and strawberries and a cheese and pineapple hedgehog.

I can thoroughly recommend the game of “musical silly faces” to round the party off - like musical statues but they all have to pull a silly face or strike a silly pose when the music stops. You pick a winner of the silliest face each time. Very easy to fix it so nobody gets upset at being out (yeah it’s good for them to be resilient but at the end of a party they’re all tired and it’s about them having a fun time together!).

So a fairly standard kids party then? What are the parents fussing about? Do they want a load of healthy food then kids probably won't eat?

Isn't this a normal party though