AIBU to plan a 90s-style birthday party with traditional party food?

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Is a 90s style birthday party really that bad of a idea?
ds will be turning 7 soon and we have plans for his birthday but he still wants to play with some of his friends etc.
So I thought we would host a mini party at the house for 20
Party would include
party games pass the parcel, duck duck goose etc.
Party food ( which has caused the biggest fuss)
sandwiches (ham, chesse, egg mayo)
cocktail sausages
mini sausage rolls
mini pizzas
party rings
faiy cakes
animal biscuits
onion rings
chesse puffs
salt and vinegar sticks
juice in a cup with straw
Basically junk food but very 90s kids party.
Would you let your kid come?

Just to add mn ai suggested the title

How on earth is this a 90’s style party? This is just bog standard party games and food for a 7 years old party since the dawn of ages.

Did you send out invites stating it was a 90’s style birthday party? If so this may have confused some people, I would not have known what you meant if it was for a child’s party.

For me the 90’s was BritPop, illegal raves, and a lot of drugs.
You may want to update your party invite by stating it’s just a bog standard birthday party for a 7 year old.

Sounds like an ideal party

It is rude but OP asked whether she was being unreasonable to have such a party with that specific food, not whether their responses to her were unreasonable.

Now that she knows at least 20% of parents aren’t too keen and that there could be more, that having zero fruit / veg is unusual for her area AND that the party hasn’t actually happened yet so it’s all within her control to organise a bit of fruit / veg, why wouldn’t she?

To be fair I'm confused about the scenario where she has shared the menu before hand with parents. All the parties we've been to its been just a case of any dietary requirements. We go to endless ones at the moment all similar format (we are peak reception class parties) and having to look at a menu for all of them would be a bore (caveating that I know I'm not having to manage allergies).

So thinking about it perhaps the other parents thought she wanted genuine feedback when they suggested fruit etc.

DS has a mate who he has known since he was 10, this friend does have a life threatening food allergy and has an epi pen. I was always careful for him obviously. But that was it.

There is always a cheese and pineapple hedgehog at my get togethers. I’m having my 60th soon. There will be an extensive and beautifully put together charcuterie board, lovingly enhanced with fresh rosemary alongside a cheese and pineapple hedgehog with its body made from a silver foil wrapped potato.

DH cousins Mum was like this as soon as his cousins had their own money they were wolfing down shite as had never been allowed it.

Yeah, I have a relative whose children were like that too. No sugar allowed at all, so when they were ever anywhere with chocolate or sweets, they would nick handfuls and hide away to wolf it down. All while she paraded around saying, “oh, mine would never touch that rubbish you have put out, they make better choices.” Hmmmm. They really didn’t.

One ended up with an ED from their mothers (my cousin, for anyone who thinks it is a SIL!) obsessive food restriction.

I’ve always been the other way. My children can have a Mars bar for breakfast, lunch and dinner if they like. They don’t though. They are the ones who choose the healthier options 95% of the time. I know all children are different, but I’ve never stressed or obsessed about food or made anything off limits.

Mine never had anything off limits either - and one genuinely won’t eat overly flavoured food at all. he just doesn’t like it. We have crisps and sweets freely available, they don’t get eaten. All kids are different!