AIBU to plan a 90s-style birthday party with traditional party food?

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Is a 90s style birthday party really that bad of a idea?
ds will be turning 7 soon and we have plans for his birthday but he still wants to play with some of his friends etc.
So I thought we would host a mini party at the house for 20
Party would include
party games pass the parcel, duck duck goose etc.
Party food ( which has caused the biggest fuss)
sandwiches (ham, chesse, egg mayo)
cocktail sausages
mini sausage rolls
mini pizzas
party rings
faiy cakes
animal biscuits
onion rings
chesse puffs
salt and vinegar sticks
juice in a cup with straw
Basically junk food but very 90s kids party.
Would you let your kid come?

Just to add mn ai suggested the title

Sounds like fun. I once went on a bachelorette party that was 90s themed. Mind you it was for adults so a lot more booze involved but a lot of fun. Maybe add a veggie and fruit tray for aom healthy options.

I also think this sounds like a normal kids party. Add a plate of salad sticks, bowl of tomatoes and a plate of fruit to add a bit of colour/contrast/healthy option.

'90s kids' party food was all about convenience! But if you want you could "healthy it up" (sorry) with little cups of crudités like strips of carrot, celery, bell/sweet pepper, and cucumber. Broccoli or cauliflower "florets", mild radishes, baby carrots, and cherry tomatoes work too. (You put Ranch dressing in the bottom of the cup, but the menu-readers don't need to know that.) Hummus and warm pita triangles (OK, mostly for the parents) and little cups of cut up fruit and berries to be eaten with fingers are also on theme but come across as a little more wholesome/less junk food-y. Maybe some fruit leather?

It's not a 90,s party. It's the bog standard party that the majority have.

Isn’t that all pretty standard still for a kids party? The food anyway.

I saw 90's style party and I thought:
grunge and heroin chic.

Glad to know you meant kids' food. 😅

Did you call it a 90s party in the invite and that led to them asking about the food?! It’s not remotely a 90s party unless it is themed with clothes, music etc. it just sounds like a party. If you’d just sent out invites to little Bobby’s 7th party then presumably no one would have batted an eyelid?

Well they are unreasonable if they are actually asking you to change the menu.

That’s a very processed and unhealthy menu and similar to OP, isn’t the norm around me. Whether it’s right or not that parents have commented, surely just add some healthy fruit / veg options and let them know, now that they already know about the menu? It’s up to them whether they decide to send their kids or not.

This isnt a 90s party. Its a party. Not sure why it would be a problem.

Sounds like a great (and normal) kids party.

My DCs were primary age in the 90s, and I had one party as a joint one for them both with a ‘DJ’ and food was just hot dogs out of a tin in a white finger roll, with a choice of brown or ‘red’ sauce (aka tomato ketchup), plus a piece of the cake and orange squash. My DCs still recall that as the best party as they remember the big bag of prizes I gave to the DJ to use for Best Dancer, Musical Statues, Musical Chairs, Standing on one leg the longest, Pass the Parcel (without a prize in every layer), etc. DJ made sure every child won something through the afternoon. I remember it fondly too as the easiest party I organised. But also because one poor child turned up to get his hot dog and promptly announced he was vegetarian. He got two bread rolls and went away very happy 😂

Really?! That is normal party food around here (South East affluent area). Yes usually some fruit and veg chucked in which the kids ignore. Where do you live?

I wouldn't dream of commenting on someone else's party food menu. Height of rudeness!

I did this for my daughter’s 3rd birthday! Not a beige balloon arch in sight! It was wonderful and colourful and full of pizza!

This is like any other party in the three decades before 2000. If parents are complaining then their children don’t have to come

I had parties like this in the 70s. Definitely not a 90s theme.

I would add some carrot sticks, cucumbers, apples, maybe berries (my son wouldn’t eat any of what you suggested), but otherwise fine

I have done this and also with a bouncy castle in the garden. I would say that if you plan on party games, I would keep it to 10-15 kids max. It feels a bit overwhelming with too many. I always invited 13-15 because a few definitely wouldnt come and id end up with 10-12 (I made sure a couple of friends kids could come so there would be at least 6 including my 2)! Homemade parties are better with smaller numbers imo.
I would never tell people what food there was! I do similar food with some salad bits and cheese and pineapple.

Oh my goodness. Tarquin only eats olives, avocados and cucumber sticks….

This is still a thing. I've done four such parties for my daughter and she's been to several. Don't understand why it's even mentioned, it's what parties are. Musical statues gone down well by the way!

It's sandwiches, crisps, biscuits and cake essentially. That's completely normal here except there would also be cucumber, tomatoes, carrot and grapes normally (all of which children seem very programmed to eat nowadays, even at a party!). Like a recent pp, I'm in an affluent area and it was all cloth nappies and extended breastfeeding round here so exactly the sort of parents you'd expect to be a bit overinvested in what their children eat. What part of the country are you in and do you think there's a reason it's so different to other areas in this regard? Genuinely curious what sort of area has these very healthy parties. And what kind of food is actually served?

Sounds just like what we did for DD2 in the zeroes.

However I agree with the others add some fruit and veg: cucumber and carrot sticks, tomatoes, half strawberries.

Maybe drop 2 of the 3 types of crisps.

Don't need fairy cakes if having birthday cake.

Tbh, I haven’t been to many parties like this, so perhaps it’s just different in my neck of the woods. My oldest child is only in reception though. Parties here have either been at soft play / trampoline park sort of affair or a hired village hall.

Honestly, I would worry about ds at a party at someone’s house because he can get really stupid and hyped up. I’ve only been to one party at someone’s house and the kids ransacked the hosts toys (not ds, although had I left him unsupervised he would have!) and left the playroom looking like Beirut.

The menu sounds fine, standard party stuff - no idea what people are fussing about there.

Pin the tail on the donkey is a must! Make sure you blindfold them properly, so there is no cheating. Or if you want to be really quaint, blind man’s buff. (I was recently talking to some thirty something people, who had never even heard of it!)

I’m 55 and have never heard of blind man’s buff, tbf

Not sure what the reference to 1990s is about? That’s the standard fare of food and games for kids parties since mine in the 70’s and right up to DDs birthday parties up to 10 years ago.
It’s a kids party formula that’s worked for decades, because kids love it.
Did you advertise it as a 1990s party ?