AIBU to plan a 90s-style birthday party with traditional party food?

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Is a 90s style birthday party really that bad of a idea?
ds will be turning 7 soon and we have plans for his birthday but he still wants to play with some of his friends etc.
So I thought we would host a mini party at the house for 20
Party would include
party games pass the parcel, duck duck goose etc.
Party food ( which has caused the biggest fuss)
sandwiches (ham, chesse, egg mayo)
cocktail sausages
mini sausage rolls
mini pizzas
party rings
faiy cakes
animal biscuits
onion rings
chesse puffs
salt and vinegar sticks
juice in a cup with straw
Basically junk food but very 90s kids party.
Would you let your kid come?

Just to add mn ai suggested the title

I'm not sure what kids parties you go to, but certainly fretting about healthy food at a kids party isn't the priority of any I've arranged or been too.

Most parents go to the effort of booking a venue, hiring entertainment/bouncy castles if that's what they are doing, organising games, sorting out invitations, contacting parents, making up gift bags and generally ensuring the kids have a good time and party to remember.

All of which takes time and effort. Yet you've somehow by passed all this and think that despite all the effort they've put in above, not having a fruit platter means they "can't be arsed, don't care"

And surely the priority of a kids party is in fact the kids and ensuring they have a great time and have fun. Not appeasing a small fraction of neurotic parents who seemingly think their child is bound for a lifetime of health problems because they can't go two hours without being offered an apple.

Sorry I know it’s already been asked, but what is distinctively 90s about it? Sounds like it could represent any decade really - it’s just standard crowd pleasing junk food for kids. Does your 7 year old so have a particular nostalgia for the 90s? Would kind of party would he like?

The parties my DC attended in the 90s were almost without exception at Macdonalds, at The Wacky Warehouse (soft play followed by nuggets and chips) or involved a trip to a petting farm with food laid on by the farm (nuggets and chips). I don't remember home parties being a thing at all, so don't know what food would be 90s themed for a party.
Showing my age, but its not THAT long ago surely, that children ate recognisably different foods from now? Maybe less concern with restricting junk, but I doubt the other parents would thank you for that.

It's the principle of it being incredibly rude to criticise food as a prospective guest. If they really care they can give their kid an apple on the way home.

Better check on the 90s music- there are some songs not suitable for such an age!!

Of course, no invites or replies by email or text.

This is an at home mini party, not a venue.
I would expect a little bit of variety in food, not just basically different types of crisps and cakes. A bowl of apples and a plate if cucumber would do the trick, its not hard.

And you would judge if there wasn't?

I'd be grateful, home party or not for my child to have been invited to a party and would have been appreciative of the effort the parents spent organising and hosting it. My main wish would be to ensure my child had a good time along with everyone else.

I can't imagine being so uptight and up my own arse, to be demanding that parents provide fruit and veg at a party and then when that isn't provided being so judgemental about it and making a fuss about it

I can't get past all these people "expecting variety" and critiquing food at a kids party like they are Jay Rayner reviewing a Michelin star restaurant.

If it bothers you that much, don't let your kids go to the parties. Just don't go crying when your child becomes at upset at being the one who is continually left out of being invited to parties.

I'd tell any parents who complain about the party food that they are welcome to bring/send along something for their precious child who can't indulge in occasional junk food at a party. 🙄

My son wouldn’t eat any of these - he doesn’t like strong flavours (not unusual for the age group), and all of these have strong flavours.
He would come out of the party unhappy.
In his parties, I offer a variety of food: crisps , fruit, vegetables, vegetarian, cheese cubes etc. I would like all guests to have a good time, and none of these are expensive or time consuming.
Its not about health, its about the fact that its basically a crisp /factory cake buffet which is very limited.

It's as well, how much realistically do kids eat of veg and fruit at a kids party? A few cucumber sticks? A few bits of cut up fruit at a push.

Hardly enough to meet one of their five a day, much less have any nutritional content or impact. And certainly not enough to cancel out all the cake and other items they eat.

All it is as I said, is a token gesture to appease some neurotic parents to help them feel more superior.

I'm not sure we're reading the same first post. I'm not sure in what world cheese/jam/ham sandwiches, cocktail sausages and crisps can be argued as strong flavours. In fact it sounds very similar to what you've said in your post of what you'd offer.

Yeah I'm not getting especially 90s vibes from the menu. 90s music I guess would be the main themed thing?

It's just regular kids party food. Which is cool.

If anyone doesn't like it they can send their kid in with a Nobu bento box or some home made flax seed and spinach/carob overnight oats?! 🤣

Those parents are rude, judgemental idiots. The more they are placated, the worse they get.

I've actually always been really surprised at how quickly the veg sticks and (particularly) fruit disappear at kids' parties - and I would be slightly surprised to see none at all, partially because of that. That said, I would never ask for a menu in advance (wtf?) and even more would never critique the food being served to the host.

My only thought is whether the children whose parents have made a fuss have a dietary restriction. It really wouldn't be a great menu if you were gluten-free! But even then there are much politer ways of noting there isn't anything for your child, e.g. offering to bring something for them.

Incidentally, I might also have said 'ooh, what's a 90s themed party?' but I wouldn't have meant 'send me a full detailed list of all the food'!

You forgot:

the necklaces and bracelets that are those sweets

jolly ranchers

monster munch

chubba chubs lollipops for the party bags

cherry drops

chicken dippers!! The OG shit chicken goujon

the mums with a problem can just not come or bring their kids... 🙄

Confusing. I thought this was just normal kids party food. Could someone fill me in as to what is currently considered normal for kids part food?

I am coeliac and so is my eldest child. I have never, ever expected anyone to cater for us and would never ask, and wouldn’t trust anyone too either, cross contamination is a ball ache. The amount of times people have “suprised” me with a sandwich and I have said thank you and disposed of it discreetly as I know they have used the same butter, same chopping board as they wouldn’t realise they shouldn’t it unreal.

I wouldn’t eat veg sticks, for example, as they would probably have been contaminated.

Most people I’ve met with dietary needs are like me - they don’t say anything and eat before or after and don’t make a big deal.

The only thing I'd be demanding at a 90s themed parties are these bad boys 😋😂

The accepted etiquette around me seems to be the parent of the child with dietary requirements (I know quite a few!) texts offering to bring a packed lunch for the child, and the hosting parent either gratefully accepts or says what they can provide and checks it would be ok (e.g. unopened things from a supermarket Free From range). This seems to work well, as I think it would be a bit awkward to have one child at the party not eating at all?

This is still the norm in much of the U.K., not everyone can afford fancy parties, your food selection is quite elaborate, many just serve jam sandwiches (with vegan spread, saves dealing with dietary issues) the cucumber and carrot sticks and put out then nobody touches them

Berries are usually the first to go, cherry tomatoes, cucumber and carrot sticks always get finished. Apples are usually eaten by some but not all.
Crisps - ready salted (which the op doesn’t offer) are usually gone, flavoured ones get barely touched.
Mini sausages and sausage rolls are usually eaten by a few, mini pizzas get eaten hot, but never cold. Party rings usually end up in the bin. Never seen animal crackers at a party, so no idea.

We all do things differently.

My son always prefered to eat before hand, as do I.

Its very, very rare that anyone actually notifies you aren’t eating to be honest, and when if they do and ask, a simple explanation is always fine.

Brining food is a pain in the arse that is more obvious than not eating, and having people ask about your medical needs is really boring, which they do if they seee you are eating your own food.

Or the host will try to make you something if you mention it before hand, and it’s so fucking awkward to have to try and pretend to eat it as you know it won’t be safe.

And free from supermarket stuff is expensive and most of it is crap, I wouldn’t want anyone wasting their money on it!

Easier to keep your mouth shut and blend into the crowd.