Mother in law didn’t throw me a baby shower, but is doing it for my sister in law.

[curlyhairedlady]

I completely understand that she’s closer to her daughter as she’s her mother.. however when I’ve been pregnant in the past, mother in law never offered to plan a baby shower for me. Now my sister in law is pregnant, she’s holding a baby shower for her.
When I’ve been pregnant in the past, MIL has always been competitive with me. Shame on me for bottle feeding.. she had natural births because she’s got a high pain tolerance ( I had C Sections). Now that SIL is scheduled for have a C Section she’s completely understanding of her choice. its not an easy family to be a part of but i do it for my partner.
She knows Im gutted I didn’t have a baby shower, and now she’s bombarding me with texts saying I need to be available on a certain date to attend the baby shower. I told her I can’t be there as I have something booked with the kids, and that my SIL and the baba are very lucky to have one. And she keeps bombarding me with more texts saying “you should come” etc, knowing I would have loved one.
I feel like she’s going to drive me to insanity. Nothing I say goes, ever. Am I being unreasonable feeling like this?
there is a lot more she has done to upset me in the past, but I’ve been trying to put it aside.

Then you don't have one.

It's not a necessity. I'm American and I didn't have one.

This is literally all about you. The entire post.
Surely you could have arranged your own baby shower?

Perhaps if she knows you would have loved one she thinks you'd also love to go to ne?

If you don't want to /can't then don't!

Why do you think she should have thrown one for you?

Did you or your partner ask her to?

Your own mum should be the one arranging your baby shower, if anyone does. Either that, or your sister or your best friend. Not your mother in law for goodness sake, she would probably think she was overstepping the mark if she even suggested it.