How many people have you slept with?

[Fearlesssloth]

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

1 - married to him nearly 30 years.

only 1. But I think that if you’re honest with your partner at the beginning it doesn’t matter at all. Everyone is different.

40 ish. I do have a list somewhere. I lived a louche life in London in the 80s and had many one night stands.

Same here

I don’t lie about it, I don’t openly discuss it but my husband knows.
Im 44, I’ve been with DH 11 years and I think it’s around 50.

Pardon my ignorance what is a French exit?

Leaving quietly sneeking out in the mornings before they wake.

Mid-forties, stopped counting at 120 people in my mid-twenties, though it definitely slowed down after that 😂

Edited to add - never lied about it!

I don’t remember any of their penises, and there’s “only” 8 of them.

I couldn’t pick my ex husband’s out of a line up and I was with him for 11 years.

They’re hardly a Picasso painting, why would you memorise them all.

Same here. I couldn't imagine having a ONS. I need to be emotionally and intellectually attached to someone first.

For me it's just been the boyfriend who I met in my first year at university who I was with for five years, then DH who I've been with for 38 years. I'm 61.

Some of the people I’ve had sex with struggled in the intellect department and emotion was none existent but they were very nice to look at and fab in the bedroom.

More than my mother, (probably) fewer than any of my daughters, and one less than DH.

Most of the research suggests they don't, or at least there are things that are more important. for example, high body count is a decent predictor of attractiveness, so it's a trade off.

❤️😂😂😂 yep

I am not sure that is true.

A cuckold is someone in a relationship whose wife is sleeping with other people. These days it mainly refers to a kink where they enjoy the fact their wife is sleeping with other people

So that user was either using it in completely the wrong context or was accusing everyone with a high body count of cheating on their husbands. Or partners, but partners are lower down the scale of respectability for reasons she can't/won't explain

@Namechangedforthisoneyep haha, that made me lol. I'm glad you had fun!

Exactly! I’d probably remember more if they were smelly !🤮luckily most haven’t been except one memorable one that I’d rather not remember!🤣

Yes, I met a lot of pricks - no pun intended.

I have a zero bullshit radar and I command respect and zero tolerance to anything less. I met my long term partner and he has been green flags for 15 years and is a wonderful partner and father.

38, and slept with 13 (DH was the 13th....'Lucky for some' haha)

All between the ages of 18 & 25 (when I met DH)

Unfortunately most were not long term relationships, many one night stands, and all were idiots! I didn't have alot of luck or good judgement in that dept when I was younger, but got there in the end luckily as DH is great.

Absolutely.

If I'm going to be in a long term relationship, we need to be sexually compatible amongst other things and honestly, I wouldn't have married someone who was sexually inexperienced.

I’ve been married for 30 years and DH has never asked. If he did I wouldn’t tell him because it’s something I can’t change, and has nothing to do with him.

I did go through a bit of a rampant stage at one point, but that has no bearing on me as a person now.

I would never discuss this. I’m 52 and was brought up to be very judgemental about this sort of thing (sex ed was still “a mummy and a daddy who loved each other very much”) and it doesn’t really leave you deep down, despite the 90s “ladette” culture that aimed to erase that.
I know my husband and his friends (very decent men) would also think poorly deep down of a woman with a high number.
My friends who had high numbers weren’t the happy, stable ones.
For me the worst is polyamory. The idea makes me feel utterly revolted.

I disagree on the attractiveness comment. My partner reckons most men don't care as long as there is a shag in it for them. Ons' are just fun and spur of the moment sometimes without attraction and all about the urge!

Come to think of it ive probably out done Bonnie blue.