How many people have you slept with?

[Fearlesssloth]

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

He was. He was also about 4 years younger than me so maybe he was just scared of my confident 25 year old self 😂

Some insecure sexist blokes might have an issue with it and if they do its a nice early warning red flag to get out of there. My only concern would be if the person used protection and if they were in a relationship while having sex with others.

Seriously, no clue under 500

Why would low numbers protect your health more than sexual health checks?

Fucking loads and still doing it.
Dont even no half the names just hook up and French exit in the morning.
Life's to short to worry over a body count im having fun while I still can.

Is it cos they liked your gangsta walk?

It's about 20 but I can't remember the exact number. I sort of only count certain men (maybe 5) and the rest are just a haze of nothingness.

Mine is high, probs 80 ish. I settled down very young, age 15 stayed with a guy for 11 years, then after him a load of guys - I think I was craving a new relationship and thought hot sex was the way forward. Lots of short relationships, lots of online dating - lived in a big City. Tried a few female relationships too. Been with DH 18 years, yes he knows. I’ve had full std screening and all good, he had an action packed youth and was probably high numbers too but I’ve not asked.

This is a very entertaining thread! Out of curiosity those of you who had a high body count (whatever that means for you!) before you settled into long term relationships, do you feel like that helped inform your decision about your partner/husband?

I'm asking because I feel like my lack of sexual experience when I met my ex-husband meant I ended up in a long marriage with very little physical intimacy. Even though there were red flags about this (in retrospect) before we got married, I didn't pick up on it. Can't change the past, and I'm well out of it now, but I do wonder if my life would have taken a different course if I had been alert to the glaring red flags back then.

Imagine using the word “cuck” in conversation. 😂 Almost as laughable as thinking that you’re somehow morally superior to someone who’s simply had more sex than you.

Agree with another poster, it’s regressive as fuck to judge someone purely on their sexual activity, and I think indicative of that whole weird trad wife bullshit which seems so prevalent at the moment. Some men (and women!) would like us barefoot and pregnant from puberty upwards, it seems.

I really couldn't give one single fuck what any man (or woman) thinks of my relationship history. We're not in Gilead. Who cares what they think and their usual double standards? Why are women on here upholding that for them?

Can you explain what you mean by cuck? And why it's a bad thing?

(Haven't read the whole thread, so don't know if this has been covered but) something I find interesting is that, as a middle-aged person, if I wanted to work out my number then I would only count those that I had 'penis in vagina' sex with... but I think nowadays the younger generation, being more open about sexuality, would count anyone they've done any sexual activity with, eg just oral, manual etc. (I've heard that the whole concept of 'losing your virginity' is defined differently now - as it should, cos not everyone is heterosexual!)
If I was going by that logic, my number would be higher. Though I suppose it's difficult to know where to draw the line to count it as a 'bodycount' number. ie it would have to be more than a kiss and a grope!

Google broken?

Not many. I value myself

Don't say that, you will be accused of being Andrew Tate!

30 odd? Not sure it matters to anyone else frankly

No idea. Lost count when I was younger. DH knows and doesnt care. He told me his number but I cant remember. 13 or so I think.

Whats the difference anyways with 1 woman sleeping with 100 men or with 1 man 100 times?

If not 3 figures, certainly close to - I’ve no reason to lie about it!

100%! Loads more if you count the non penatrative, but we didn't (don't?!). Also I want to add for the posters who think that you're safe if you use protection and get tested, throat and mouth cancer is on the rise in middle age, linked to oral sex (inc one of my male hetero friends, so real for me)

I’m 50, 2 long term relationships. 9. I wish it was more! Perimenopause has fucked me over and sex without living with a constant UTI is no longer possible.

21 but I’d never admit this in real life

I’m 40 and know I’m very much in the minority but just one, my husband. Been together for 23yrs so I think that obviously makes a huge difference.

I don’t think I would like to admit to more than 10 if it was more than that. Which is silly but I still feel women are judged.

23 but a large majority of them was when I was mentally unwell with psychosis for 6 months. I made a lot of bad life choices I wouldn’t usually.

If it wasn’t for that my number would probably be 9.

DH knows and I also know his number, which is 13.

Full sex: 3.
Two exes and my DH.