Matcha, leggings with socks over, botox, yada yada yada

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So bored of it.

This is nearly every mum in my area, pilates & matcha, botox and handyman & cleaner recommendations. No depth, no real worries..basic.

Aibu to want to meet funny, down to earth mums with depth and interesting pasts and conversations?

true 😆 I agree. I think you kind of missed my point though.

honestly….mumsnet. Is anyone here capable of reading between the lines?

Take it that you do Pilates and drink matcha.

Not everyone is comfortable with blending in. Trends are set by those who don’t follow the crowd. You only need one of the popular to change their car and within 12 months the car park is full of them, necessitating the trend setter to change again, and onward it goes.

If you are happy being part of the flock that is absolutely fine. It’s a safe secure place for the majority. But it is unfair to call out someone, who is not a flock member, thick as shit. You are no longer a teenager.

Some of us like to be different it’s part of our makeup. I spend my working life in a uniform ( scrubs) so in my private life the urge to be different is very strong. Even if I did take part in the flock activities I would definitely not be wearing the “uniform”.

You know nothing about me. Pilates has been about for decades. I have never followed the crowd or am part of a flock! Judging people on what they drink and how they exercise is more like a teenager. The socks and leggings is non negotiable for Pilates so it’s not a trend. I’ve been told all my life I’m different, I’m autistic, finding and exercise that helps my joints and a drink I love the taste of doesn’t make me part of a flock! You sound ridiculous

You can do Botox and have depth. They aren't mutually exclusive. But, I do know what you mean. If I meet someone now who is dull, I will make zero effort. I just don't give two fucks. Life is too short to spend time with boring people but don't judge them cause they are wearing long socks. At least wait for them to chat to you about something meaningful before you jump to conclusions.

I will and I do, don’t know what you mean by sticks?

You take issue with "thick as shit" but refer repeatedly to "the flock". But cover your arse by saying, effectively, "it's ok, not every one can be special". Unlike you, who wears a uniform but specified it's "scrubs", just in case we thought it was the uniform of a Tesco shop assistant.

From my perspective, intellectually and politically you're very much wearing a uniform, and blend in perfectly with a crowd that some of us find as legible as the leggings and socks.

They’re totes toasties with a better marketing department.

Reliable cleaners and handymen are worth their weight in gold! The number of times I've been given numbers of people for odd jobs and they either don't reply or don't turn up! I will happily wear the socks and pretend I like matcha to get connected 🤣

I’m a basic leggings and socks wearing, botoxed mum, drinking my matcha and minding my own business but I also like to think I have a lot of depth- I’m political, I’m an activist, I’ve got an interesting job and have had far more interesting jobs in the past too, I’ve played sport to a very high level and travelled the world pre and post kids. I’m opinionated and educated with two masters degrees and most importantly to me, a feminist and advocate for women.

I find I’ve developed such lovely deep rewarding friendships with other mums over the years where we will talk about anything ranging from our deepest fears and traumas to our favourite place to get matcha 😉 but that’s probably because I’m not a stuck up, misogynistic mean girl who think I’m better than someone based on what they wear or drink so am able to develop these friendships.

It is very sad because growing up I sometimes got underestimated in sports and academics because I was blonde and bubbly and pretty (pre kids and living off more than 0.2 seconds of sleep per night). Then I was treated the same way in the working world by sexist men, over looking and under estimating me based on my appearance. I thought I’d be free of that kind of judgement especially by other women in this day and age as a mum but apparently not.

Let’s hope you don’t have daughters OP x

Well I’ve heard of totes toasties but I haven’t heard of grippy socks so I’m not sure their marketing department is all that much better!

Maybe you are giving off a judgy vibe and they don’t feel comfortable opening up to you.

so you have your own friends who are more like you, what’s the problem with other people being different to you? Not everyone has to be the same.

What is matcha?

Milky green tea often with sauces added like cherry or chocolate 🤢

Eugh. Gimme a strong black coffee instead 😂

I understand where you’re coming from Op. I used to have a circle of friends that clearly weren’t my people. They were lovely and I enjoyed their company but the conversations were only ever superficial (Farrow & Ball colours 🥱) and I wanted something more meaningful, deeper, more fun. I felt awful whenever I was around them because I felt so different, I would question everything I said and later think I’d made a fool of myself by letting my natural self come out. You just need to find your people. These weren’t mine. I moved on and now have friends much more similar to me.

Ffs 😂

Matcha is powdered green tea.

Some people have it as a latte and bastardise it with flavours, but some people do that to coffee too. It's not representative of the real thing.

Is this Solihull?! 😂

Landan baby

I was doing Pilates 35 years ago so no it’s not new. That was not my point. It’s the fact you felt it necessary to call someone thick as shit that annoyed me. Insulting someone’s intelligence is not an attractive trait.

The OP was generalising and you were being very personal. Which again just confirms which camp you firmly place yourself in. Groups of women have a terrible habit of ganging up on those that don’t conform which is usually why they all dress in leggings, go to the gym and drink the latest trendy drink. It’s about being part of the tribe or hive. Some of us are solitary bees happy to buzz in our own special way.

No it’s not personal, I think all people who make generalisations based on how woman exercise or what they drink are thick as shit. I don’t know why you are so offended by that but I’m not allowed to be offended about her making a generalisation about things I do and I can’t take that personally?
i am a loner, have Austim and have never conformed to trends so I don’t understand why you keep taking about tribes and solitary bees

"No depth, no real worries..basic."

I can actually see a lot of potential in this combination. If you are a person of hidden shallows, you can at least feel that your own modest 2cm beats their 0cm. You don't have to worry that you'll end up having to worry about their worries. And, even if you are only a small be-socked shuffle away from average yourself, you get to feel like an arrestingly interesting non-conformist.

Which part?