Matcha, leggings with socks over, botox, yada yada yada

[Wheredidallthegoodonesgo]

So bored of it.

This is nearly every mum in my area, pilates & matcha, botox and handyman & cleaner recommendations. No depth, no real worries..basic.

Aibu to want to meet funny, down to earth mums with depth and interesting pasts and conversations?

She's not like other girls 💖💁🏼‍♀️ x

You can fall in them.

They just prevent you from slipping due to the rubbery/sticky bits on the soles. So if your grans a bit of a floor slider then they’ll do the trick.

From a certified basic Pilates girl in Adanola leggings tucked into my socks. (But matcha is rank! And I only get Botox in my masseter to help with jaw grinding)

I have lots over the years, but just cannot gel with them, wish I could!

Eh I love matcha and Pilates but I have had a very interesting past and am a fun nice person! How judgemental! Do you feel the same about people who drink coffee and go swimming? That’s how stupid you sound

@Wheredidallthegoodonesgo
Wow. I haven’t RTFT in its entirety but flippin heck - what a pile on by the other Mumsnetters. I really don’t think you’ve said anything that awful; we’re all entitled to our opinion and you’ve expressed yours. However it unfortunately seems that you’ve hit a nerve with some of the sock wearing matcha drinkers out there!

Implying people who like to exercise and a certain drink are not interesting or able to have have deep conversations is quite awful and quite frankly thick as shit

I’m a Pilates girl, hate matcha (tested it in every city in Japan so can attest) and part of a book club plus have a diverse bunch of friends for example one of my mum friends works at a popular fast food/coffee place and another is a scientist working on some ground breaking gene therapy related drug.

I’m an interesting person who can hold a decent convo hence can attract friends but can you do the same OP?

Also not a fan of Botox prefer retinol.

I mean those just sound like a few ordinary things that people might do/ have but they’re not going to be anyone’s whole personality. Women (like men) are complex people, made up of a lot more than a few clothing items, a hobby and polite conversation openers.

Take time to get to know people would be my advice.

Maybe you haven’t yet met your people in your area but they will be around, and reducing those who do live near you to a series of stereotypes won’t help.

I rest my case 🙄

What that people who drink a drink and exercise may find her view stupid? Yes you have

Looks like you live where “new money” is. If you don’t fit then move to either “old money” area or up and coming with lots of you g professionals.

I wear socks over leggings, go to Pilates and drink matcha 💀 I feel attacked

However I’m also fun and a good conversationalist, I think it’s a bit judgmental to think those things are mutually exclusive? 😂

Maybe we should start a group chat x

New money people exercise and have cleaners? What the hell are you talking about? I live in a middle class area full of “old money” and most of what op lists is popular with many people here

I’m no longer a school gate mum but I know what you mean. I worked full time so had no time for coffee, the gym or classes. I drink black coffee, decent but not in a Stanley or disposable cup, usually made at home or work. No idea what matcha is, heard of it but never tasted one or seen one. I don’t like milk in coffee so have never explored the Miriam of variations on milky coffee.
There is so much performance involved nowadays. Maybe there always has been but I was late to the mum thing so a bit set in my ways by the time I was a parent.
I have one lively mum friend from school drop off days. We get on because of our rather quirky shared interests rather than our lifestyle choices. If I fancy visiting an interesting graveyard and church or one of the more niche museums she’s always up for it. I recently needed to sell some scrap gold and she was really interested in accompanying me to the bullion dealer. There aren’t many of the women I know that enjoy the less ordinary so I suspect our friendship will endure.

You're getting pulled apart but I agree, some women are basic. Probably depends on your area. It is alienating when you are only meeting bubbleheads. I hope you meet some more interesting women soon.

To be fair, one of my good friends is a yoga instructor coffee enthusiast but also good fun, lots of interests.

I’m all of you describe but also all of what you describe wanting in a friend.
I am poor as shit though and have a regular job
You sound pretty shallow tbh

You sounds pretty nasty and judgy … what make you so much better and more interesting? Maybe they’ve realised what you’re like and can’t be bothered to make the effort!

This!

Can't believe all the negative reactions saying they wouldn't want to be YOUR friend

So many mean girl vibes

Wow OP. People are being mean on this one.

I see your point and also that you are broadly asking for a little more originality. Not against all these things specifically as such. Read between the lines people.

OP I kind of agree with you - I fit half this stereotype myself but am often disappointed and surprised at how little some others seem to be willing to voice an opinion about….very much at all ….? And also that they seem to viably all want to be matchy matchy? Sometimes it happens by necessity but there is an appetite for the ‘look’ that I do not share.

I think OP has expressed it quite badly (I think she's trying to be funny but it doesnt come across that way) but I sort of get her point. My small fairly nice town is full of people who tick all these boxes and while I'm sure some of them are very pleasant and interesting it does make me a bit depressed how nobody seems to have much individuality any more. From the school girls in identikit Nike Pro shorts to the Matcha Mums they just feel like clones and I can see why someone might judge a bit for that.

OP ever heard of shadow work? I think you should give it a go… there will be a reason why this ‘bothers’ you so much and perhaps why you see yourself so superior.

I have mixed group of friends and we all talk about different things I have a friend with learning difficulties whose speech is slow but she has so much insight into the challenges she’s faced in society - trying to navigate for herself and family , I have friends from different nationalities - some who migrated through several countries - I have friends who have school level education all the way to a spinal neurosurgeon… I have a friend who might be your worst nightmare because she wears sweaty Betty, socks over her leggings and van cleef jewellery but she’s a multi millionaire after creating her own company and selling it on (but you’d prob only see the reformer pilates and Botox)! What I’m trying to say is - all these people reflect different parts of me too!

You’ll find it’s easy to judge but even harder to truly get to know people if you come from a place of judgement - all these women you disregard will bring their own value to the world and their families.

Good luck with finding people who you can call a friend.

And the irony is, OP has been called out as ‘judgey’ but her accusers have said some awful things about her (‘thick as shit’ is just one lovely example). The words pot, kettle & black come to mind

And the irony is, OP has been called out as ‘judgey’ but her accusers have said some awful things about her (‘thick as shit’ is just one lovely example). The words pot, kettle & black come to mind