To ask if you’ve experienced limerence?

[Salsa2026]

Only asking on AIBU for traffic as other sections seems to get no views.

If you’re not sure what limerence is please google it as my definition would be clumsy.

For those who do know what it is, have you ever experienced it? How did it all pan out for you?

I think I’ve had limerence before, and I think (am quite sure actually) that the guy reciprocated my feelings, but he was married and we never crossed any lines. I never would in that case.

Oh yes, many times. Even when I was supposedly happily married. The window fitter, one of my sister's boyfriends (!), one of my friend's husband (!), a near-neighbour once. It's actually really embarrassing - and the only thing I can say in my defence is that I never once acted on it.
It's an obsession that dominates your waking hours, and a fantasy that this person is the man of your dreams and your soulmate - even though you hardly know them - you're just sort of projecting your "ideal" partner onto them. But then it stops just as quickly, and you think what on earth was I thinking?!
I'm divorced now and I often wonder if this was some sort of indicator that my marriage wasn't meeting my needs in some way.

Agree ADHD makes it worse! I'm 3 years in with a limerant infatuation and it drives me nuts. He's not interested in me at all, and normally that would be the end for me in an ordinary crush, but this one just goes on and on. I keep hoping it will fade, and try to actively make that happen, but I can't shake it off.

We're both single and similar ages, and I think part of it is that I'm slightly pissed off that he doesn't fancy me as men generally find me reasonably attractive. So it's endless hours fantasising about him reciprocating, and one kind word from him can trigger weeks of daydreams where he's in love with me too. I suspect he's aware I have feelings, but politely ignores them, which is infuriating!

Totally agree, it's a stalkerish crush. Calling it a fancy name doesn't make it any better.