To be furious with DH for this?

[Coffeecherrymama]

First night home since giving birth and DH has gone out with his mates drinking and still isn’t home and he isn’t answering any calls or messages. He didn’t give me any choice, he just said he was going out with his “mates” and then left and said he would be back before 10pm but he’s still not home! I’m so angry that he has just left me here with our newborn when he knows I’m struggling but his mum says I’m overreacting and that he’s “entitled to a night out”! I feel like I could just cry to be honest! AIBU?

Having to clean up his vomit at 2 in the morning is beyond the pale. Personally I couldn’t even look at him.

The icing on the cake!!

So no job, spends money on a secret holiday and prioritises a 24 hour piss up over his wife and kids.

I suggest he stays at his parents house for the time being.

(His mum sounds awful too)

How long has he been out of work for?

I’m sorry but he seems too immature and reckless to be a father.

Was the Ibiza holiday confirmation just for him? Or did it have multiple passengers on it too?

I’d be inclined to suspect he was drug taking and cheating on his all day bender. And probably will be doing the same in Ibiza.

Also, his mother will always be on his side. Stop telling her what’s going on between you two.

You deserve so much better I’m so sorry.

I'm so sorry. I had the same happen - without the vomit, but with the MIL. He left her with me like a babysitter. Oh & with mastitis. Boiling one minute, freezing the next. Yes, we did eventually divorce.

Why will working full time be a problem? You’ll qualify for free childcare and potentially universal credit.

if he doesn’t have a job, you’re not reliant on him for money. Kick the dead beat out and raise your bar

Yes exactly this OP. What a waste of space. He doesn't have a job but moans about doing stuff around the house? That alone is absolutely dreadful!

He is a piece of shit .
I thought he was unreasonable leaving you by yourself when you’d just got out of hospital with a new baby and you have another very young child .
But coming home the next morning throwing up 🤮 he’s fucking disgusting

What a loser. You’re better off without him!

So, if he doesn't work, wheres the money come from, for his surprise Ibiza holiday ?

Wow wow wow

Did his mummy pay for the ticket to Ibiza? Wouldn't surprise me.

So he's a deadbeat, why doesn't he have a job?
And where did he get the money for Ibiza then if he doesn't have a job? Something's not adding up here.

This makes it so much easier for you to leave, because it doesn't sound like he adds anything to your life at all. Cut him loose, you will be so much better for it.

I am so angry on your behalf! What an absolute cunt!! Change the locks and kick him to the curb!

I third this, conveniently relocate it to a safe place. Then do not mention the tickets.

If you think OP is a troll then report the thread. Please don’t troll hunt when the OP is vulnerable and in need of support.

OP, confiscate his passport! I wouldn’t normally ever suggest such a thing but under these circumstances, it would absolutely serve him right. What a low life

You can't just hide someone's passport. Talk about controlling. Even if he is a massive arse.

You married this useless sack of shit? Divorce him ASAP.

He's unemployed yet got tickets to Ibiza? He moans about taking care of the household? And had money to go out and drink and possibly drug until he was incoherent?

You've got two kids and better send the big one back to his Mama.

Just remember you cannot damage it etc as this can do damage should you divorce. Putting it somewhere safe in his cupboard but might not look, but so he won't suspect you've moved it. Especially as he was so drunk today you can claim he might have moved it it without remembering. For example if it's in a drawer, it could easily fall down to the back inside the unit. 🤷🏼‍♀️

She's reaching out because she needs support. That's good thing to do. A lot of people empathise and care OP. Hope u r ok. Xxx

Why would she want to have such a nasty selfish piece of work in the house? Send him off to Ibiza while u get divorce ready and organise escape/plan for future.

Yes being a single working mum entitles you to a lot of financial support I think. Check this out.

And you should send her this thread. He is disgusting - its clear where he learnt his absolutely disgraceful behaviour.
Im so sorry that you've married into such an unempathetic shower

This is so insanely bad that I’m literally sat here with my mouth open. Change the locks, tell him and his parents that you’ve had enough, pack his stuff up and get his asshole of a mother to come and pick it up. Being a single parent is hard, I’ve been there, but it will be a thousand time better than this.