To be furious with DH for this?

[Coffeecherrymama]

First night home since giving birth and DH has gone out with his mates drinking and still isn’t home and he isn’t answering any calls or messages. He didn’t give me any choice, he just said he was going out with his “mates” and then left and said he would be back before 10pm but he’s still not home! I’m so angry that he has just left me here with our newborn when he knows I’m struggling but his mum says I’m overreacting and that he’s “entitled to a night out”! I feel like I could just cry to be honest! AIBU?

No yanbu at all. Is this your first child? If it is I think this is probably him showing you what kind of parent he's going to be. An uninterested and absent one.

Our second child x

His mum is saying he’s “entitled” to a night out and “entitled to celebrate the baby” but I’m absolutely furious

YANBU

But what I don't understand is how has this side of his personality never shown itself before? Because either this is who he is and you've made a baby with a complete prick or this is wildly out of character and he's having a breakdown/got a brain tumour.

That he's a selfish git goes without saying.
But how did his mum get to have a say?

That’s appalling behaviour

I can’t believe what I am reading. I’m so sorry OP, completely not ok.

Well you're very tired/absorbed with baby so you'll have to lock the door and go bed, what a shame!

Because I called her assuming she would be appalled at his behaviour and get him to come back home

What the hell?? I don’t keep him caged up??

Was he like this when you had your first baby OP? Is he the sort who is always out with his mates, and an absent parent most of the time? If so, then you've made a huge mistake having a second child with him. Are your parents around at all to offer support, or is it just his Mum who gets a say in your lives?

He is a total fucking bastard. So is his enabling mother

Cut it out. It’s not OP’s fault

Piss off MIL!

But was he even late at that point?

Does it matter if he was late, he shouldn't have gone out and left the OP in the first place. He's a prize arsehole!

You joking?
We are talking about a father of two not a hamster.

Are you having a laugh?

He's a fucking twat and his mum can fuck off as well.

Hiya, MIL!

He was ‘late’ the minute he stepped out the door, leaving his newly delivered wife, newborn and older child on her first night home after hospital.

’entitled to celebrate the baby’ what absolute fucking crap is this?

Of course it's not the OP's fault he's gone to the pub!

If he's always like this then it's very much her choice for him to be her DH and the father of her child though. If it isn't her choice and she's been forced into it then she's got much bigger problems than the fact that he's gone to the pub.

He should be celebrating the baby with you at home.

This is unforgivable in my eyes.

How old are the pair of you? I’m expecting teens.

He isn’t usually like this

I’m 27 and DH is 25

No. But that’s not the point. He shouldn’t have gone out on our first night home