AIBU for making a harsh comment to DH about our sex life?

[HungryJ]

DH and I have had issues with our sex life for a while now and I have to admit I resent him for it. He keeps promising to try and improve things but this lasts a couple of days at most.

We had yet another argument this morning, and were shopping this afternoon. On the way back to the car, a man passed us in a vest who’d clearly been to the gym.

DH made a sarky comment to me when we sat in the car about my eyeing him up.

I replied ‘yeah, need to make sure I remember him for when I use my toy tomorrow when you’re working’.

DH snapped that I was out of order. I told him I stand by what I said. I’m just feeling so fed up.

So many tedious posts desperately attempting a 'gotcha' where they expose the terrible man-hating double standards of MN. Except none of them work, because posters don't think this kind of behaviour is acceptable from either sex. It's been such an influx lately!

I think you should leave him as you clearly don't respect him. You don't have a right to use him.

Hahaha that was funny and harsh but I guess it depends on what's going on

Then you leave him

I don't like your approach where, if you resent him so much you might as well end the relationship.

It's very obvious that you don't respect him or find him attractive anymore and I'm sure there are reasons but at this point you might as well end it so you can both find compatible partners.

Absolutely out of order to say that.
You are having sex once a week, so it’s not like you aren’t having anything. If he doesn’t want to have sex, then no means no. If it’s a problem for you then divorce him.

You sound so awful. There is probably a reason he doesn’t want to have sex with you. I’m guessing it’s because you are a bitch.

Ouch! That was harsh and I guess he'll think twice now about making stupid, uncalled for remarks.

Can you leave him? If the frustration is such that you're now hurting each other, it may be time to call it a day.

I left one of my exes over this. It doesn’t get better. He couldn’t get it up even with Viagra and if he did lasted two seconds. We were in ours 20s. Leave..

Not read the thread

you are the main breadwinner
you have to instigate rubbish sex once a week.

unless your DH has 1000 redeemable qualities then go find someone else. He is not making an effort so why should you ?

Yeah, that was nasty. If you have an issue, talk to him. If nothing changes, leave. It's not acceptable to start with hurtful digs from either of you.

Fucking hell that was brutal. Imagine a woman on here saying ‘Me and DH walked past a pretty girl and he said one for the wank bank tomorrow when you’re working’.

Everyone on here would be up in arms.

Once a week is fairly standard for a long term relationship I would say.

If you’re such a wealthy, big shot OP why don’t you leave him. Maybe track down the beef cake from the gym.

If he doesn’t want sex I don’t really know what you want from him? He can’t exactly force himself to do it like women can (shouldn’t but many do to keep peace). Horrible thing to say to him…. Your desires are desires not commands. He doesn’t owe you sex.

I wouldn’t want to have to sex with someone who sounded that nasty tbh.

Could you imagine if the genders were reversed…

Are you reading the thread?

Once a week is fine and that comment isn’t going to make him want to have sex with you more so not sure what the point was.

That's the point of the thread.

You don't sound happy OP.
Get out before it gets nasty.

It's not working for you.

To be clear, by DH isn’t the main earner in our house. But if he was and he said to me or even thought that I’d never dare leave him because of the money he made? My fanny would clamp shut faster than the bank vault at Coutts.

You’re genuinely vile, proven by the fact you think talking to him like that is ok. You deserve to be alone so do him a favour and pack your bags

Harsh and actually quite mean, but also harsh for him to make promises he doesn't or is unable to keep. Time for another frank conversation before resentment eats you alive.

I can think of one way he can solve all the problems in your marriage!

Jesus, you’re not covering yourself in roses here OP.

I suspect he disappoints you in many ways and he knows it.

Once a week is NOT very frequent. Nowhere near.

Leave. You are obviously not interested in your other half so leave and be miserable alone rather than making him miserable too