AIBU for making a harsh comment to DH about our sex life?

[HungryJ]

DH and I have had issues with our sex life for a while now and I have to admit I resent him for it. He keeps promising to try and improve things but this lasts a couple of days at most.

We had yet another argument this morning, and were shopping this afternoon. On the way back to the car, a man passed us in a vest who’d clearly been to the gym.

DH made a sarky comment to me when we sat in the car about my eyeing him up.

I replied ‘yeah, need to make sure I remember him for when I use my toy tomorrow when you’re working’.

DH snapped that I was out of order. I told him I stand by what I said. I’m just feeling so fed up.

At least he has a soul though. The OP is truly awful.

No sex? They have sex once a week.

Poor guy.

Roles reversed the chorus of ltb would be deafening.

You were nasty.

Maybe you need therapy. Crying might be a better release than making nasty little comments. Someone won’t want to have sex with you if you stab them and think you’re superior.
therapy might help. genuine advice - not snark.

There is no normal. I feel completely asexual and haven't had sex with my dh for 10 years atleast.
Your dh has a lower sex drive than you do. Do you want him to force himself even though he doesn't want to? Where is your pride? You were out of line talking to him like that- really mean. Maybe it's your nasty personality that turns him off? You talk about him as he's a piece of shit and treat him like it as well. I feel sorry for your dh.

Not enough for the op tbh - and if youre constantly initiating with your man, youre just better off with none at all

This does read like a reverse

maybe he doesn't want to have sex with you because you're awful to him?

If dh told me he was planning to wank over some woman from the gym car park I’m pretty sure our marriage would be over.

Yeah, at one point in my life, once a week would have been great. But DH was addicted to internet porn and preferred it to his wife. He didn’t think it was a problem. For some time now, if he’d suddenly tried to start anything, I would have said, “He’ll, no” that boat has sailed and SUNK.” But, you know, he doesn’t get it.

But it’s not sexless. Once a week will be more often than many

Have you actually had a discussion about how much sex you both want / why he doesn’t initiate ?

So are men not allowed to have boundaries, give consent etc. It goes both ways.

Yes you were bitchy about it.

Sounds like you’ve had many a conversation about once a week being too little.

Honestly you’d be better off leaving him.

I don't really think there is an issue with once a week. You seem abit nasty

Feel like I need to start a thread asking is once. Week enough or not…

Definitely not for me.

Really? I get more than that aged 72.......🤣

This has got to be a reverse.

Either way, I suspect the reason one partner isn’t getting much sexual attention from the other is because nobody wants to fuck someone who is incredibly cold and unpleasant and deliberately humiliating to them.

It is irrelevant whether people consider once a week enough or not. What is relevant is that people shouldn’t be spiteful shits to their partner.

Nasty!

Exactly I feel like once a week might as well be a pity shag to keep er happy 😅

Ignore Shuggles. He pops up on all sorts of threads being weird and bitter about sex.

Unforgivable thing to say to someone you are supposed to love. No wonder he doesn’t seek you out.

sorry but you sound awful, sort yourself out

What if this was the other way round? Woman not that into sex more than once a week but still having it weekly, yet husband makes that sort of comment about an attractive woman…
God, everyone on here would be up in arms!

Have you tried talking to him OP? If you are incompatible in that department, perhaps this relationship is doomed.