AIBU for making a harsh comment to DH about our sex life?

[HungryJ]

DH and I have had issues with our sex life for a while now and I have to admit I resent him for it. He keeps promising to try and improve things but this lasts a couple of days at most.

We had yet another argument this morning, and were shopping this afternoon. On the way back to the car, a man passed us in a vest who’d clearly been to the gym.

DH made a sarky comment to me when we sat in the car about my eyeing him up.

I replied ‘yeah, need to make sure I remember him for when I use my toy tomorrow when you’re working’.

DH snapped that I was out of order. I told him I stand by what I said. I’m just feeling so fed up.

Seems to be a lot of unspoken issues here which could be affecting your sex life. Salaries and money can become common issues and causes.

If you want to stay together. Go and see a Counsellor.

Yes you're unreasonable...... Spiteful, vindictive and heartless are some other words too.

Nobody wants to have sex with someone that makes them feel bad about themselves and tbh you don't seem like a nice person at all the way your replying on here.

Were you expecting everyone to say you didn't say anything wrong? Seriously???

Maybe apologise to him, spend time together without sex being apart of it and bond, get to know each other again.

Also stop eyeing up men so obviously in front of him, I can't imagine you'd be thrilled to be treated the way you treated him.

Oh take your sanctimonious bullshit elsewhere. I DGAF if someone is gay, straight or anything in between.

I do care about people who clearly want homosexual sex, marrying straight people and trying drag them into something the spouse doesn't really want to do. Then having a bare minimum, string them along and hope they don't leave attitude towards the relationship. Having bitter insecurities about their spouse leaving and total disrespect, accusing them of eyeing others all the time. All while not breaking up and finding someone to have homosexual sex with because their spouse has money and they don't want to leave.

My problem with him is not about his sexuality, it's about him being a deceptive, dishonest, money-focused bellend.

OP is getting called every name under the sun, and yeh she's not behaving great right now, but she's become that way in response to the way he's been treating her. The whole relationship has become toxic AF. All because he wasn't honest about who he is, from the start.

I'm willing to bet that once out of this relationship the OP will revert to being a totally normal person who isn't toxic at all. Whereas if he isn't honest with his next partner about what he wants sexually, he'll recreate the exact same toxic shit show all over again.

@Plumblossomsbloom hear hear! It’s absolutely ridiculous how miserable closeted men will make women in a marriage. And this happens so often. Give it a few years and he’ll eventually come out, or start asking to open up the marriage so he can “explore”

Personally I’d have been off at the first mention of pegging.