Daughter didn’t enjoy holiday

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DH and I went on holiday with my DD (11). When asked if she enjoyed the holiday she says it was ok but was ruined by being left on her own for 2 hours every day. What she’s referring to is when we went for a siesta. Months later she’s saying she wouldn’t want to go again. WWBU?

Exactly, it's irrelevant whether you were or not, you went to bed together for 2 hours, in next room to your 11 year old DD. I'd be mortified at that age especially. If someone nods off on a sofa or by the pool or in an armchair, or even on top of a bed in the main room as in holiday digs usually have them., then that's fine. But for a couple to actually go to bed together and shut the door, it is always going to have a parents(possibly) having sex alert, it did to many on this thread and would more so to your child.in next room

You what now? 🤦‍♀️

Its a trend that is increasingly growing out though.
Old people might still nap but its generally seen as time to spend indoors during the hottest part of the day. It is when people prepare food, eat, do household chores and stay inside. According to my Spanish relatives, it is not seen as nap time and this has been the case for the last thirty years!

Your holiday sounds shit and unless you have a serious medical issue then you don’t need a two hour nap if you are only up 8am until 9pm. Get a grip and do something with your daughter.

Just because she is on holiday doesn't mean 24/7 entertainment provided by parents. She'll survive reading a book for a few hours

She hated the holiday because her mum pissed off up to bed every afternoon to have a two hour nap like she is 90

@ConnieHeart

yes! The time for drinking and going out for nights out etc is before having a family

But maybe she didn't want the enforced 2 hours every afternoon to do it. I love reading, but even I'm not sure that is the only thing I would want to do for two hours every day at the same time.

Unless we literally die we all survive everything don’t we! So never complain or feel negative about anything ever @TheSecretAgent1 unless it is going to kill you. 😏

Not born in the wrong century, she just likes doing stuff with someone. Not sitting on her own in a hotel room all afternoon. No wonder she was bored.

My parents used to do this, never really understood why they suddenly needed to nap in the day just because they were in a different country. It used to annoy me as I was bored, even with my brother around (who was always horrible to me anyway). So I can understand why she felt that way. I think people assuming that you were shagging for two hours every day are bring unnecessarily harsh and just bitchy, but that's MN for you! Is consider a different type of holiday next time if you can't cope with the heat.

Whilst I don't think holidays should revolve around children, this is selfish and I am not surprised she was bored.

Imagine being 11. You're at the beach/in the pool and in the middle of the day - you are told to go to a quiet room and look at books for two hours. Every. Single Day.

You should have earmarked a couple of sunbeds in the shade and had a little nap on those whilst DD was given the chance to play and maybe make some friends. Or what DH and I used to do - stagger naps so that one of you keeps her company whilst the other one has a snooze on a sun lounger.

I think the thread is 'all about you' OP not your daughter as reflected in your attitude to the holiday. The 'born in the last century' remark says it all - she's a child that likes doing stuff not sat with a book whilst her parents sleep for 2 hours.

This sounds utterly bizarre to me and I am
not surprised she didn’t enjoy it

Yes is does read as this. You and your husband as a unit and then her on her own. If my husband and I ever went away with one child, and someone wanted to do something else, then we would both take it in turns to be with our child. It seems that as well as a 2 hour nap, you also needed to sit down and relax at other times during the day.
If your child gets on so well with Granny, then how about taking Granny on holiday as well.

No one is saying that but to go up to your room for a two hour nap while I’m sure there will be plenty of kids round the pool is bonkers. Chill on the sunbed while your kids goes in the pool if your that tired but to give a kid a book for two hours every afternoon while you sleep is ridiculous.

my ‘kids’ (adults) still want to come on holiday with us now as we actually have fun on holiday

The whole routine sounds boring for someone her age (or any age) your routine sounds like one of elderly people who tire easily.
Two hour siesta, dinner at 5, bed at 9, on holiday??
Most entertainment starts at 9

Sounds like she likes to be busy doing things, which actually lots of kids like.

Spend some time doing things with your child. One day she won't be there.

I remember forced siestas on our first couple holidays when I was a kid
When we realised they weren't actually compulsory, we didn't need them and we weren't all in our 80's all was good
Honestly forgot about holiday siestas

So this is my experience as an 11 year old with my mum and her partner but same would apply if your DH is her father.

By 11 my mum had clearly decided I was old enough to entertain myself and everything we did as a "family" was just her and her partner doing whatever they wanted with no consideration of the fact there was a child there too. I had a shit and lonely childhood, I have no relationship with my mother now and I hate the pair of them for it.

And bollocks that your siesta wasn't you going off for a shag, I hope to god she couldn't hear you. Sort yourself out.

Can you explain why exactly?

@ConnieHeart

because it’s time to grow up. Be sensible and stay home

This comment really takes the biscuit. And that's saying something. You do realise that it's ok for kids to have separate bedrooms don't you? Or should we all be sleeping in the same room until our kids leave home just incase a random person breaks in and steals our child? If you honestly think that there's a chance for a child to be stolen while their parents are in the next room I'm surprised you go out at all, as there is far more chance of being run over or in a car crash whilst on holiday (or at home for that matter)

Please tell me this is a weird joke

My family holidays were like this. I didn't mind it as my grandparents (whom I was raised by) did the same at home too so I was used to it and was just grateful to be taken away on holiday. Then I hit my teenage years and funnily enough it wasn't a problem whatsoever for me from then on! So my suggestion is to give it a year or two and she may change her mind as she becomes more independent.