Daughter didn’t enjoy holiday

[Personil]

DH and I went on holiday with my DD (11). When asked if she enjoyed the holiday she says it was ok but was ruined by being left on her own for 2 hours every day. What she’s referring to is when we went for a siesta. Months later she’s saying she wouldn’t want to go again. WWBU?

Erm, normal people of course.
Why on earth not?

Refusing to see the difference.

This child doesn’t want to be isolated and doesn’t want to lock herself in a toilet for hours. She’d prefer her parents didn’t prioritise a daily siesta over every other option when it’s just the three of them on holiday. And I don’t blame her.

Entertain herself with what though? She is in a strange place with very little of her own things. Other than a book she has nothing to entertain herself with. What would you suggest she do?

Okay, so name a Spanish-speaking place that’s so unbearably hot in April it requires a mandatory two-hour daily siesta … I’ll wait. Because unless she was somewhere like Nicaragua, that’s just not what spring looks like in most Spanish-speaking places. Warm, yes. “Everyone must disappear or perish,” no.

So now 11 year olds are not able to amuse themselves for a couple of hours?

No wonder there's so many irritating children around constantly wanting attention.

Honestly? I have three kids so a bit different, but if they'd told me they were bored for a small portion of every day, I would be telling them that there are books and a tv or they could amuse themselves with any of the games I'm sure you had taken with you.

I'm an honestly astonished at the people saying YABU. It's not odd to have a siesta when on holiday in a hot country, it's not unusual to leave your 11 year old "alone" in another room of an apartment, and it's really not madness.

The only thing that doesn't make sense is that assuming this was a two week holiday, that none of you presumably had a conversation about this?

You can’t take any other viewpoint or perceived criticism can you?! Must be exhausting to live with!

How did you get to that conclusion? I’m on the kids side despite the fact I’m an introvert, love time on my own, and love naps and I’m an expert on internal resources. Would you be happy if you were stuck in the living room of a hotel for 2 hours every afternoon, not sleepy and couldn’t leave the room while your holiday companion got their daily 2 hour snore fest in every afternoon?

I think it’s mad dogs and Englishmen 🙂

OP, you’ve given her a holiday that has been full of really boring afternoons and now seem surprised that she didn’t have fun cooped up alone in a room with only a few books that she didn’t choose, to entertain her. She’s 11, of course she wasn’t going to have a nap for two hours. It’s bizarre that you would think she might.

Huge numbers of kids, teens and people of all ages those activities.

Your three kids can bounce off each other, whether that’s through play, chatting or just quietly hanging around each other. Not the same.

That is shit 💩 for an 11 year old

So is an 11 year old child. In this case her opinion was that the holiday wasn’t great for her.

@BunnyLake Would you be happy if you were stuck in the living room of a hotel for 2 hours every afternoon, not sleepy and couldn’t leave the room while your holiday companion got their daily 2 hour snore fest in every afternoon?

I completely agree with this. Boring enough for an adult, bloody awful for an 11 yr old, when 2 hours feels like 6. And it’s all very well saying that an 11yr old should be able to entertain themselves, but a) those skills need to have been installed in you and b) with what? What did the OP take with her to ensure her DD could entertain herself?

I’m an adult and would be bored shitless in your daughter’s situation. You both needed a 2 hours sleep every day?!

I am a napper but this is is ridiculous

why not ask what your daughter would like to do on holiday and try plan something that combines both what you want to do and her

Out of curiosity where did you go OP? You said the tv was Spanish which is probably why people have assumed mainland Spain.

there are books and a tv or they could amuse themselves with any of the games I'm sure you had taken with you.

There were books, yes. No TV (not in English), and games usually need more than one player. Which your kids have as there are three of them, the girl didn't. (And no evidence that the OP took any games anyway.)

It seems like the OP is very happy with the DD's own solution, to stay with granny. No effort needed on OP's part at all. Makes you wonder why she had a child.

Sounds more like they did something in the morning, then went out for their evening meal after being inside all afternoon. I’d go stir crazy in a hotel room when I want to be out and about and my kids would be worse (and yes I can, do and like reading). It’s just dull. And knowing day after day that’s what will happen I’m not surprised she doesn’t want to go again.

'Wastes"??? How is there something wasteful in chilling out and having a snooze on holiday? Isn't that what they're for in some ways? An escape.

Chill out all of you people who are verbally beating up OP. An 11 year old is quite resourceful enough if she doesn't want to Snoo.

Edit - and meant to add. DD could be left at home for the next holiday if things aren't to her liking. Bingo!

Probably the Canary islands, some people think it is a country.

Couldn’t agree more - the level of hysteria in the comments beggars belief.

@Personil What she’s referring to is when we went for a siesta.

You mean you went for a children's nap. The only real excuse for sleeping during the day is if you work nights.

Only toddlers need to nap during the day.

A quick Google tells me that many Spanish speaking Caribbean countries have been about 30c today. The UK rarely gets that hot. I like the heat, but lots of fair skinned British people struggle at midday in the heat. I tend to stay in the shade then or have a siesta because I don't want to burn. As I said, I like it hot, but not to burn.
I checked the weather in various Caribbean countries with Alexa too, and that confirms today's temperatures.

Wow, I hope you develop an autoimmune disease someday, cause this take is wild!! (Although I do agree that the scheduled 2 hour nap every day is too much.)