Mother told her friend she doesnt have to pay me?

[Imacelebritygotit]

I do translating/admin e.g appointments, filling out forms. Work stuff on the side

My mums friend heard i do this and hired me. We agreed on sum etc

I did 3.5 hours work

She then tells me she will give the money when she sees my mum the next day, i agree

My mother then goes "omg guess how much she paid you!!!" "I said no, no, no, no! You are a friend!!!! Absolutely no need to pay that much!!! Wtf!!! 10 pound is fine!!! But she insisted she pays you the agreed amount!!!!! Said treat it as a gift then. But then i insisted and said 10 pound is fine!!!! Trust me!

Explaining to her is useless she just keeps going She is a friend!!! You cant charge her like other people!!!/anyone else!! How can you be so money hungry and greedy!!!

Am i right to be angry about this! I mean this woman is not my friend, i barely know her. And it was like 4 hours work!!!

Edit: oh and now im getting texts from this woman saying she was very happy with such a good price, what a nice person i am and how others she hired "take advantage and over charge". And she wants to hire me again for same price!

Send this. Ask your mother whether she is feeding you and DH this week since she's given away your food money. Let her sweat.

Who needs enemies with a idiot for a mother like that.

Keep texting the woman and put your stupid interfering mother on a complete information diet.

Unless she is Rose West. Mum is always right! End of.

You send her a registered letter stating that she owes you xxx amount as agreed for services supplied. That your Mother is not and never was your business partner or employee and she has no right to make decisions about your fee structure and that xxx amount is outstanding, with late fees of xxx every 7 days for non payment. You will accept a bank transfer, cheque or send her a payment link with Revolut.

The customer entered into an agreement with you and she is now attempting to not pay her bill. Tell her 7 days and you will file for non payment of a bill, fuck her and if she hates you that's just great. Saves you the hassle of dealing with her again. Next time keep your Mothers friends well away, refuse them if necessary.

Even if it means losing business, as ppl who want it on the cheap are not worth it. And tell your Mother if she ever interferes in your business or opens an envelope with your name on it again, you will cut her off and she can hope her friend will care for her in her old age. Both of them are cheeky as fuck

Your mum is a disgrace. Don’t ever accept a referral from her again. And definitely tell her she either gets the money or pays you herself.

Bloody hell OP! Your Mum sounds a nightmare…

In future put it all on email / WhatsApp, and charge up front. I started charging a deposit / prep fee when I realised some people are always flaky and you do hours of prep work and they don’t show up. I have plenty of old relations - pushing 90 - who are able to use email and WhatsApp so age is not an excuse.

Are you drunk?

I agree you should be paid at the rate you'd agreed, and that your mum was way out of line. I think it's their generation. I was always brought up to be told you don't charge family! Which is fine if you're a family where everyone has a useful skill and worth around the same kind of money for a small job - it all works both ways! But not if it's not reciprocal and you making yourself unavailable for paid work to keep a roof over you head!

No

How much does lady owe you?

I agree, she’s completely bonkers. The OP’s Mum is a disgrace. Why would she undermine her daughter’s business like this?

Tell your mum that she has to pay you the difference.

@Aussiesgettingsmashed are you deliberately trying to derail the thread? Or do you have such little self-worth?

What happened to the money?

Did your mum hand it back to her friend? Or did your mum pocket it thinking it would never be discovered?

Never do business with your mum's friends ever again.

Maybe tell your mom you need the money to buy food for your children and that you don't appreciate her taking food out of your children's mouths by interfering in your business arrangements that have nothing to do with her.

Are u Op's mother??

You should speak her language, message : you are prioritising your friends over your family, it’s clear which one matters more to you. I am your daughter and I needed to be paid, you’d rather your own daughter starve than your friends pay for professional services they agreed to. You know we are struggling financially and you don’t care. Thats not how a mum who loves her children behaves.

BS!

I’d be asking my mother to make up
the difference. This is totally disgraceful. You deserve to be paid the going rate.
On the question of additional work explain that this was a one off, introductory offer.

@Imacelebritygotit It really doesn't need to be dramatic or emotional. The service and contract is between you and the client. These terms have not been renegotiated between you two, therefore the original agreement is valid and payment is outstanding. Don't be dragged into the drama. Ask for payment firmly.

Mixing family and business never turns out well. Would solemnly advise you to cut mum out of all professional dealings.

Your Mum really does have the cheek of the devil doesn't she? She basically gives away YOUR money, and then when you challenge her and tell her that she'll have to pay you instead, she says that SHE doesn't have any money. I think if she told me that, I would be saying 'if you know what it's like not to have enough money to pay me Mum, what made you think it was OK, to give MY money away to YOUR friend? The woman is NOT a family friend, she is YOUR friend, so if anyone is going to do her any favours, then it should be YOU, and I still want MY money back, so if you don't have it, you'd better explain to YOUR friend, that you messed up, and she does need to pay ME after all'.

If she doesn't pay up, the next time she is expecting a Christmas or birthday gift, I'd put a £1 coin, or a tiny bar of chocolate in an envelope and wrap it up as a gift. Then when she looks confused having opened it, you can say, well you gave your friend the money that I would have used to buy you a nice present Mum, so that's all I can afford. I think that would get your point over loud and clear.

Well that is a little unfair, because the op made her mum involved by telling her she had to be tbe one to take payment from her good friend . I tbink this put the mum in an embarrassing position.

No, it doesn’t. Friend hands envelope to mother. Mother takes envelope and
puts it in her bag, saying I’ll pass it to daughter for you. Coffee continues.