Mother told her friend she doesnt have to pay me?

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I do translating/admin e.g appointments, filling out forms. Work stuff on the side

My mums friend heard i do this and hired me. We agreed on sum etc

I did 3.5 hours work

She then tells me she will give the money when she sees my mum the next day, i agree

My mother then goes "omg guess how much she paid you!!!" "I said no, no, no, no! You are a friend!!!! Absolutely no need to pay that much!!! Wtf!!! 10 pound is fine!!! But she insisted she pays you the agreed amount!!!!! Said treat it as a gift then. But then i insisted and said 10 pound is fine!!!! Trust me!

Explaining to her is useless she just keeps going She is a friend!!! You cant charge her like other people!!!/anyone else!! How can you be so money hungry and greedy!!!

Am i right to be angry about this! I mean this woman is not my friend, i barely know her. And it was like 4 hours work!!!

Edit: oh and now im getting texts from this woman saying she was very happy with such a good price, what a nice person i am and how others she hired "take advantage and over charge". And she wants to hire me again for same price!

Oh and if she doesn’t pay whats owed, you tell your mother she now owes you the remaining balance.

She's obviously not that embarrassed as she is expecting work for the same price!

“I think there has been an awkward misunderstanding here. We agreed a price based on my rates, which are standard rates so if others have charged you similar then you have not been taken advantage of. Any work I do will be at the rates we agreed, so I won’t work for £10.
My mum getting involved has made things difficult, even though it was well meaning, it was out of place. I set my rates, and they were agreed before work started. She isn’t involved in my business or my job, and shouldn’t have been involved in payment. I’m sorry this has happened and created an issue, but my rates are £X and there is an outstanding balance to pay of £Y. If you could please sent it to my account.
Any work in future will be at my standard rates and payment will need to be direct to me.”

Nothing wrong with that, OP - after all the woman did originally try to pay - but at least you now know never to involve your mum in anything like this again, and to tell the "client" who wants to use you again for the same price that it won't be happening

I might be tempted though, next time you need to spend something when with your mum, to say you can't afford it now ...

I'd message her but make it clear you don't blame her as this is absolutely your mum's fault.

"Hi X, spoke to my mum and she passed on the £10. Sorry if she made things awkward, I definitely won't be involving her again in the future. I'll send you my bank details over for the remaining balance if that's better you you?"

My relative just texted me last year she told him to tutor her brother every week for new job he wants.

For free.

Because hes family!

(An uncle he barely knows or has any relationship with, not close at all)

Got angry and upset when he refused, said when i get old and sick need help/care youll charge me too???? To bring me a glass of water!!! cslled him selfish who dont give af about family when said he can for discounted sum and began posting in local facebook groups how selfish and money hungry this generation is? And how her son wont even help his uncle in time if need

(His wife saw these posts)

What?

i’d tell the woman that youre “sorry for any confusion caused because mum didnt realise it was four hours work and that i had already given you a discounted rate at the price quoted of £80 (or whatever) so i'm happy to continue the translation work for you but I’m really sorry but any future work will not be at £10 a job as £2.50 an hour isn’t enough for me to earn a living!”

Be assertive. Text the woman back.

"Hello. I'm sorry but there seems to be a mis-understanding. The price agreed was £XXX so the outstanding balance is still owed. If you'd prefer to pay the outstanding amount via bank transfer, here are my bank details."

Your mum is ridiculous! She can pay the outstanding amount herself.

The lady was prepared to pay you. Your mother is massively out of order.

I would tell the person you did the work for that the accounting is done and that you are expecting the original amount agreed.

I would then tell your dm that unless she can do the work herself, to butt out and stop interfering.

There is a serious boundary that needs addressing here OP.

I just find it interesting because my sister just texted me

this friend a few years ago needed a cleaner (my mom is one) and my mom charged her full price for cleaning.

Also this elderly friend needed help going to shops and my mom told my sister how she thought of doing this but then thought if she does it once friend will always expect this sk she didnt offer

Hmm interesting.

Bloody hell.

This.

Sister also said she had lady she never met once turn up at her door,

Said shes her moms neighbour ( sister and mum live on same street)

And said I’m ready.

(apparently my mom said my sister agreed to drive her to hospital. For free)

Have you replied to the woman explaining that your mum was mistaken and the fee is what you agreed?

Your mother enjoys playing Lady Bountiful - only with other people's time and money, not her own. She's taking vicarious credit for the work of others within her family because she's the "fixer" in the middle giving out your time for free; but she charges full whack for her own time, because ultimately she's selfish. A selfish woman hiding her selfishness behind generosity that doesn't cost her anything.

Tell that friend of your mother's there has been a misunderstanding, and go around and collect your money today. Tell your mother to stay out of your business.

Do you've told her your mum was wrong and she owes you the rest of the money, yes??

Oh she's typical. Generous with other people's time and money but stingy as hell with her own!

This was not your mother’s business. You set a rate, the woman agreed to pay that rate. I would get back in touch with the woman direct and say - “there seems to have been a misunderstanding. We agreed X rate. Can you please transfer me the rest of the money.” Then agree to do the rest of the work, payable by bank transfer.

Your mum obviously has very little idea about things. Has she ever worked or had to support herself, could this explain why not?

Here I would focus on getting my money and avoiding further discussion or any rift with my mum, who is clearly never going to “get” it.

Absolutely!

"Sorry for the confusion, Cheapskate client, it seems my mum misunderstood. Just post me a cheque for the rest of the invoice. Thanks"

It doesn’t matter what your family and relatives are telling you. What matters is have you messaged this woman and said she owes you money or not?

Message her back saying something like 'the price is the price and it was the price that was agreed and that it wouldn't be appropriate to do any more work in the future and hope she finds someone else'

Then read your mother the riot act about interfering in your financial life, that she's embarrassed herself amd that and you won't be working for anyone she knows ever again..

“Hi - I was really taken aback when mum told me she told you not to pay me. I’m
afraid she must have misunderstood in some way - we value you as a family friend but this was a business arrangement. I’m happy to come to yours to collect the remaining £xxx. I don’t know what got into mum! More than happy to work with you again”

In future leave your mum out of it, message the lady saying she owes you the difference and sorry for any misunderstanding and tell your mum to kindly stay out of your business. You need to have a few awkward conversations/email exchanges at times to advocate for yourself or you're going to feel ripped off.

I did.

she is not replying.

she left me on read