Mother told her friend she doesnt have to pay me?

[Imacelebritygotit]

I do translating/admin e.g appointments, filling out forms. Work stuff on the side

My mums friend heard i do this and hired me. We agreed on sum etc

I did 3.5 hours work

She then tells me she will give the money when she sees my mum the next day, i agree

My mother then goes "omg guess how much she paid you!!!" "I said no, no, no, no! You are a friend!!!! Absolutely no need to pay that much!!! Wtf!!! 10 pound is fine!!! But she insisted she pays you the agreed amount!!!!! Said treat it as a gift then. But then i insisted and said 10 pound is fine!!!! Trust me!

Explaining to her is useless she just keeps going She is a friend!!! You cant charge her like other people!!!/anyone else!! How can you be so money hungry and greedy!!!

Am i right to be angry about this! I mean this woman is not my friend, i barely know her. And it was like 4 hours work!!!

Edit: oh and now im getting texts from this woman saying she was very happy with such a good price, what a nice person i am and how others she hired "take advantage and over charge". And she wants to hire me again for same price!

So your mum wants to play big woman at yoyr expense?? No way. Tell her she is owe you the shortfall.

Maybe try to rephrase it with your mum - mum, do you think I should be paid £3 an hour? That's what my time, energy and skills are worth and any sort of way of paying my bills?
Peg it on something equivalent if you can eg. That was 6 months car tax that's due and I thought I had covered but now have to find elsewhere.

Don’t agree at all. The customer was happy to pay the price quoted by the OP and knows it wasn’t changed by the OP.

Tell her there’s been a misunderstanding and she owes X amount to you as £10 does not cover 3.5 hours work. She can drop the cash to you. Send her a quote for any further work and ask her to confirm if she accepts your quote. Then invoice her when the work is completed. Tell her this is your professional business and she is to deal directly with you. Tell your mum to stay out of it.

Wha is it you actually did, your paying tax on this? Your filling out forms for people for a
business?

How rude. I work in academic skills and comms so it's important to write correctly in that context. However on my personal social media or mumsnet I couldn't give a toss about writing 'properly'. It's an informal arena, it doesn't matter. Why did you feel the need to pick up the poster here?

next time you send bank details and get paid directly

I stopped doing any of these things because you give an hand and people just end up yanking your whole arm out.

My DM and DB always pressured me into translating stuff for my (now ex)SIL and it escalated to the point of pages and pages and pages and even contracts. It was neverending. We were friendly enough but not close or anything, she’d never message me outside of when she needed something.

Now I just say I’m busy as a blanket rule, unless it’s something really serious.

I am wondering whether the mother has taken the cash that the friend gave her in the envelope. Ie the friend did pay in full, and is now unsure why she is being text for full payment.

I think I’d go low/no contact with the mother going forward.

Could it be possible your mum opened the envelope after the lady had gone and it’s actually your mum who has took the money and left you with £10?

Lady still hasn’t replied smh

also my mom texts me saying she doesn’t have the money to pay for it. And it wouldn’t kill me to give her good friend a discount. Got a paragraph how greedy and money hungry I am too not wanting to help out “family friends”

You ask her for the balance. The contract was with you.She knows damn well that your mum was not a party to it and doesn't have the capacity to vary the price.

Op could your mums friend know that your mum wouldn’t have taken the money that’s why she offered to pass it to her instead of you also your mum is a bitch.

How much did you charge?

That would have been the expectation, but the woman doesn't 'do' online banking.

Although most people who don't embrace standard modern banking usually would have a cheque book close to hand at all times... as they know that, whatever method you use, you do have to actually pay for stuff!

Wow, being undersold by your own Mum! I'd be furious. Tell your Mum that she either needs to get the rest of the money off her friend or pay it to you herself. What is it with Mums thinking just because THEY are friends with someone, you are too?

I would reply
"If its so much money that you can't afford to treat your friend to it, that means its too much money for your daughter to lose. This is earnings from my hard work, which pays my bills."

Your Mum can pay the difference - she should
have stayed out of it @Imacelebritygotit

She is your old mum I’m afraid and what she says goes. She gave you life appreciate it.

Send an invoice to your mother. Seriously. See if she feels as generous to her friends if it's her own money at stake.

That's not how it works. When you create another person out of thin air without their consent, it's you who owes them, not vice versa.

I haven't read the whole thread so ignore if this has been covered,

Did you create a direct agreement with your customer?

Family members can be awful about work-based and professional interactions.

Huh, I hadn't even thought of this.

Just send her an invoice. Not sure why you didn't do this initially. The moment it is cash in hand via your mum, is the moment it starts to feel less professional and more like a favour.

Your mums back pedalling and trying to save face.
Im guessing this is cash in hand and your not declaring it or you would have just given her an invoice