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To suspect police are worried about vigilantes - Epsom attack

851 replies

ReadingCrimeFiction · 14/04/2026 16:19

I live relatively close to Epsom and so this appalling assault is all over my news feeds and social media.

BBC News - Town left in shock by appalling rape outside church
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c8dl5yevjg9o

The police have asked for witnesses but no descriptions have been given. Cue lots of very disturbing posts and comments from people who very clearly think these men are not white.

I can think of half a dozen scenarios where this is not being disclosed but, based on the comments, I think it all comes down to fears that local communities will take it on themselves to "apprehend" anyone who even vaguely looks like the perpetrators? And while the comments I am seeing are mostly white people being disgusting in their assumptions about brown and black people, i can imagine police would he equally concerned if, for example, the woman was Asian or Black and her attackers were white.

Is this where we are at? Where people make horrible racist assumptions and/or where police have to worry about how they will protect the broader community if they give any details of criminals?

A church built with stone. There is a sign in front of the building.

Epsom left in shock by appalling rape outside church

Helen Maguire says she is "appalled" by the incident outside Epsom Methodist Church on Saturday.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c8dl5yevjg9o

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IamRedCrossnotJesus · 16/04/2026 15:25

EasternStandard · 16/04/2026 15:10

What common factor is there for the treatment of women and girls in Afghanistan?

Powerful groups of men imposing a very extreme version of a mainstream religion on the rest of the population?

snowymarbles · 16/04/2026 15:26

@Another2Catsits nothing to do with flags outside town halls is it - its people putting flags up on every sodding lamppost just because they are showing how ‘patriotic’ they are…..

NiftyBlueRobin · 16/04/2026 15:26

PrettyDamnCosmic · 16/04/2026 15:18

There is no such thing as "race". Describing someone as "Asian" is so unspecific as to be almost totally meaningless. Is this "Asian" a Bangladeshi? Kashmiri Muslim? Indian Hindu? Sri Lankan Tamil? Thai Buddhist? Rohingya Muslim? Japanese? etc etc etc

How granular should reports of crimes be broken down by ethnicity? Black/Brown/White/Other is useless. Monitoring crimes by citizenship of the perpetrator is probably more useful than ethnicity.

Yes I agree it's unspecific, that's why my original post said record ethnicity, not race.

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 15:26

IamRedCrossnotJesus · 16/04/2026 15:25

Powerful groups of men imposing a very extreme version of a mainstream religion on the rest of the population?

No joke, this is why I avoid going to some parts of the US now.

Abitofalark · 16/04/2026 15:28

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 14:33

It is really disgusting that people want to prove something about 'British men' vs 'migrant men' and rapes.
Does the behaviour of British men in other countries count? Like Thailand and Morocco? How about white allies doing war crimes, are they welcome here?
What makes a man 'unBritish'? How many generations settled here? Religion? Looks?
Have you factored in whether war-traumatised men or men from violent homes (including British) behave differently?

I'd say it counts, since we have laws which provide for prosecution in the UK for various offences, including violent and sexual offences, committed by British people abroad (even if not classed as a crime in the overseas country).

We've had that for centuries in the case of murder and manslaughter but it has been extended to sexual and other offences, including under the Criminal Justice and Immigration Act 2008 and the Domestic Abuse Act 2021.

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 15:30

Abitofalark · 16/04/2026 15:28

I'd say it counts, since we have laws which provide for prosecution in the UK for various offences, including violent and sexual offences, committed by British people abroad (even if not classed as a crime in the overseas country).

We've had that for centuries in the case of murder and manslaughter but it has been extended to sexual and other offences, including under the Criminal Justice and Immigration Act 2008 and the Domestic Abuse Act 2021.

Edited

I wish that these laws were highlighted and enforced...
(A quick look at MN threads on stag dos will show they are not sufficiently...)

inkognitha · 16/04/2026 15:34

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 15:26

No joke, this is why I avoid going to some parts of the US now.

You re whatabouting about victims of rape and now the plight of women in Afghanistan, could you be less crass please?
Your political biases are blinding you.

JHound · 16/04/2026 15:36

“Unfortunately at this stage, we still do not have sufficient information to release the descriptions of the suspects. However, we are continuing to work with the victim, who is being supported by a specialist Sexual Offences Liaison Officer through the process, to progress these enquiries.”

This is fair. You want descriptions that are actually useful.

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 15:37

inkognitha · 16/04/2026 15:34

You re whatabouting about victims of rape and now the plight of women in Afghanistan, could you be less crass please?
Your political biases are blinding you.

No, I seriously have restricted US work travel and seeing friends.

I also am asking for joined-up thinking regarding VAWG (MN stag do threads are excellent evidence of 'packs' of British men going after women). And regarding national complicity and accountability.

Vigilantism and prejudice are not British values.

MaturingCheeseball · 16/04/2026 15:40

@OtterDoBetter do you believe “cultural misunderstandings/differences” is an acceptable defence in sexual assault cases? Because this has been used in several cases recently, eg woman raped in a London hospital by a patient. If you were a jury member would you consider this defence valid?

JHound · 16/04/2026 15:41

BluebellShmoobell · 16/04/2026 14:10

I watched a woman on YouTube recently who used to work in msm and is still a journalist and knows her stuff says this government will not allow the media to give descriptions of terrible crimes if the perpetrators are non white basically because of unrest and upsetting the narrative that diversity is our strength.
Remember when the guy in Liverpool hit the crowd in his car the fact he was white came out immediately.

This is a barefaced lie.

www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/metropolitan-police_uk_603fa18ec5b617a7e411ffc5

JHound · 16/04/2026 15:42

MaturingCheeseball · 16/04/2026 15:40

@OtterDoBetter do you believe “cultural misunderstandings/differences” is an acceptable defence in sexual assault cases? Because this has been used in several cases recently, eg woman raped in a London hospital by a patient. If you were a jury member would you consider this defence valid?

If I were a jury member I would be more likely to find them guilty for using such a nonsensical and knowingly false “excuse”.

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 15:42

MaturingCheeseball · 16/04/2026 15:40

@OtterDoBetter do you believe “cultural misunderstandings/differences” is an acceptable defence in sexual assault cases? Because this has been used in several cases recently, eg woman raped in a London hospital by a patient. If you were a jury member would you consider this defence valid?

This is not a good faith question and derails the OP's thread. I refuse to engage, or to be insulted.

To return to the OP's question, I have some confidence in police procedure, and think that the 24/7 news cycle leads to too much entitlement from people who want to take the law into their own hands. I am not a fan of anarchy.

Duvetdayneeded · 16/04/2026 15:43

It does seem to be the case to say immediately that the offender/s is white but they don’t or can’t if they aren’t….

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 15:44

I wonder if the police do town halls or outreach or training days for ordinary citizens to understand how they work? Might help. I would sign up.

EasternStandard · 16/04/2026 15:46

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 15:26

No joke, this is why I avoid going to some parts of the US now.

No it’s not a joke. I agree with pp.

Everanewbie · 16/04/2026 15:47

MaturingCheeseball · 16/04/2026 15:40

@OtterDoBetter do you believe “cultural misunderstandings/differences” is an acceptable defence in sexual assault cases? Because this has been used in several cases recently, eg woman raped in a London hospital by a patient. If you were a jury member would you consider this defence valid?

Playing this card in defence of a crime is just the worst.

It is either an admission that the culture in question are disgusting, or it besmirches a culture with them daring to blame their crimes on good people.

Neither is mitigation. Its aggravation if anything.

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 15:50

ReadingCrimeFiction · 14/04/2026 16:19

I live relatively close to Epsom and so this appalling assault is all over my news feeds and social media.

BBC News - Town left in shock by appalling rape outside church
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c8dl5yevjg9o

The police have asked for witnesses but no descriptions have been given. Cue lots of very disturbing posts and comments from people who very clearly think these men are not white.

I can think of half a dozen scenarios where this is not being disclosed but, based on the comments, I think it all comes down to fears that local communities will take it on themselves to "apprehend" anyone who even vaguely looks like the perpetrators? And while the comments I am seeing are mostly white people being disgusting in their assumptions about brown and black people, i can imagine police would he equally concerned if, for example, the woman was Asian or Black and her attackers were white.

Is this where we are at? Where people make horrible racist assumptions and/or where police have to worry about how they will protect the broader community if they give any details of criminals?

OP, I understand your concerns about horrible reactions 💐💐💐

Hoardasurass · 16/04/2026 15:50

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 15:02

I am just trying to understand what makes Men of a Culture not rapey. Or what makes A Culture not rapey if it is mostly celebs, police officers, people abroad, etc.

The way they treat women.
If you are taught that any unaccompanied woman is fair game, or that women not dressed in your cultures clothing are prostitutes, or that women are property, or thats its acceptable to rape non believers in your faith its a good bet that those men will rape without any care or regard towards the laws of the country they have moved to.

If men are taught that rape is wrong, that a woman's body is not mens property and rapists are prosecuted even when they rape their wives and to respect women then the majority wont rape.

Not all cultures are equal and some quite frankly are dangerous and shouldn't be in this country

JHound · 16/04/2026 15:51

Everanewbie · 16/04/2026 15:47

Playing this card in defence of a crime is just the worst.

It is either an admission that the culture in question are disgusting, or it besmirches a culture with them daring to blame their crimes on good people.

Neither is mitigation. Its aggravation if anything.

Exactly this. Either your culture is trash or (more likely given the case this is referring to) you are throwing your entire culture under the bus to try and get away with a crime. Rape is a crime everywhere (marital rape being the one exception.)

IamRedCrossnotJesus · 16/04/2026 15:51

Duvetdayneeded · 16/04/2026 15:43

It does seem to be the case to say immediately that the offender/s is white but they don’t or can’t if they aren’t….

Edited

This is simply untrue. For example the morning after the Huntingdon train stabbings, the police released details of the suspect:

https://www.btp.police.uk/news/btp/news/england/updated-statement-following-incident-at-huntingdon-station---cambridgeshire/

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 15:52

sigh people do not emerge from a kind of jelly mould in the shape of a 'culture'

JHound · 16/04/2026 15:54

Cyclebabble · 16/04/2026 12:16

I am ethnically Indian. The environment we are now living in is becoming quite toxic and dangerous. My wider family are experiencing considerably more racism when they are out and about and my kids (early 20s and half Indian/English) were recently questioned as to what they were doing here in their local Morrisons (the town has a hotel which was then housing asylum seekers). Any criminal act by anyone not white is being used now to create an impression that communities are under siege by anyone who does not look like them. The data does not in any way support this and my family have lived here, paid taxes and contributed via the NHS for over forty years. We live in dangerous times and it is getting worse.

So sorry your family is having to deal with this. It’s weird to think I am being catapulted back to the Britain my parents experienced as children.

The collective blame thing especially is bonkers.

JHound · 16/04/2026 15:54

IamRedCrossnotJesus · 16/04/2026 15:51

This is simply untrue. For example the morning after the Huntingdon train stabbings, the police released details of the suspect:

https://www.btp.police.uk/news/btp/news/england/updated-statement-following-incident-at-huntingdon-station---cambridgeshire/

Exactly.

But people want their feelings to be true no matter how demonstrably false they are.

JHound · 16/04/2026 15:55

Duvetdayneeded · 16/04/2026 15:43

It does seem to be the case to say immediately that the offender/s is white but they don’t or can’t if they aren’t….

Edited

This is a lie.