Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

[Tomcdonaldaornot]

Hey mn!
I have just read some other posters complaining about their partners wow there seems to be a lot. I don't want that to cloud my judge ie being angry on their behalf and therefore my dh is wrong.
So I am asking here.
My baby who is 9months woke at 830am and hasn't napped today. She fought her last two naps and I have wasted an hr each time trying to get baby to nap. She usually naps but the last few days she seems more active. With no naps I have found it really impacts my night when baby doesn't nap, she has a bad night. So I have gotten ready. Dh who works from home popped downstairs and asked how day is going. I said its been full on she hasnt napped! He looked at her and said "cheeky" she laughed!
I said I was going a drive as she will nap in the car. I said I was thinking of getting a Starbucks via drive thru so I am not just driving around. At least it'll give me a destination! Then I thought ohh i could get a McDonald's! That'll sort my dinner out. Baby will nap in car. Dh then told me that was weird. I'm a grown women. And then.... wait for it... what about him? I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no. I then laughed and said you are a grown man I'm sure you can sort dinner. He stormed away saying "dont treat me like a child!".
Am i wrong?! He has never acted like this!!!!!!
What would you do??

He's practising gaslighting and such. Like they said on his incel podcast 😂😂😂 Absolute c**t.

Kindly, you’re the one that sounds very deranged.

Perhaps MN is not the right place for you to be on if you lack basic comprehension skills.

Honestly he sounds like a dick. I'm a SAHM, my husband works and if I've had a busy day or a shit day(child has additional needs) I might tell him I'm not cooking and he'll happily sort himself out. If he ever had a strop about it I wouldn't be impressed. You're not there to "serve" your husband
As for the baby snacks I would be absolutely livid.

I'd be saying something like: you selfish fucking prick.
If you think I'm cooking for you any time soon you can think again, you lazy fucking arsehole.

Sorry your DP acted so appallingly, and then followed it up with another mantrum.

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My vagina would be clamping itself shut at this point.

He was upset to be offered a 'pity McDonald's', imagine how upset he'll be to not even be offered a pity fuck! 😂

He just came down stairs and asked if I still wasn't speaking with him. I have told him if he eats baby snacks to punish me again its over. He said I have blown this whole thing out of proportion and said I am threatening to end the relationship over him eating pastries I said no its everything else and listed it all out. He said he wont be threatened and said he needs space and might go to the local hotel. I said okay, have fun! He was shocked and said "you want me to go? You dont care do you". I said you do what you want that is what caused all of this. He now keeps saying oh so you would let me leave and not stop me. Well yes, its your choice.

Yeah he definitely needs to do this!

What a selfish man child literally taking food from a baby. His baby!

Bloody love a Maccy Ds OP! This is exactly the kind of thought process I'd have had with my non napping DC. DH isn't a fan and prefers his own home cooked food - which is fine by me as he cooks it! But your man child is a selfish arse who needs to make amends by cooking a new batch.

Im just bored of this whole thing now. Why cant he just apologise? Anyway, bedtime looming soon. The mcds was nice. Next time definitely starbucks. Next time me and baby are out and about i am keeping my money and not buying him anything. Grateful twat.

God he is relentless!!

He’s not going to stop until you’re apologising and saying you were in the wrong.

Well done for staying strong.

He acted like a childish twat and all he has to do is apologise.

So he punished you by eating the babe's snacks, got called out, had another tantrum & then threatened to leave, & when that didn't have the desired effect of making you panic about losing this amazing man 🙄 he's now trying to frame it as you still being the problem here? Yeah, F that.

And there it is" You would let me leave and not try to stop me?!"

Knew he would give himself away and he did!

You are supposed to chase and beg, and you are not doing that. the only thing he hasnt done is wail "BUT WHAT ABOUT MEEEEEEEEEE?!!!!!!"

Another threat to keep you in your place.

Yet another thread that makes me glad I am single. It's hard enough coping with a restless baby who when all is said and done is just being a baby but throw a whingeing man into the mix who can and should know and behave better and things must feel so much worse. He should be supporting the OP and as for eating the baby's snacks, words fail me!

A lot of people dont understand how abuse can start in pregnancy/early days of parenthood, and how it wasnt spotted beforehand. Its because pre baby he didnt feel threatened and forgotten about, but once baby is here he isnt the prince anymore so abuse starts insidiously and this is how it happens.

Some men will push and push to be the priority until the woman backs down, and then he knows the level to get to to get his own way. But then that stops working, so he has to ramp it up and so and so on until she is a shell, the kids are traumatised and she has (in my own case) expert knowledge on how to disguise bruises.

Now I am not suggesting for one second that @Tomcdonaldaornot husband is going to do that, but there are plenty of red flags in his behaviour now that make it a possibility.

OP, stand your ground, you have done absolutely nothing wrong. You're caring for your baby, sleep deprived, seeking refuge in McD, absolutely fine. I'm gobsmacked at your fecking useless DH reaction. Fair enough if you'd walzed in with a bag of goodies after a day child free without anything for him. He's acting like a child, he's put out you're not putting him first. I'm sure this isn't the first time he's shown his true colours.

He really does sound like a twat. Trying to push your buttons, and failing every time, and getting more frustrated with each failure.

Soon he'll be saying it's all your fault because you never want to have sex...

I'd be packing his bag for him ... maybe a couple of nights away will make him realise just how badly he has behaved.

Feel so sorry for all these women on here who think marriage must mean resigning themselves to never being able to think about dinner just as an individual again in their life. Sounds so boring and burdensome. Aim for more, Ladies !

Oh and this man sounds very greedy and gluttonous eating ten pastries in one go. How unattractive. Ick

I’d get that McDonald’s and enjoy it and let him get on with his tantrum

Well done you, I hope you really enjoyed it. Shame about the manchild though. What a big baby.

What a petty self centred baby with a nasty streak to boot. Is your mum close by? Maybe baby and you can go there to dinner today. You can tell him I’ll be remaking the food for the baby that you ate in your child ish fit so mum is cooking for me and baby tonight, you’re on your own again, if you eat any thing else that’s for your child I will be asking you to leave in a don’t come back way. I’m not your house slave because I look after our baby and if you’re going to be a terrible dad and bad partner then why would I want you here? Other women’s partners come home and cook dinner for the family, you refuse to even feed yourself (mine comes home and cooks, I know lots who do!)

He sounds like a stupid, selfish, lazy, slobbish, controlling, sexist manchild and I would 100% leave him. What a disgusting human being. I am seething on your behalf. Please dont cook for him again. He's treating you like a slave.

We are all going to be bitterly disappointed with you OP if you cook him dinner after all this

Get mackies again 😈

Omg I missed this post.

He couldn’t think of what to make for tea at 5pm?!

Many people come home from work at 10pm and cool a quick meal!

Op, do stop cooking for him. Or tell him he either cooks half of all meals or he can sort himself out from now on.