Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

[Tomcdonaldaornot]

Hey mn!
I have just read some other posters complaining about their partners wow there seems to be a lot. I don't want that to cloud my judge ie being angry on their behalf and therefore my dh is wrong.
So I am asking here.
My baby who is 9months woke at 830am and hasn't napped today. She fought her last two naps and I have wasted an hr each time trying to get baby to nap. She usually naps but the last few days she seems more active. With no naps I have found it really impacts my night when baby doesn't nap, she has a bad night. So I have gotten ready. Dh who works from home popped downstairs and asked how day is going. I said its been full on she hasnt napped! He looked at her and said "cheeky" she laughed!
I said I was going a drive as she will nap in the car. I said I was thinking of getting a Starbucks via drive thru so I am not just driving around. At least it'll give me a destination! Then I thought ohh i could get a McDonald's! That'll sort my dinner out. Baby will nap in car. Dh then told me that was weird. I'm a grown women. And then.... wait for it... what about him? I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no. I then laughed and said you are a grown man I'm sure you can sort dinner. He stormed away saying "dont treat me like a child!".
Am i wrong?! He has never acted like this!!!!!!
What would you do??

Extraordinary tantrum - strange behaviour from a supposed adult and not a good example for a child if repeated when your infant is older. I wouldn’t have much respect for a person who acted this way. You say he’s not usually like this - you mean pre your maternity leave?

It may be that he now sees you as subservient to him and a housemaid while he is working and you’re not. Needless to say maternity leave is to take care of the child, not daddy. Perhaps he’s got a little used to you catering to him. Perhaps he resents what he sees as your freedom to go out and eat instead of staying home. Maybe he’s just a misogynist which is starting to show now you’re not working.

Look after yourself.

A Pity McDonald's 😆 that's a new invention! He's a drama queen & needs to stop picking a fight over nothing. Glad you enjoyed don't let him stop you enjoying treats 😁 xx

Yet he made it into such a big meal deal.

I've not read all of the posts but for those saying OP should have offered to get hubby food, couldn't it be swung the other way that he could have offered to take the baby out in the first place?

His punishment of you by eating the babys food is highly abusive and controlling.

I consider it extremely sinister behaviour and a huge red flag.

I 💯 agree with your mum, he’s being a wanker. If you had gone to McDonalds and NOT offered to get him anything he would still be the wanker in this scenario. Going to work is a vacation compared to childcare at this age. In fact if he’s not walking in the door after work carrying supper for you at least once a week and immediately taking the baby off you for a solid hour EVERY day for you to spend by yourself he is a twat of massive proportions and please don’t have any more children with him.

God, I think my own DH is a twat if he asks me what’s for supper too many times in a row as if it’s somehow my job to decide 😂

Spot on.

This made me laugh so much 😂 nearly as much a pity mcdonalds xx

Jesus! Did you marry a teenager? What a child.

Omg he is a total wanker. Sorry OP :( has he always been this awful?

What an absolute arsehole.
You've had a rough day, you're allowed a Mc Donalds!
If he doesn't want any, he can - surely - sort out a meal of his own. There must be something to eat in the house?!
He ate the baby snacks you made to punish you, which has clearly worked.

Imo, if this is the height of your problems in life, you are doing absolutely fandabydosy 🏆
Well done 👋

What a complete prick he is. Absolutely pathetic behaviour. I'm sorry OP.

Sorry, I sound deranged???

He had a tantrum, ate his own childs food to punish the OP instead of actually cooking something and then had ANOTHER tantrum when called out on it.

And SHE is deranged?

Right....ok then.

@Tomcdonaldaornot I love your mum. Really fancy some spicy nuggets now. Your husband is an arse.

I know 😂 what did I do

You absolutely do not sound deranged. Ignore.

So have you told him you expect him to make a new batch of pastries for the baby?

He will have something to moan about then.

We havent spoken since he stormed upstairs.

"Kindly" stop that

Dont chase, dont fawn, you didnt cause the upset - dont try to fix it. Let him sulk

What a POS he is.

I would go nuclear at this. Massive punishment because you don't bloody cook for him. What is he? Two?

This. And don't even contemplate cooking a thing for him until he's knocked this infantile shit off AND done all the cooking himself for at least a couple of days.