Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

[Tomcdonaldaornot]

Hey mn!
I have just read some other posters complaining about their partners wow there seems to be a lot. I don't want that to cloud my judge ie being angry on their behalf and therefore my dh is wrong.
So I am asking here.
My baby who is 9months woke at 830am and hasn't napped today. She fought her last two naps and I have wasted an hr each time trying to get baby to nap. She usually naps but the last few days she seems more active. With no naps I have found it really impacts my night when baby doesn't nap, she has a bad night. So I have gotten ready. Dh who works from home popped downstairs and asked how day is going. I said its been full on she hasnt napped! He looked at her and said "cheeky" she laughed!
I said I was going a drive as she will nap in the car. I said I was thinking of getting a Starbucks via drive thru so I am not just driving around. At least it'll give me a destination! Then I thought ohh i could get a McDonald's! That'll sort my dinner out. Baby will nap in car. Dh then told me that was weird. I'm a grown women. And then.... wait for it... what about him? I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no. I then laughed and said you are a grown man I'm sure you can sort dinner. He stormed away saying "dont treat me like a child!".
Am i wrong?! He has never acted like this!!!!!!
What would you do??

Yeah - think on about what your mum said. It won’t be just this either. She knows.

FWIW - 💯 knobber

Yes exactly - he is punishing you. What a horrible man.

I gather from the deletions someone didn't read the op properly, jumped in to give op a kicking, got it pointed out they'd missed something and they decided to double down instead of admitting they'd got it wrong.

OP, absolutely nothing wrong with a McDonald's and a few minutes peace. If he resents that for you, he's being a twat.

I wouldn’t be able to look at his smug baby-snack eating face let alone kiss it.

How can you stand it, OP?

Please make a big deal of this. It’s a watershed moment in your relationship. If he really isn’t like this usually then he needs to see how you won’t tolerate this controlling, nasty behaviour.
I know it may seem extreme but I’d ask him to leave for at least night to give you time to think and him to see how serious this is.
If you minimise this, or allow him to, then it sets your relationship on a different, unpleasant trajectory.

What a selfish, pathetic child he is. Ick.

Keep an eye on his behaviour - I don’t like where it’s going, it’s starting to feel controlling when he doesn’t get his own way

I mean, there is that.

I'm sorry OP. He's made no sense whatsoever, he stropped because you were getting McDonalds and that's not fair but he refused you bringing him some, he stropped because the Poor Little Grown Man wouldn't have time to make himself dinner (if only there were easy and quick meals that a grown man could make himself like beans on toast, or an offer of a take-away meal being hand delivered by his dedicated wife...), and then he has the audacity to not only eat all of your baby's handmade food, but to Perform a Complaint about how awful it is that a Grown Up Manbaby should be driven to such lengths as to eat pastries for dinner.

I sincerely hope that the Grown Up Man Baby is busy with work tonight because I sure as shit wouldn't want to be spending any quality time with him.

That is a really nasty, spiteful thing to do. He threw a tanty for some absolutely bizarre reason, (a "pity" McDonalds? He cannot be for real) and then ate everything you made for your baby on purpose?

I'm willing to believe he's ok most of the time, but what a selfish, spiteful, hateful thing to do to "get back" at you for a completely imagined slight.

I agree with others. This is something to make a big deal of.

Yes it’s worrying. Starting to sound like he’s getting irritated that you are not sufficiently servicing his childish needs and he’s punishing you for putting baby and your own sanity before him. He should be supporting you, not acting up. Don’t let him get away with it. Seems your mum might be on to something.

I don't know if I'd go as far as asking him to spend the night elsewhere but I agree that OP should come down HARD on this behaviour. It's absolutely NOT acceptable.

And he needs to remake the baby's snacks tonight. Yes including buying the pastry if there is none in the freezer.

OP you need to go in guns blazing. No conversation, no back and forth. Tell him his behaviour is fucking childish and unacceptable and deeply unattractive. Tell him he needs to sort himself out, and that it has to happen immediately. Tell him if he ever acts this way again, the marriage is over.

And mean it.

If he gets away with it this time, that just encourages him to do similar things in future, because he thinks he's found a way to control and punish you. Let him know in no uncertain terms that this is the last time he ever gets to do this to you. Next time, it's over.

Just read your updates, OP. What an absolutely pathetic excuse for a man he is. His petty “retaliation” and being seemingly incapable of making his own dinner would give me the instant ick.

You have done nothing wrong, and I hope you’re okay.

This thread is insane. Half of it’s been deleted

Two babies you've got there, OP. (I'd love to hear his explanation of how you're "treating him like a child" by asking him to, er, act like an adult, by feeding himself). "Nor prepared for this"? Like the place was on fucking fire or something? Give me strength.

If you don't make sure he makes a proper, balanced dinner for you both tomorrow, you're a doormat. Personally I'd make him re-bake the baby treats. You do anything for yourself, ask him to do anything for himself, or stand up to him in any way, and he punishes not only you but your child? Literally taking the baby's food? Make it very, very clear that this is totally unacceptable and must NEVER happen again.

If it was the other way around, you’d be furious! If you’re too tired to cook (and I don’t blame you) you either ask if he can cook or you suggest getting you both a take away, not just one of you. If he acted the way you did, they’d be an uproar.

You’re insane 😂

I completely agree.

This wasn’t just a normal argument that all couples have, this was vindictive, punishing behaviour that he escalated and carried on.

I am not one to usually be over dramatic but there is something very nasty and spiteful underlying and I can imagine that OP is going to see more of this behaviour.

Sorry to de-rail the thread but please can I have the recipe or a link as your apple and cinnamon pastries sound delicious!!! (Shamefully hangs head......)

Your mother has the measure of him.
Well done for telling her.

Imagine eating your babys special made food.

He's like a lot of man child men that simply cannot cope with being displaced by a baby in priorities.

He is a sad little man.

Get back to work and keep your family and friends close.

When you marry a loser, you really need them.

Did you get the mini eggs mcflurry me and partner are eating one now the kids are in bed its bloody gorgeous

That took a turn. That’s so sad and it’s psychological/emotional abuse. He’s trying to control you by punishing you.

it’s very childish.

If you would get mad about your wife who has been looking after your baby non-stop all day fancying getting a McDonalds while she took the kid for a drive to finally get them to nap, and then offering to get you one, you're just as pathetic and insane as the tosser she's married to.

You need to go in hard on this.

A "Grown man" who apparently cant cook himself something?

I agree that it was definitely to punish you, as evidenced by his reaction when you called him out on it. Keep an eye on this, he has relegated you to an appliance and today you reminded him that you are not in fact a white good, there to provide food and childcare and sex.

I suspect that going in hard with your utter disgust and anger will be the only way you will get the message across.....that and going out for dinner every night for the next two weeks without him and the baby.

Exactly this, well said Wrongthinker.

So cross on your behalf, OP, please don't let this slide. He needs to realise he has to step up now he has a child, not sulk when his wifebot fails to meet his every need. 💐