AIBU to feel miffed that SIL refused Easter eggs?!

[ShabbyChic999]

In the scheme of things this is not a major problem but I'm curious to know what you ladies think.....!!!
I got lovely unicorn Thorntons eggs for DH little nieces but at the last minute my in laws went away for Easter so we hadn't dropped the eggs to them. We tried to make an arrangement to drop over since they got back but when i mentioned we had eggs for the girls my SIL said to keep them ourselves and that they had enough chocolate. Again I know it's not a major deal, I just felt a bit flat as was excited to give them and see their faces. I know kids have all eaten too much chocolate at this stage but I just think now they'll think we didn't get them any egg! Curious to know if you think she's being too fussy or has a point?

I could never be so rude! I’d just tell the kids they’d had enough chocolate so it could go in the cupboard for next week. I’d be miffed too.

Meh. Just eat them yourself. They probably won't give it a second thought. Many kids only get eggs from mum, dad and grandparents anyway

Yeah, that's rude AF!

This is totally irrelevant but I bought one of those eggs after Easter and they don’t have any inner foil wrapping so most of the chocolate had gone all white.

I get what she is feeling because my heart sinks with the amount of eggs the kids are given and then I have to make sure they don’t eat ridiculous amounts of chocolate.

but yes she was being rude. And it is not fair on you.

Yes I have teens now and also remember with smallies that there's so much chocolate but I would put some away and dole it out gradually if there was too much and say "this was from x etc"

You seem very set on your nieces knowing they were given eggs by you, OP. I honestly don’t think small children think in those terms: ‘Boo, nasty Auntie Sarah didn’t give us eggs this year!’

It's very dismissive of the effort and cost but ultimately I'd let it go at this point, it is up to her after all. I'd probably have said something to her at the time but don't think it's worth taking up after the fact. I'd just enjoy them myself instead or donate to the food bank,

Next year I think I'd send them something else or only bother if I knew I was definitely seeing them. The kids clearly get plenty so aren't actually missing out, I doubt it's something they'll actually have noticed when they've been busy on holiday and are gifted plenty of eggs.

Chocolate can always be put in a cupboard and eaten later!

I think it's a bit rude to decline when someone has gone to the effort to purchase it but maybe SIL didn't think you would mind (especially if you have an otherwise positive/good relationship?)

Yes if I've spent money on something for someone (and let's face it they're not likely to dislike the Easter egg) then yes I'd want them to have it

Otherwise I may as well have spent that money on something else!

So yes I'd not be happy

Bloody rude, and ungrateful. When the kids are older tell them you bought them eggs, but their mum didn't let them have them 🤣

The problem is that if she's polite about it, then you will give her kids eggs again next year. She clearly has enough chocolate, and doesn't want any more.

Easter eggs aren't like birthday presents where there's an expectation that they should be exchanged. I think she's wise to avoid creating an expectation / tradition in your family where you feel obliged to run around swapping easter eggs.

Well yes, but this is now just another job for her to do, and another argument for her to have with the kids when they see the eggs and want them NOW.

This!

But alternatively, maybe she didn’t want to put you out, or just didn’t fancy having visitors?

The eggs will keep in the fridge and if he wants, that is where SIL can keep them, that fool

She doesn’t want her children to be having more chocolate and that’s fine.

Although I’m struggling to get past the word ‘smallies’ 😳

Rude

Rude and thoughtless ! Absolutely .

I am 100% the person who would do that - I actively tell people please do not give my kids presents, and if you absolutely have to give them something make it books. I find it incredibly stressful that people feel comfortable putting things into my kids lives that i don't want for them.

Plus, chocolate is actively bad for them - I try to keep my (very very young kids) of it almost completely - so it also depends on how much she is like that in general and therefore how much you should have been able to guess she wouldn't be keen. If they are scoffing cake and chocolate all the time as a family its a bit unreasonable, if she is super careful and they barely touch the stuff then its not. It also depends on the ages of the kids. If they were 9 and 10 - its a bit controlling - if they are 3 and 5 its very very reasonable.

Incredibly rude. If she's got too much chocolate for her children then either keep some back or chuck a few of the eggs in the food donation point in the supermarket. I can't abide people being so rude about others doing something nice for their children.

Thoughtless — an offhand remark, perhaps?

Does your SIL often make rude remarks?
I mean, you know her, @ShabbyChic999
Is she normally rude does this just add to the pile or was this out of character?
I hope it was out of character.
I’m sorry.

Why does it need to go in the fridge, chocolate goes really hard in the fridge surely the cupboard is fine

@ShabbyChic999 Could you offer an alternative gift to your nieces? A little toy Easter Bunny or something? So that they know you're thinking of them but isn't adding to the pile of chocolate that is threatening SIL's fragile mentality. Or even some lovely cards?

Really rude.

When mine were small and we had too many we made things like rice crispies cakes. She should accept them and be grateful people care about her offspring.,

Thoughtless because she didn’t acknowledge the gesture. Didn’t say thank you and just dismissed it .