AIBU to feel miffed that SIL refused Easter eggs?!

[ShabbyChic999]

In the scheme of things this is not a major problem but I'm curious to know what you ladies think.....!!!
I got lovely unicorn Thorntons eggs for DH little nieces but at the last minute my in laws went away for Easter so we hadn't dropped the eggs to them. We tried to make an arrangement to drop over since they got back but when i mentioned we had eggs for the girls my SIL said to keep them ourselves and that they had enough chocolate. Again I know it's not a major deal, I just felt a bit flat as was excited to give them and see their faces. I know kids have all eaten too much chocolate at this stage but I just think now they'll think we didn't get them any egg! Curious to know if you think she's being too fussy or has a point?

Unless she told you in advance ‘no Easter eggs please’, then she’s a bit out of order.

It was really rude.

I agree chocolate can always be kept in the cupboard (or if she’s anything like me she could’ve eaten it herself 😂).

I’m wondering if the real reason is that she couldn’t be bothered with visitors so was using that as an excuse to put you off going over?

as much as it was slightly rude it sounds much better than the alternative!

She was rude, just as rude as if she’d said it about a Christmas present. You spent time and money on a gift and she dismissed it. I wouldn’t be impressed by her bad manners.

I am on her side - arranging a handover just for some extra chocolate sounds like too much faff.

Exactly. I'm genuinely surprised so many think she was perfectly ok to say she didn't want them. The fact it's after Easter and that they've already had some chocolate doesn't make it any less rude.

But do you have the same bad manners?

You support bad manners?

It’s very dismissing but I wonder whether she thinks she’s being polite by saying it’s too much trouble on your part. I would be offended and drop them off anyway!

It doesn't sound like they were meeting up just to hand over the eggs, not that this would have made her response more acceptable.

For those who don’t understand what good manners are, you accept a gift graciously. You then, before the next time, politely inform people to please not buy as kids get more than enough already.

That's how I read "We tried to make an arrangement to drop over since they got back"

They are family, trying to arrange a visit with or without an egg needn't be a faff if a mutually convenient day is agreed.

I would put good money on that having happened last year and OP being too unaware to have understood the polite request so SIL had to up the ante to be heard.

No, good manners would’ve been to respect SIL’s decision, just like you would expect others to respect yours.

Not generally.

In this case the OP is doing a song and dance about yet another chocolate and expecting others to join in. Sounds over the top to me.

Very rude but this is why I don't buy Easter eggs now. I get a small chocolate gifts and a little gift like socks, hairs ties, craft stuff. Still not sure why your SIL keep a egg in a cupboard for a few weeks.

I have two Grandchildren ( 5 & 9 ). They always get plenty of chocolate. This year I bought two packs of Easter Haribro - stapled a £10 note on each packet. They can either spend (on something of their own choice) or put the money in their bank.

The OP hasn't mentioned a visit, she mentioned drop off. We don't know what exactly is being discussed, but it sounds to me (and it might sound to the SIL) that the main motivation for a meeting is handing over chocolate.

Your sil is very rude as you had already bought the eggs. The chocolate will still be in date for a few months so she could have handed it to them gradually. If it is the case that she is stopping them from eating treats altogether this will end badly on her because the dc will try to eat junk every opportunity they get.

I have voted YABU because I know some people think the same as this^^ post.

I know a few families who would find it actually very inconsiderate to give something very sugary to their kids.

I am very relaxed about food (especially compared to a lot of people on MN), but I know many parents want to have more restrictions around food and I get it.

It also means I can be relaxed around food as people in my circles tend to be careful about, for example, turning up with a bag of haribo for my kids all the time.

That said, I'd definitely have accepted the eggs and put them away. One friend very politely asked if it was ok to give my kids lindt bunnies weeks ago which it absolutely was. They're still in the cupboard untouched and not because of anything I have said to dcs about not eating it. They just haven't started eating them.

Editing to fix typos

I don’t think she meant to be rude and probably thought of it more as saving you a job. Drop them off anyway.

This is how I feel. Yeah maybe it's rude of her to say no now that the eggs have actually been purchased but if she didn't say anything then maybe you would continue buying chocolate next year as well.
Did they buy your teens eggs when they were little? I know gifts don't have to be reciprocal but I always find it tricky when someone does unexpected gift giving as I feel it puts me under pressure to remember and give them something next time.

For those also saying just put it in the cupboard, not all have a long date. Some eggs we have are til July and if you have a cupboard full already then it's likely to go out of date.
We still have Christmas chocolates on the go in our house!

What does that matter? She was rude.

She could’ve accepted them but not given them to the kids. This is what I used to do 😂

Next year she needs to say ‘please don’t buy chocolate for the children’ in advance.

Maybe she feels that trying to force more chocolate on her children is rude as well?

We don't know the history here.